Las Vegas STD

[waterboy3]

Here is my story.  I'm a married man (10 years) that screwed up.  I had unprotected sex with two escorts in Vegas.  Both oral and vaginal sex.  I thought I was special or something till they were done and mentioned that they charge extra for that.  Wow, not only special but I might have been the 4th guy that night that was "special".  Needless to say my mind has been going crazy, I don't even want to think of the math and odds that I contracted something.  I think the odds that I did are better than I didn't.  Did I mention that one of the girls ended up being on her period as well, so we shared a lot.  ( I'm sick to my stomach again.)  
I got home and of course my wonderful wife wanted me, so we did it.  I swear I tried not too, short of telling her that I was scared out of my mind.  
I've had no outward signs of anything.  The only sign might be a tingling sensation, not during urination, just in general.  I believe this to be my anxiety.  10 days after I'm with my wife she has a bad yeast infection.  She hasn't had one in years.  I immediately call the doctor.  He tested me for syphilis, chlamydia, and HIV.  I have nothing.  
The yeast infection isn't going away with over the counter medicine.  Now I'm having chest pains, I know not related other than the fact that all this worrying is going to give me a heart attack.  
Do I wait to tell her?  Do I tell her?  What symptoms are like a yeast infection in a woman?  I'm almost convinced I gave her something, but what?
Advice, guidance, an opinion would be great here.  I know it is just that, but I'm really alone in this one.  My mind is killing me.  
Thanks in advance.  

[2terrified]

Good luck with the marriage counseling.

[waterboy3]

follow-up... to the story. Everyone has been tested and is testing clean.  The yeast infection has gone away.  The drama around the situation hasn't.  We aren't in the clear yet, however, it looks like I still really need to wait till April or May to be 100% certain.  
My chest pain has stopped, but the day I told her was without a doubt the worst day in our marriage.  We are going to marriage counseling to see if we should save the marriage or throw it out the window.  
Huge lesson learned here.  I feel great about not keeping it secret, even though it is unfair to hurt another person as badly as I have.  I believe in Karma and this was the best way to deal with a really rotten situation.  Now I have to figure out why it happened and how to prevent it in the future.  
The good news is, today anyway, neither of us has a STD.  Very lucky indeed.  

[waterboy3]

I agree that the anxiety is eating me alive.  It was a tough long weekend.  The plan is to talk today, now that the kids are back to school and she will have some time to digest what I've been able to ponder for weeks now.
So that I know, what is the test for males to determine whether I've contracted trichomonas or not?  I've found the information for females but not males.  Also it has been 15 days post exposure now so is the test for trich good?  
While she thinks her yeast infection is better I can't stand sitting around waiting so I'm going to follow through with telling her that I most likely infected her and if not, at least my conscious will be clear and maybe I will stop thinking, "I'm about to have a heart attack".  
One other thought, you mentioned herpes and syphilis.  It can take up too three months for there to be sign?  Or there might not ever be a sign, just a blood test will tell if I've been exposed?  That scares the living crap out of me.  So even if she takes me back, she has nothing, I still might be a carrier, and won't know for another 3 months?  Hence, I can still infect her even after testing negative this early on.  Geeeez, I think that is what I understood.  
I will keep you posted, it might be tough to type with two broken arms but I will do my best.  I deserve the pain, I don't look forward to it, but I definitely deserve it.

[gracefromHHP]

you had most of your testing done way too early on yourself. You can get tested for gonorrhea and chlamydia a week post encounter. syphilis and hiv anytime after 6 weeks. Herpes anytime after 3 or 4 months.  You will need to continue following up with your provider for proper testing since this was a fairly high risk encounter you engaged in.

Your anxiety and guilt is eating you up inside and causing your chest pain. Odds are it's not going to go away until you've dealt with what happened. either see a therapist/counselor to talk about this or talk to your wife.

grace

[waterboy3]

Thanks, I will keep you posted.  My self imposed terror will continue for at least a couple of more days.  

[2terrified]

In women, it could be found the same way a yeast infection is.  So, most likely, they will find it if it is there.

[waterboy3]

Thank you for your quick response.  I'm inclined to wait till she has finished the otc meds.  Which is tomorrow.  I've read about the trich on here and I'm really afraid that that might be what it is.  Will her gyno, a family friend, which sucks even more, know to check for it or will she just be looking for the obvious ones (stds)?  What if I say nothing?  Will her doctor find it if it is a STD?  I only ask because she / nobody would ever think to test us for that.  Or am I better off telling her, which would destroy the family, so the doctor knows what to look for?  
I'm somewhat rambling and I apologize.  At any rate I'm not doing anything till Monday, so the doctor is open and we can see if her symptoms are getting any better.  

[2terrified]

An std that is not checked for in men is trichomonas.  That gives a discharge, itching, pain during sex like a yeast infection. The discharge would be different.  If it is not going away with OTC treatment, it is time she go to her gynecologist for an exam and alternative treatment options.  Whether you tell her ahead of time or after she possibly gets diagnosed with an std, is up to you.