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My wife just had our fith baby 10 months ago.Usually she breast feeds for about 1 yr and 6months.From past experience these times are tough because she will not have anything to do with sex.The first time we had our child I left the house for 3 months.She called me and said she wanted to work things out,and by the way ,I`m pegnant with your second child.All five times have been an experience.But now it`s worst.Now she has MS.On top of that she is an RN and seems to know everything there is to be kown about her symptoms.The only thing she`s not thinking about is that i`m taking on cravings for sex.But MS also makes her tired and loose sexual interest.She says it`s not the sex thats making me feel irritable.She says i`m just going through a mid life crises.Which does have Simular symptoms of someone like me lacking sex.I feel stuck in a rutt.I have voids in my life that need to be fixed.She tells me I need to see a spcialist to put me on meds.But she`s missing my point,I need sex,sex,sex.What do I do?
your absolutely right. Communication is the key.We look at each others needs now instead of looking at our own.I have asked her to write down her thoughts to me on a piece of paper.By doing so I can see how she feels.
How are things going by now? In your original post, the big red flag was raised when you said: "The first time we had our child I left the house for 3 months." Couples cannot solve inevitable problems when one partner heads for the hills when there's a bump in the road. Hopefully, all the health issues are being taken care of, and your wife's, children's, and your needs are being met.
I would like to say thank you for all the support you guys have given me.But the biggest fix was just to show my wife the question and responses I`ve received.First of all the woman who first responded was not thinking about my problem.Me and my wife knows that I`m more of a mom than most moms.Taking care of a 10 month old baby to me is simple as long as you can keep an eye on them regularly.Four year olds need all the attention.Lots of energy,they become great hands if you are wise.Boys 9,13 and 14yrs of age can do allot of chores if rewarded.Practices,homework,lunches,breakfast,games,vehicles maintenance,house maintenance,laundry.I do them all.So if anybody in this family household needs a break,it`s me.Sixstringer did well.When she read your commit she said for now on for me to sleep with her again.She opened up to me with all the things she has been afraid to talk to me about.She realized she pushed me out instead of letting me help her.She took your advise and I`m a happier man today.Thanks for writing us back.Life again is goood,
A lot of men go through Hell when a couple has a child. The mother, naturally, is centered on the baby's needs, but also the father is fulfilling his role in the newborn's welfare. No problem there. It's only when the husband and/or wife forget that they have a responsibility to themselves that a strain can occur. Something should be worked out where the husband can get his needs met, in this case, to relieve some of the pressure from lack of sexual relations, whether it be a handjob or blowjob from the wife, along with any needs on her part. Men are programmed to make sex a major part of life, and when these needs aren't being met, other aspects of life can break down within a marriage. Of course, the wife's MS and any other health problems should be addressed, as keeping the wife and baby in health are necessary, along with the other offspring. But having children should not make everything else in a marriage go out the window. This situation can be rectified, if the husband and wife make behavioral changes to satisfy everyone's needs in this family.
I would research MS and find out what it says about sex with the disease. It could be that she just can't, or it could be that she may be wrapped up in her life as a parent and with the disease. The best thing you can do is have knowledge so that you both can talk about it.
Send her for a massage. Cook dinner. Fold the clothes from the dryer. Take all the kids to the park for a few hours so she can nap. Feed the baby. Give her a card telling her that you think the world of her for all she is to you and your family.
Having that many kids, and one of them being a baby, and also having MS on top of it (my neighbor had MS and it was really, really awful for her), I honestly can understand why she is too tired and/or lacks the desire to please you sexually.
Do you admire her, help her, do nice things for her, show her you appreciate her? Or do you spend a lot of time complaining about how she is not fulfilling your needs?
Having that many kids, and one of them being a baby, and also having MS on top of it (my neighbor had MS and it was really, really awful for her), I honestly can understand why she is too tired and/or lacks the desire to please you sexually.
Do you admire her, help her, do nice things for her, show her you appreciate her? Or do you spend a lot of time complaining about how she is not fulfilling your needs?
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