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hiv scare and anxiety

i had sex with a prostitute who i think was hiv positive.
it was a 5 minute quickie but when i pulled out i noticed the condom was broke and was half off. I don't know if the other half was inside her or not.
i would say tht i started to feel ill after just over a week after exposure. i was on holiday at the time and my mates also had sore throats and were ill.
since i have swollen glands which has lasted 2 weeks no fever or diarrea or vommiting or nausea but i have a sore throat and a slight cough. I also have white coating on the back of my tongue. I have a discomfort in my penis but it only happens when i am thinking about having hiv. I have no pian when i am urinating or any discharge but have been frequently urinating. i have been having a faster heartbeat than usual and somtimes have pins and needles. I have also been struggling to sleep. I dont feel i have fatigue or lapses in energy i play a lot of golf and still get round the course no problem. i am also eating as normal and have not lost any weight


I have been reading stuf on the internet and i am becoming petrified. i am living life now as if i have the disease.
i was wondering if anxiety and worrying can cause the likes of whiteness on the tongue or any other symptoms?
i went to the doctors and he said i had a bad viral infection and gave me pills which did help but i still have the swollen neck glands.
i have been to the sex clinic and have had tests for chlamydia and gonnorea and have a hiv test booked in for 12 weeks away.
are the risks low if i was only having sex for 5 minutes and the exposure time was only mmaybe 3 minutes.
i was on holiday at the time with my mates and was consuming a lot of alcohol and hardly had any sleep can this all contribute to me feeling like this?
i have been back for 2 weeks and the swollen glands in my neck are still there though and that is what is worrying me the most and the whitenss in the tongue.

any help would be appreciated
cheers
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494623 tn?1278279352
Anxiety is playing a very large part in the way you are feeling,try to relax and stop thinking about HIV and STD's otherwise all this stressing will wear you down and make you unwell,the tightness in your chest is very typical of anxiety,you really need to calm down. You're on  a Rollercoaster of emotions right now and you need to get off it only then will you start to feel better.

Daisy


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thanks vance for your help

i have been extremely worried about my symptoms bacuse all of this started about 10 -12 days after ,my exposure im only 17 and i just can't believe i made such a stupid mistake just shows what happens with heavy alcohol and around with mates.

hopefully my test comes back negative and i can get on with my life
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They have no relation to an STD including HIV.
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do u think the symptoms that i have listed then are hiv or unreltaed to hiv and sound like another illness??
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No, your symptoms are not related to an STD. Lets say you have HIV, you don't get symptoms after 1 week. If you got HIV symptoms after 1 week then they could test after 1 week and be 100% accurate.

You do not have an STD.
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also i have feel as if i have been having tightness in my chest at times i felt it the most when i woke up this morning.
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quick update on my symptoms,

my tonsils have been slightly swollen for 6 weeks now!!! they are not painful and have no puss or anything on them. i have been getting tingling all through my body its a kind of pins and needles feeling but i think these may be down to my anxiety.

my throat is still a little inflamed but is not sore it just a little dry a lot of the time. i don't think i have had a fever.

i have been to the doctor and she thinks its just a bug that may have caught when on holiday and can sometimes take a while to go away.

i tested neg for chlamydia and gonnorea i was told this is a good sign.

anyone think my swollen tonsils may be related to hiv or any other std's?
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I can't advise you on things that aren't stds.  There is no std that would give you these symptoms.  Perhaps you should post in the ear/nose/throat forum.

AJ
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can someone giv me me a quick response i just need my mind to be at rest and then i wont post again ,
cheers
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just a quick update, i tested neg for chlamydia and gonnorea the sexual health advisor said that this is a good sign.

the only symptom that i have still is swollen tonsils. i have little whiteness at the back of my tongue aswell. my throat isn't sore just a little irritating at times. there is no puss or anything on my tonsils is this a good sign.?

iv been to the docotr and she said she expects them to go down in a couple of weeks. its been a week n they are showing np sign of going dowm especially my right one.

i am still worried that with my tonsils being swollen after 5 weeks that i have hiv

can you give me sum advice auntiejessi or anyone else?
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207091 tn?1337709493
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A virus, strep, etc - you need to follow up with your doctor since you aren't getting better.

This would NOT be caused by HIV though.  Read through the HIV prevention forum if you have further questions.

Aj
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my whiteness in my tongue has got better but i still have swollen glands and it has been 2 weeks since they started to swell anyone know what this could be?
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if you're that afraid, they have (at least around here) HIV testing kits you can buy at a pharmacy behind the counter that you do yourself with instructions or on the internet. i wish you the best but i bet you do just have a viral infection anyway---swollen glands indicate a sickness and it wont go away right away. get tested for everything anyway, but there are tons of HIV clinics that do the test easily...even your own doctor...i can't believe they're making you wait 12 wks! but the symptoms you're talking about don't sound like HIV at all to me.
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thanks for the your help anyone else got any ideas whaat it might be?
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207091 tn?1337709493
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It sounds like you have a regular virus, as your mates did, but HIV wouldn't be causing these symptoms this fast.

Also, even if she did have HIV, and you don't know that she did, your chances of getting it from her without a condom at all are about 1/1000 or 1/2000.  With a condom, for even part of the time, will lower that risk a great deal.

For more info, see our HIV prevention forum.

Aj
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