Mutual Risk?

[Kayder]

Hi there,

I met up with a random guy, we did some mutual masturbation and some body rubbing, where we rubbed our genitals together, we also used lube, then we came at the same time, cant remember if he came on my genitals.

We didn't have oral or anal sex I am just wondering if the guy was to have any STI's HIV etc (I don't know if he had anything) and came on my genitals what would be the level of risk to myself?

Sounds silly I know...just would like to ask a professional. Thanks for your time.

[Kayder]

Hello

Yes thats very true also.

I think guys do tend to be made up like that...a kind of 'Sex first' then 'think about it later' sort of 'procedure'...and boy do we 'think'...and I just can't live my life like that any more.

And even though sexual contact felt good, the 'type' I was having just wasn't worth it with what I was going through afterwards.

As well as the 'over-thinking' its like all rationality leaves and I'm left in this world of 'fear', as I said, not worth it.

The sad irony is I have had long periods of abstinence before, though I was still 'lusting' after contact...and wasn't really moving on with my life if I'm honest. To me it was like having one foot moving forward while the other is still squarely routed in the past.

But now, I have decided to walk away from it all, it wasn't an easy decision to come to for so many reasons...and truly focus on the things that require my attention in my life, that will  benefit me long term. I most defiantly want to be something good, but I realise now that I will have to work for it.

[JessyJames2010]

=)

Your very welcome.   I am glad it helped.  

As men we tend to suffer from the IN-ability to conquer sexual inhibition; yes we are more biologically inclined to go out and have sex.  Our genetic make up is like that ---thankful you can change it somewhat so you can do those "changes in your life" that you talk about.  Find something that you are passionate about and do that ---and do it well; you can be something good in this world.  

[Kayder]

Hey there,

thanks for your comments, they really helped alot.

I know that I have to make a few changes in my life...its just difficult to do so. But I'm trying...thanks again dude.

[JessyJames2010]

Hi

Your question is not silly.  

To address your question: What you describe is a low risk for ulcerative STDs;  These are herpes, syphilis, and HPV.   You were at zero risk for Hiv, chlamydia, gonorrhea, and ngu.  

Uclerative STDs don't require penetrative sex per se, all that is required is genital exposure to the ulcer or lesion.   These have been classically known as "skin-to-skin" contact, but that is a misnomer.   The truth is that most people who get these STDs are having penetrative unprotected sex.   When they say "skin-to-skin" they really mean "gential to genital" contact which occurs during penetrative sex.

I wouldn't worry too much about your exposure and would honestly move on with my life.   Finally that he came on your genitals is not a risk.