Hi there,
I am in a committed, but open relationship, and have recently become involved with an additional partner. I currently have protected intercourse with my primary partner, but unprotected oral sex. We have both been tested for STDS, are clean, and are not (yet) sleeping with anyone else. My new partner has just come out of a marriage so has not had any new sexual partners in 8 years. He is off to the doctor today to be tested just in case (even though his risk of having anything seems very low). My question is: providing my new partner tests clean, is it really essential for me to use barriers for oral sex with him? My primary partner feels I should, but I trust my new partner absolutely, and i feel that this would seriously detract from the enjoyment of sex with him. So, how risky is oral sex really?
Btw, if it is relevant, both my partners are straight, male, and have had less than 5 sexual partners ever. I'm female and have had many sexual partners, but have been tested recently. None of us intends to sleep with anyone else.
Thanks - any thoughts appreciated - especially interested in the statistics about risk of transmission from oral sex.
:)