Is there any risk for getting massaged around the private areas?

[mrniceguy1]

Hi there,

I went to a professional massage parlor yesterday and at this place, they usually give you disposable underwear to wear throughout the massage.

However, in the middle of the massage, the masseuse asked me if I wanted to take off the disposable underwear to be more comfortable and I said yes.

She started massaging my lower legs while I was lying down face first and ran her fingers all the way up to my butt-cheeks. Now her fingers would slightly touch my scrotum/penis and slightly run in-between my butt-cheeks as she was going up from my lower legs to my butt-cheeks, this happened multiple times as she was massaging me.

Also, when I turned around and laid down on my back, she would also massage my lower legs and her fingers/hand would run all the way up to my inner thigh and also slightly touch my penis/scrotum. This also happened multiple times.

She also asked me if I wanted a hand job but I declined.

I am just a bit anxious about this that since she did this to me and offered a hand job to me then she probably does it to a lot of clients on a daily basis so just wondering how clean her hands would be and if it would cause anything.

From what I know, this is a completely risk-free activity but I just wanted to make sure from any professional/experienced person so I can have full peace of mind.

Is there any risk whatsoever for any STI's/STD's from this encounter?
Am I completely safe?
Do I need to get tested for anything at all?
Can I just put this behind me and forget it ever happened and just go on with my life if there is no risk at all for anything?

I just want to make sure everything is okay and not have to think about it or think about getting a test if I am fine. I have a bit of anxiety hence why I am probably making an issue out of it on my head.

Thank you so much and please let me know if there is any other additional information you need from me :).

[GuitarRox]

So I see you have NOT gotten any help with your anxiety disorder. You clearly frequent places and participate in activities that dredge up your anxiety. One has to ask why you keep doing it. You've asked many similar questions over time. You've heard the answer I'm about to give you before but still ask for reassurance. Why is that? Because of anxiety. You are making choices to put yourself in situations that you KNOW make you anxious but can't stop yourself for some reason and then anxiety causes you to need reassurance. It's a cycle. A pattern. And it only holds YOU hostage. What's the answer? Discontinuing engaging in these massages or other activities (rolled bills for cocaine) OR get help with anxiety so you can do these activities without the fear cycle you engage in every time. Even if you stop these activities, it is wise to sort out your mental health.

No risk. She touched you. You don't get std's from hands (as we've told you before).

[mrniceguy1]

Thanks for your reply GuitarRox,

Yeah, you are completely right and it is a cycle that needs to end. I will look into reducing my anxiety and put an end to these activities that cause me anxiety.

I am at least glad that I declined the hand job though so I feel I am making progress with my decision making in some ways but yes I fully agree with you and I will put an end to these activities completely and also seek out assistance in becoming more clear-minded.

Thank you so much for your reassurance though that I am completely fine, I will put this behind me and look forward to good things only from now. :)

[GuitarRox]

Your activity really isn't a problem in terms of risk, but your mental health is creating a cycle and pattern that is not of sound mental health. Even with giving up the activities, you should explore ways to combat the mental cycles you go through when anxious. Reassurance seeking is a sign of it and likely, you have other areas that you do this in.  If they have therapy where you are living, that's very helpful.

[mrniceguy1]

Yeah that is a 100% correct. I need to tackle the root cause of it to just enjoy my life without having to enter into meaningless cycles and drain my self like this. I will surely look into therapy or anything that can help me with this. It will be a long process but worth it. In the mean time, Ill try some meditative and relaxing techniques until I find a professional way to tackle this issue. Thank you so much again for your advice and words, it is much appreciated.