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Miss AJ or others with knowledge like AJ,
Need your advice again. I went to a licensed massage therapist for a massage. During the massage one thing led to another and got a hand job and sucked ****. I wasnt worried since i knew this was safe. The 2nd time i went to the same massage therapist i guess i expected the same thing at the end of the session. But i got oral sex without a condom and then protected sex with a condom. I did ask her before this happeded if she was free of diseases since im a worrier and she said she was clean and i have nothing to worry about. But i dont know i should believe her, she might give this to other patients. Oral sex was 30 seconds at most. I wasnt to worried about this incident but now a week after i have body aches, throat feels dry/scratchy, headaches, neckaches shooting up my head, and stuffy/runny nose. Could i have an STD or HIV? Do you recommend i get tested over this incident? If you do recommend how long do i need to wait before getting tested to get accurate results? I have no penis discharge or pain. Do you think its just a cold?
What should i do? Dont want to give my wife anything since shes pregnant. Yup i am a bad person. Need to go to church and ask God for forgiveness.
Need your advice again. I went to a licensed massage therapist for a massage. During the massage one thing led to another and got a hand job and sucked ****. I wasnt worried since i knew this was safe. The 2nd time i went to the same massage therapist i guess i expected the same thing at the end of the session. But i got oral sex without a condom and then protected sex with a condom. I did ask her before this happeded if she was free of diseases since im a worrier and she said she was clean and i have nothing to worry about. But i dont know i should believe her, she might give this to other patients. Oral sex was 30 seconds at most. I wasnt to worried about this incident but now a week after i have body aches, throat feels dry/scratchy, headaches, neckaches shooting up my head, and stuffy/runny nose. Could i have an STD or HIV? Do you recommend i get tested over this incident? If you do recommend how long do i need to wait before getting tested to get accurate results? I have no penis discharge or pain. Do you think its just a cold?
What should i do? Dont want to give my wife anything since shes pregnant. Yup i am a bad person. Need to go to church and ask God for forgiveness.
Okay im done posting (i hope). I really cannot do nothing about it anyway. But the thought of the consequences scares the **** out of me. Im moving on hoping for the best.
Thanks!
Thanks!
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Dude, really - its impossible.
If you had protected sex, you couldn't have gotten her pregnant. If you had sex in Nov., and she is due in April, that would make this a 6 month baby, not a 9 month baby. Not possible.
And yes, the ultrasound can give an estimate on the baby's weight.
You need to get a counselor.
Oh and one of my friends had periods right into her 5th month of pregnancy - its not common, but it happens.
Aj
If you had protected sex, you couldn't have gotten her pregnant. If you had sex in Nov., and she is due in April, that would make this a 6 month baby, not a 9 month baby. Not possible.
And yes, the ultrasound can give an estimate on the baby's weight.
You need to get a counselor.
Oh and one of my friends had periods right into her 5th month of pregnancy - its not common, but it happens.
Aj
Merry Christmas and i wish you a Happy & Safe 2009!
Okay i spoke to the girl one more time today to validate some dates. She says at her ultrasound on 12/10/08 the doctor said her due date was 5/5/09. After she left their office the doctor called and said due date should be 4/21/09 instead. The also said as of 12/10/08 she is 21 weeks pregnant and weight of baby is about 15 ounces. Can the ultrasound give the approximate weight?
I dont think she would lie to me (hope not) but the thing that keeps worring me is i had protected sex on 11/14/08. She did not get her period at the end of Nov and got a cold. She went in to the doctor for her cold and found out she was pregnant. So now my mind is telling me the baby might be mine. In my previous posts i stated the girl said she was still getting her period. Is this possible since if her due date is 4/21/09 she conceived in July or August?? Means she had her period for 2 months being pregnant (September & October).
Im going insane! Could this possibly be mine or impossible? I know you are getting tired of answering my post but please answer again.
Okay i spoke to the girl one more time today to validate some dates. She says at her ultrasound on 12/10/08 the doctor said her due date was 5/5/09. After she left their office the doctor called and said due date should be 4/21/09 instead. The also said as of 12/10/08 she is 21 weeks pregnant and weight of baby is about 15 ounces. Can the ultrasound give the approximate weight?
