Hey guys,
I am recently single after being in a long term relationship. I am a bit of a worrier by nature and I have been consumed with fear and paranoia about having sex(even w a condom ,oral def out of the question) with anyone new after my last boyfriend for fear of STDS. My doctor has made me extremely paranoid about stds, which is only magnified by my anxiety issues. I am worried mostly about herpes because it is something my doctor brought up to me recently, and honestly, something I'd never given much thought to before. I am scared to have sex with anyone now, knowing that herpes can be spread through even protected sex. I was unsure if I had ever been tested for herpes and she said unless a sore comes up, theres no real reason to test because the tests can't show the location of the infection anyways. I am scared to have the test done anyways, although I have never had an outbreak or anything similar, because I would be so distraught if i did indeed have herpes. (either kind, im sure...) I have had less than 15 partners in my lifetime (I'm still under 30) but I am still freaked out!!!! So, what should I do? Am i being smart or too overcautious? I stay awake at night thinking about how I can never be close with someone again, because I am just so scared to contract something. I can't keep feeling like this, but I also feel like my fears are kind of justified because of how rampant stds seem to be these days.
It's just frustrating and causing me severe depression. Any advice would help.