I am a 40 year old hetero male. I had 60 seconds of unprotected sex outside my marriage about a month ago. Within 12 hours of this bit of idiocy I began feeling the need to pee frequently and my urethra was itchy. I went to my general practitioner the following day and described my symptoms. I was tested for a "urinary tract infection" and given 3 days worth of amoxycillin. The test came back negative and within a day or so my itching and peeing went away. The woman involved assured me that she has no STDs and has been monogamous with her spouse for 4 years. I am not sure I believe her.
But, assuming that everything was OK, my wife an I resumed having sex the following weekend (1 week after the 'event'). Two weeks after the event (roughly 9 days after my wife and I had sex), my wife had her period a bit early and for longer than usual. Last week (3 weeks post event) my itching / need to pee has returned. I am now seeing a very tiny amount of clear discharge from my urethra and am patently terrified.
I live in a state where anonymous testing is virtually impossible and having to tell my wife will be the end of my marriage. So, I need to know a few things - What are the chances that I have gonorrhea? What are the chances that I have given it to my wife? Is there any other explanation?
Thanks