Sore tongue - transmitted STD?

[Mortgagemikej]

So I found myself with a stranger one night and I gave her oral sex. About a week later, I developed a sore on the tip of my tongue and along the edges of the tongue. The area was just red and very painful. It was very painful and lasted several weeks. Being in a long term relationship, I panicked and was tested for Chlamydia, Neisseria gonorrhoeae, HSV1 &2, Pallidum HCV and HIV, everything came back negative except the HSV1 however I have had cold sores since I was young and so assume I would be immune to receiving that again. I treated it with mouthwash three times a day and eventually it went away with no recurrence. Three weeks later I was with my long term partner and we had sex including a lot of kissing and  again a few weeks after that. It’s been six weeks since my symptoms were about gone. My partner now has the same sore and painful tongue issues and I am worried I might have given her something I had. Any idea what we might have?

[auntiejessi]

The only thing that would have given you sores like that on your tongue at a week in would be herpes.

You already have hsv1 if you have cold sores, but you could have gotten oral hsv2. However, that's unlikely - not impossible but unlikely - and it's unlikely that you'd transmit that to your partner, as it doesn't shed often, maybe 4 days a year.

Your partner should go get checked out. You both could have another virus, not related to sex at all, that causes mouth ulcers.

[Mortgagemikej]

Thank you for the response. I was tested and was negative for hsv2. My mouth cleared up completely a few weeks ago and I advised her to get tested. The problem is who to go see for the testing and what to get tested for now.

[auntiejessi]

She can see her dentist. It's not likely to be herpes, so a dentist is a good place to start.

If you tested too soon, your hsv2 blood test might have been a false negative.