I dont think she would lie to me (hope not) but the thing that keeps worring me is i had protected sex on 11/14/08. She did not get her period at the end of Nov and got a cold. She went in to the doctor for her cold and found out she was pregnant. So now my mind is telling me the baby might be mine. In my previous posts i stated the girl said she was still getting her period. Is this possible since if her due date is 4/21/09 she conceived in July or August?? Means she had her period for 2 months being pregnant (September & October).
Im going insane! Could this possibly be mine or impossible? I know you are getting tired of answering my post but please answer again.
COMMUNITY LEADER
Oh you don't deserve anything bad, really. You made some mistakes, and some big ones, but who doesn't get through life messing up somehow?
I really hope you find a therapist and work through this. You are right - life is too short for all this stress. :)
Relax, this baby can't be yours, and have a wonderful holiday season with your family.
Aj
I really hope you find a therapist and work through this. You are right - life is too short for all this stress. :)
Relax, this baby can't be yours, and have a wonderful holiday season with your family.
Aj
Thanks for answering my posts. By your answers it seems impossible to be my child. I hope i can overcome this stress and move on. It will be very difficult but i deserve it for putting myself through this.
Thanks again!
Thanks again!
No but i will start looking for a therapist. Life is too short for this stress.
Im not sure if there was precum (im sure there was) since she gave me unprotected oral before sex. When putting on condom i might have touched the precum putting some on the outside of the condom.
Im going to have a heart attack soon.
Im going to have a heart attack soon.
COMMUNITY LEADER
Oh and women all look different when they are pregnant. My best friend barely showed at 6 months, and my sister looked about 8 months pregnant from the 4th month on.
Aj
Aj
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Well, its not just doctors that determine the due date - if she's 6 months along, she's had ultrasounds, and they add up all kinds of things - including size, development of certain things, etc., to figure it out.
They might be off by a week or 2, but not even close to 3 months, hon.
Have you considered a therapist yet?
Aj
They might be off by a week or 2, but not even close to 3 months, hon.
Have you considered a therapist yet?
Aj
I guess im worried since i read condoms are not 100%. When i was taking the condom off i remember seeing the sperm on the sides, so maybe it came out at the opening. I regret not checking the condom for holes.
Im freaking out. I know i deserve this stress but wow this is killing me.
Are doctors real accurate determining the birth date? Could doctor be 3 months off? Doctor said her due date is 5/5/09.
Help!
Im freaking out. I know i deserve this stress but wow this is killing me.
Are doctors real accurate determining the birth date? Could doctor be 3 months off? Doctor said her due date is 5/5/09.
Help!
I really need your help with this now. I know this is an STD forum but my stress is starting to kill me.
You didnt get a chance to answer the above post in November but i have another issue to worry about. I went back to the same massage therapist to get a legit massage on 12/17/08. No extras. When i got there she told me she is pregnant and did the blood test and everything is good with her baby, no STDs. So my stress is better. She mentioned her doctor says shes about 4.5 months. I get the massage and leave.
After i leave something pops into my brain, "PREGNANT". I had protected sex with a condom back on 11/14/08, it didnt break although i didnt check and fill up with water. That means she was already pregnant. So i call her the next day asking her how come she didnt know she was pregnant, since her period would stop. She says she was still getting her period every month and her doctor says its rare but still happens. She also mentions her doctor says end of December makes 6 months. But her stomach does not look that big at all. Now my stress is killing me again. If shes pregnant from me my life is pretty much done, same if i were to get HIV. She is married and was separated. During the phone call i questioned her about sex with her husband. They were having sex without condom.
I know this is off the forum subject but please answer since i dont know where to really post and get an honest and educated answer.
Please tell me your opinion. What are the chances that the baby is mine? If shes telling me the truth about her doctor saying she will make 6 months end of December, could the doctor be off by about 3 months? She has no idea when she conceived because she continued to get her period. Only going with the doctors estimated brith date.
Thanks again for your help.
You didnt get a chance to answer the above post in November but i have another issue to worry about. I went back to the same massage therapist to get a legit massage on 12/17/08. No extras. When i got there she told me she is pregnant and did the blood test and everything is good with her baby, no STDs. So my stress is better. She mentioned her doctor says shes about 4.5 months. I get the massage and leave.
