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Question on Syphilis risk
About four months ago, I had protected oral and vaginal sex with a high-risk female. I feel horrible for lots of reasons. I stopped the girl, but she gave me an unprotected handjob. I immediately felt sick (from guilt). Four days after the event, I got tested for HSV-1, HSV-2, HIV, Gonorhea, and Chlamydia. I have had cold sores as long as I can remember, so the HSV-1 was positive, but everything else was negative. After reading the posts on this site, I got worried about the accuracy of the tests, so I had the sequence repeated at three months. Same results. I thought I had been tested for syphilis (I was sure the doctor put that on the forms), but I was mistaken. A few days ago, my scrotum itched in the middle of the night. In my panic-ridden state, I inspected myself the next morning. There was a spot that was white when I applied pressure from underneath. I had the doctor inspect it, and her assessment was that it didn't look like syphilis. Her read was that it would probably go away and be nothing. I am trying to recover from this incident and not destroy my marriage. Should I ask for some additional tests? When I read online, it looks like 4 months is outside of the typical incubation period for syphilis. The most likely fit seems to be HPV (or nothing), but I am not sure what to ask the doctor. Any guidance would be greatly appreciated.
Correction....
In my original post, I mistakenly identified the risk factors of my sex partner. In my post-event guilt, I over-reacted to a comment the girl made and made an incorrect assessment. I now know that the only risk-factor that she had was multiple partners. I am not going to delude myself. There is nothing all that special about me, so I am sure she has had experiences similar to ours previously. But, I think the reduction in her overall risk status is worth sharing. I have had enough testing to convince me that I am ok, but it is good to get good news.
In my original post, I mistakenly identified the risk factors of my sex partner. In my post-event guilt, I over-reacted to a comment the girl made and made an incorrect assessment. I now know that the only risk-factor that she had was multiple partners. I am not going to delude myself. There is nothing all that special about me, so I am sure she has had experiences similar to ours previously. But, I think the reduction in her overall risk status is worth sharing. I have had enough testing to convince me that I am ok, but it is good to get good news.
Thanks! I will try it.
On a semi-related note... I just found out that the girl that I had my encounter with didn't have the risk factors that I first thought she did. She made a comment after our encounter that made me think she was at high risk for STD's. It turns out that she doesn't have those risk factors at all. I think it was just the initial onset of guilt that caused me to lose my ability to think rationally. I still have the guilt, but I am going to try to deal with it...
On a semi-related note... I just found out that the girl that I had my encounter with didn't have the risk factors that I first thought she did. She made a comment after our encounter that made me think she was at high risk for STD's. It turns out that she doesn't have those risk factors at all. I think it was just the initial onset of guilt that caused me to lose my ability to think rationally. I still have the guilt, but I am going to try to deal with it...
Thanks for all of your help. I did get tested for peace-of-mind, and everything was fine. Now, I am going to try to move on from the emotional difficulty that I am having with my mistake. I know that I didn't do anything illegal, but I still can't believe I did something so stupid. Any advice for moving on without destroying my marriage?
Sorry to bother you again...
I don't have a rash on my hands or feet, and I don't think I have one on my torso... I have a couple of spots that I would have said were freckles that come and go from the sun. At least I would have said that prior to my recent bout of paranoia. They are light brown and probably less than a quarter of an inch at their largest dimension. There are only a few on my stomach, and I can't find any anywhere else. I have been out in the sun a bit, so I am not sure... I am going to get tested to alleviate my panic, but I wanted your feedback. Thanks for any comments.
I don't have a rash on my hands or feet, and I don't think I have one on my torso... I have a couple of spots that I would have said were freckles that come and go from the sun. At least I would have said that prior to my recent bout of paranoia. They are light brown and probably less than a quarter of an inch at their largest dimension. There are only a few on my stomach, and I can't find any anywhere else. I have been out in the sun a bit, so I am not sure... I am going to get tested to alleviate my panic, but I wanted your feedback. Thanks for any comments.
Syphilis starts with a sore (canker) at about 21 days after exposure. Then after that heals you get a rash commonly found on the soles of the feet, plams of hands or mid section.
But syphilis is rare in developed countries and rare in women.
But syphilis is rare in developed countries and rare in women.
Do you have any information on what I should look for that might suggest that I should be more nervous about syphilis? Thanks for any help...
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Herpes spreads by oral, vaginal and anal sex.
Herpes sores blister, then burst, scab and heal.
STIs are the most common cause of genital sores.
Millions of people are diagnosed with STDs in the U.S. each year.
STDs can't be transmitted by casual contact, like hugging or touching.
Syphilis is an STD that is transmitted by oral, genital and anal sex.
