32 year old virgin

[melknowsnothing]

i am a 32 yr old female who has never had sex, isnt attracted to anyone and really has no interest what so ever in sexuality or anything.  I am on meds that can affect sex drive, but still, i have never felt any interest in anything, not even masturbation, and i am so ashamed that i feel like this.  I am scared i am going to die a virgin, but really i dont know if i even care because i am not interested in sex.  Any thoughts would be helpful.
Mel

[vmvnpv]

It honestly is not that uncommon for men and women alike to not be sexually aroused or want to have sex.  The only time it's a problem is if the individual views it as a problem or it's taking a toll on their relationship (one partner wants to have sex and the other doesn't and their relationship is suffering because of it).  If you want to feel aroused and have sex then you need to see your doctor and talk to him/her about it.  If you don't view it as a problem then I wouldn't worry about it.  I know a lot of people who would say it's not normal to not want to have sex but if it doesn't bother you then that's what's normal for you.  Don't live by someone elses standards and interests.  :-)  And as one pp said, maybe you haven't met that right person yet.  And you really aren't missing much with all the STD's going around.  Good luck!

[Aryan4u]

I must say you should try and think afresh as you are still young. You must have heard in bollywood or in States that ppl starting their life around 35. So start afresh look for a partner or a relationship and ZOooooooom,.....to the first and most imp pleasure in life :)

[melknowsnothing]

I read your comments and appreciate them.  The problem is, i know everyone has feelings of sexuality, even if they are not having sex, and i have tried to get myself aroused, and even fooled around, short of sex with a few guys, but nothing was there.  I wasnt interested at all.  I feel crazy.  I cant be the only one who feels this way, but i feel like this makes me a bad person.  I mean, its not like i cant find the right guy, its that i am not comfortable with myself to enjoy anything with anyone.  My family keeps telling me that i wouldnt want to lve alone for the rest of my life, i need to find someone who makes me happy, but i really feel like that person doesnt exist because i have no interest in sex and cant, for the life of me feel aroused.  I really need help and suggestions!
Mel

[Njsweetnlight]

32 years is a long time to have never been with a man so my question is have you had a boyfriend? I know from experience if I am not put into a situation around a boyfriend or not thinking about it than I am not aroused. However, if I am around someone I am attracted to then naturally things start to tingle. If you have dated you might have been with guys that you are not physically attracted to. I have been with boyfriends that were good friends that led to a relationship but I wasn't physically attracted to them and had to break it off. It is hard for me to find someone that just "does it" for me and I feel tingly inside. My advice is wait for that special someone and date you will know it when you find them.

With all the STD's and cheating people do you are not missing out on anything, 15 minutes of  pleasure is not worth a lifetime of pain.

[ZarafFaraz]

Why not find yourself a husband and get things rolling along? :)