After i leave something pops into my brain, "PREGNANT". I had protected sex with a condom back on 11/14/08, it didnt break although i didnt check and fill up with water. That means she was already pregnant. So i call her the next day asking her how come she didnt know she was pregnant, since her period would stop. She says she was still getting her period every month and her doctor says its rare but still happens. She also mentions her doctor says end of December makes 6 months. But her stomach does not look that big at all. Now my stress is killing me again. If shes pregnant from me my life is pretty much done, same if i were to get HIV. She is married and was separated. During the phone call i questioned her about sex with her husband. They were having sex without condom.
I know this is off the forum subject but please answer since i dont know where to really post and get an honest and educated answer.
Please tell me your opinion. What are the chances that the baby is mine? If shes telling me the truth about her doctor saying she will make 6 months end of December, could the doctor be off by about 3 months? She has no idea when she conceived because she continued to get her period. Only going with the doctors estimated brith date.
Thanks again for your help.
Well for symptoms-buring while urinating and discharge are common upto 30 days after infection from gonorrhea and NGU. These are the most common even though it is still a low risk.
Herpes and syphilis are also possible and that is a bump on your penis or several bumps. Actually they are sores.
Well if your wife gets an STD I don't know the full affect it could have on the baby. I know some STD's would only be passed via the birth canal other could infect the blood stream.
I also don't know if the Dr's would test again for STD's.
Being as scared as you are you might have to test for your own mind and maybe come clean with your wife? that is a decision only you can make because it could have a very serious outcome.
Herpes and syphilis are also possible and that is a bump on your penis or several bumps. Actually they are sores.
Well if your wife gets an STD I don't know the full affect it could have on the baby. I know some STD's would only be passed via the birth canal other could infect the blood stream.
I also don't know if the Dr's would test again for STD's.
Being as scared as you are you might have to test for your own mind and maybe come clean with your wife? that is a decision only you can make because it could have a very serious outcome.
What type of symptoms would i look out for? I really dont want to go unless i really have to. What health risks are involved to the baby if my wife got a STD? Will she get another test of HIV/STDs prior to giving birth? I know she already went through these test at about the 4th month of the pregnancy. She is not about 6 months along.
Thanks
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For your own mind yes test. Make sure you test in the right time frames.
Also most people do not lie about STD status, and most people who work in the sex industry test regulary and use protection. They know that they are at a higher risk for STD so they do everything they can to prevent them.
Condoms if used correctly do not develop holes or break.
I really don't see a need for testing unless you develop symptoms or for your own piece of mond.
Also most people do not lie about STD status, and most people who work in the sex industry test regulary and use protection. They know that they are at a higher risk for STD so they do everything they can to prevent them.
Condoms if used correctly do not develop holes or break.
I really don't see a need for testing unless you develop symptoms or for your own piece of mond.
I know it cold and not anxiety. I just got off the Z-pack about 4 weeks ago. So im getting worried its more than a cold. I would hate to call me doctor asking for another Z-pack
I dont think the condom broke but now since i have stress, my mind is telling me maybe it broke or i took it off wrong allowing Vagina fluid to get into the Urethra. I just pulled the condom straight down over the toliet and flushed it down. I also washed as soon as i took off the condom. I didnt check the condom for holes or rips.
I am such an idiot! Plus my wife is pregnant and im doing this stuff. Since she is pregnant we dont have sex much. Must have been about 3 weeks ago the last time. Should i get tested for STD and HIV to be safe?
I dont think the condom broke but now since i have stress, my mind is telling me maybe it broke or i took it off wrong allowing Vagina fluid to get into the Urethra. I just pulled the condom straight down over the toliet and flushed it down. I also washed as soon as i took off the condom. I didnt check the condom for holes or rips.
I am such an idiot! Plus my wife is pregnant and im doing this stuff. Since she is pregnant we dont have sex much. Must have been about 3 weeks ago the last time. Should i get tested for STD and HIV to be safe?
You have a cold or your anxiety has caused your problems. STD's do not show symptoms like you have described.
If you want to get tested then you can test for gonorrhea and NGU at 1 week. Herpes and syphilis at 6 weeks to 3 months.
If the condom was fine you don't have to worry about HIV.
If you want to get tested then you can test for gonorrhea and NGU at 1 week. Herpes and syphilis at 6 weeks to 3 months.
If the condom was fine you don't have to worry about HIV.
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