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Married Monogamous 26 years with STD
I have been married for 26 years and have been monogamous for 28 years. Early in our marriage we had issues with some of his behavior with staying out late and drinking. I had suspicions for 20 years of his commitment, but never had hard evidence. 5 years ago I was diagnosed with Clamydia, Trichimoniasis and Herpes. He was caught and had to admit to a continuing affair at the time and to previous one night stands before this woman. I thought during all this time we had a great sex life. Usually 4 times a week and he was never denied oral sex. I loved him and we had 4 young children. 5 years ago I didn't know what to do and we are Catholic so I decided to stick it out since he wanted to make it work! However, it has been difficult for me at times to risk giving him oral sex I did to show my commitment and that I was trusting him to be faithful after all he had put me through. Also, at that time I knew I didn't want to be in the same position 5 years later. HAha. Here I am again. 2 weeks ago I was feeling bad and went to see my Dr. I have Trichimoniasis again, a growth in the vagina and an abnormal pap smear. My Dr says there is no other way I got this again 5 years later, if I was tested after the treatment and continued the testing for 1 year after and continually saw my gyno with no problems after the initial diagnosis. I have never gotten remotely close or touched someone else even if, over the years he has given me good reason. I have been committed to the marriage even in the hardest of times. Now all the children are over 18 and with this diagnosis my husband is saying he has been faithful in the past 5 years. He is telling me he got this some other way - Bedding while on a trip to Latin America or a towel. I am not stupid but of course I am trying to get my head around it - I really just can't believe it. I need to know the truth and how to counter his explanations of how he and I got this again.
To add insult to injury. I went through my husbands bathroom drawer this weekend since I asked him to leave because of this latest outbreak of Trichomoniasis.
Come to find out he was also treated for Scabies while on a trip to Latin America. He never told me about it but he had been gone for almost two months. At our home we have not had any problems but I rewashed everything in the house anyways. I didn't know this was a sexually transmitted disease. Unless my husband is staying at a brothel - which I doubt, I hve to imagine he is going to some raunchy places. Any comments?
Come to find out he was also treated for Scabies while on a trip to Latin America. He never told me about it but he had been gone for almost two months. At our home we have not had any problems but I rewashed everything in the house anyways. I didn't know this was a sexually transmitted disease. Unless my husband is staying at a brothel - which I doubt, I hve to imagine he is going to some raunchy places. Any comments?
you can be tested both ways. hard to tell the difference between vaginal trich and bowel related trich under the scope :(
http://www.medhelp.org/posts/STDs/Trichomoniasis/show/1119263 is a good prior post about false positive trich issues from the std experts forum.
http://www.medhelp.org/posts/STDs/Trichomoniasis/show/1119263 is a good prior post about false positive trich issues from the std experts forum.
When you say test do mean an actual test or identifying the parasite under a microscope?
hard to tell actually if this is a true std trich related infection or if the testing is picking up on an intestinal trich family infection. there are many good posts on the std experts forum on the false positives for trich that can occur in women. since our anal area is so close to our genitals, bacteria in the stool can contaminate our vagina and cause a false positive. if you have already treated for trich, no easy way to tell the difference.
you know your man, if you aren't sure if he's telling you the truth or not, perhaps some counseling will help you both work through this so you can get accurate answers as to his fidelity.
grace
you know your man, if you aren't sure if he's telling you the truth or not, perhaps some counseling will help you both work through this so you can get accurate answers as to his fidelity.
grace
Which, ones? All the medical journals don't support that as a reasonable possibility unless I sat on infected body fluids.
He was treated as I was 5 years ago. My Dr. says if we had sex and wasn't treated I would have been infected each time we have had sex for the past 5 years. Which I have not. If it can be transmitted in other ways, isn't it harder for him to get it than me in a different way. I haven't been any where that would suggest that possibility.
I will say that Trich has been known to be passed via non-sexual means. Not common but still possible.
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Hi and welcome. For one thing this is not an old infection from him as he was treated along with you 5 years ago. So it did not lie dormant. It would have to be a new infection if he was in fact treated.
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