Can't deal with it anymore

[jayman1ppu]

I've been told aything from my risk is low to non-exsistent from one sexual encounter and 3 things that invluved kissing, masturbating a girl, betting a hand job, breast kissing and such. But, it just seems too much for me. Sex doesn't even seem worth it. I'm planning on either testing today or tomorrow. And now I'm afraid if it does come back positive for anything (the test will cover the 7 most coomon and harmful STDs).

So, by my luck, if for some bizarre reason I do have something, I can't imagine anyone ever wanting to date me. It's hard enough as it is to get a girl to date you. Anyone I've ever even asked in a hypothetical manner had a response like "ew gross" or "hell no". Granted if it was a bacterial one, it can be cured. But still, if I had one I'd feel compelled not to lie to a partner and tell her about my past.

Any help you guy can suggest would nbe wonderful. And, if you're praying people, please say a prayer for me. In my mental state, I need it.

[auntiejessi]

You aren't even doing counseling in person?

Hon, you need to get over this.  I know its easier said that done, but your counselors and doctors have heard far far more embarrassing things, I promise.  You are not doing yourself any favors here.

Aj

[jayman1ppu]

Thanks.

I'll see which option works best not to have to do it in person.

[auntiejessi]

I gave you a link in another thread about low cost counseling.  You don't have to keep waiting.  

This is the link again -

http://www.alleghenycounty.us/dhs/help.aspx#mentalhealth

And another one - http://humanservices.net/?keyword=mental%20health

[jayman1ppu]

Auntiejessi - I did contact a counselor and we talked once. I can't afford to talk again until after I get paid (last day of the month). We will chat again though, as many times as it takes.

Well I got two vials of blood drawn about an hour ago and peed in a cup. So, I hope to God you guys are right. I'll know Friday. And I'll write back either way.

Vance2335 - the last encounter (only kissing, breast licking/kissing, and us masturbating each other) was the Thursday before last. If there is any chance of me and the girl taking things any further, I'm going to request she have the same work done. She's only had one boyfriend since November and I figure that's more than enough time to be sure. At least according to everyone here. I doubt she'll do it though. If not, I'll just have to find another girl willing to be with me (kind of a strech to begin with) that is OK with testing.

[auntiejessi]

You have had negative tests since then, and you know it.  This is an anxiety issue, not an STD issue.  We have given you all the STD info you need to know that you were not at risk, and from the encounter you had before, you have had negative test results.

I have given you links for where to get low cost counseling.  Have you called them?

We have all tried to help you, and I'm afraid that by continuing these conversations we are feeding your anxiety.  We have a great anxiety forum here you should check out.

Aj

[Vance2335]

skin to skin is different then hand to gential. Skin to skin the are talking about intercourse.

How long ago was your encounter? because some test might not be valid at this time.

[jayman1ppu]

The links all say "skin to skin contact."

I'm taking tests for genital herpes, HPV, syphilis, gonotthea, chlamidya (sorry about spelling),  Hep B, Hep C and HIV.

Going in about 20 minues.

[Vance2335]

The links u provided have nothing to do with what I said hand to gential contact. Your first post today was blind meaning you had limited info on what went on. So we went around for an hour and not getting to the route of the issue.

From protected anal sex you are safe. From oral sex you can get gonorrhea, NGU, herpes or syphilis.

What tests are u going to take?

[jayman1ppu]

Yes. Got oral, gave anal.

Reliable sources that say it (just a few of the many):

http://www.webmd.com/sex/safe-sex-preventing-hiv-aids-stds
http://www.ncsu.edu/health_promotion/Sexuality/saferSex.html
http://www.ashastd.org/learn/learn_statistics.cfm
http://www.avert.org/std.htm

[Vance2335]

Well that is for you to decide but something that happend 2 years ago or 5 years ago (hypothetical) has no impact on what is happeneing now (in the future). Telling somoene you had an STD 5 years ago is not being honest, it's giving info that is not needed. Are you going to tell someone everything like...I picked my nose until I was 12. I wet the bed until I was 3...see what I mean?

What source says that you can get something from hand to gential contact? Your story is not full. So you got oral sex and gave anal sex?

[Vance2335]

Well that is for you to decide but something that happend 2 years ago or 5 years ago (hypothetical) has no impact on what is happeneing now (in the future). Telling somoene you had an STD 5 years ago is not being honest, it's giving info that is not needed. Are you going to tell someone everything like...I picked my nose until I was 12. I wet the bed until I was 3...see what I mean?

What source says that you can get something from hand to gential contact? Your story is not full. So you got oral sex and gave anal sex?

[jayman1ppu]

In the spirit of being an honest person, of having any sort of trust in a relatuionship, I'd feel it my duty to tell her. If I didn't. I'd basiaclly feel like just anither sliezeball.

It's just that even the most reputable sources say you can get things from skin to skin contact. So how could there be no risk? Besides, the first encounter (although I was tested but only a week after) invloved unprotected oral (recieved) and protected anal. Got NGU and was treated. Tested for HIV up to 11.5 weeks. All negative.

But it seems they are so easy to contract. Why else would 40 million plus in the US alone have genital herpes?

I've already odered a test for seven ($249) so I need to go through with it.

[Vance2335]

You did not have a risk period.
Lets say you got gonorrhea (which you could not have) but let's just say you got it and wee cured of it. Why would you tell anyone 2 years down the road about it? It's not like they can get it, it's not like you did anything wrong. People have no business knowing about your past and have no business knowing if you had an STD and were cured of it.
Again you did not have a risk and no need to test. But if you must then test but you did not get an STD from that exposure.