Addicted to porn

[magzs1112]

A few years ago I discovered my husbands porn addiction. And it made my heart race, and I was more hurt then mad.  We fought about this for awhile and he finally admited that he was addicted to sex.  He of course blamed his porn viewing on that we dont have enough sex.  So we went from 1-2x a week to 4-5 wk.  Last month (thanksgiving) I found that he had been viwing more websites and deleting the history.  I was disgusted and he blew up, cried, said he was sorry, and he would stop.  Of course I beleive him until last night.  All I had to do was click on "back" in the browser and came up porn websites.  I guess i am on of those women that hate it.  I feel its degrating to women.  I feel insure about myself as well.  I cant seem to let this go.  Last night he celebrated new years eve without me b/c i was to hurt to be with him.  I feel like this is ruining my marriage and he wont stop.  Therapy could help but we dont have the exta money.  We have been married for 6 years now and its tearing me apart.  IPlease help i'm starting to lose it!!

[amy7577]

Thank you so much for saying that it's not her...!  My boyfriend of two and a half years is addicted also and every time I find something he's looked at, I feel inadequate.  I first thought it was just a little here a little there and maybe he would want to watch it together... but NO! He has never even tried to watch it with me. I have searched our computer and he's so sneaky --he has been viewing it right in front of my face without me knowing.  He hides it, he does it when I'm not around. He does it every single day! What to do about this, I don't know! I have confronted him, embarrassed him, begged him, pleaded with him and genuinely asked him to stop, but still he continues.  He tells me he is ashamed and embarrassed and wants to stop, but no real progress has been made.  I even told him if I see it again I am moving out...that doesn't even matter.  He just hides it better and deletes everything!!  I am at my whitts end here on this.  He "was" the man I thought I would marry, but with his continued disregard for my feelings---I know I can't move further with him.  This addiction truly is a sickness and it's so sad because it ruins your relationship and it has truly made me look and think of him with disgust!  When I think about him, all I can think is....what a freakin pervert!  The thing is...I would be willing to do anything with him that he's watching...the raunchy things he's watching, he has NEVER tried on me....  What do you do when your boyfriend is caught up in this evil little world of his???

[turkee23]

lmao !!.... i ts just porn!!!.... who cares!!.. you do pron in your bedroom, these girls just make good money doing it for the world to see, to each is own!!!.....he isnt cheating on you, he is just looking!!....... stop trippin!....watch it with him!

[k4269]

I can guarentee this is not about you.  I am a married male who has strugled with a porn addiction for 8 years.  It began after our second son was born.  Like drug use, alchohol sex, not everyone get addicted to this.  But some of us do.  I can tell you this.  I can go a long time without viewing anything, I can even sometimes view some and let it go, but other times, I can't stop myself. If I am depressed I can fall into this trap very easily.  I can spend a whole day in front of the computer downloading and hoarding it.  When I am off the wagon I know I have to stop, and I know if I get caught my wife will kill me, but I can't stop myself.  a few things you should know
I love my wife
I have never physically cheated on her (you can debate whether porn is cheating all you want.)
I am currently on the wagon and hope to stay that way.
I would encourage you to talk.  It is embarassing for him, but when I have gotten caught in the past the cold shoulder just made me more resentful and kept me wanting to go back.

A few points to some of the others who have posted on here.
A. don't tell her to get over it this is a real problem for some.
B. I don't think the porn industry is to blame for my addiction
C. Some men can watch and not have a problem
D. This is a bigger problem in the US than some may think

[bklyn0630]

how often does you husband watch it?
if he has to do it all day every day, then there is a problem.

my boyfriend watches it. sometimes he watches it alone, sometimes with me,
personally i don't get arroused from it but i can honestly say i have learned some things that i've seen watching it, i've done to my boyfriend that really turns him on.
different positions, different ways of doing something.

it also keeps him at bay when i'm not home so he doesn't have to go out and mess around

[Njsweetnlight]

WOW! This is a touchy subject and I would like to add my two cents briefly. Porn is not intended to between a husband and wife. I was decieved by involving myself with the porn in my sexual relations with my husband who also was addicted. It was fun and we loved to play and do other things. However, it was what it was an addiction for him and I fed his addiction. A man that likes to do drugs and feel that high from cocaine, crack or whatever, you don't give him the drugs so he can feel good. YOU HELP HIM fight it!!

Anyway for everyone that thinks porn is harmless, my husband was very addictived to porn and soon became a reality because he wanted to live it and went out one night and slept with a prostitute and THAT WAS THE END OF OUR FUN!! Is it just harmless? Porn as someone said before is inteded to be addictive and sex is intended to be between a husband and wife and the only thing that should be between is GOD!

[btd101]

Men are dogs we cant help it.You may think Porn is ruining your marriage but has also helped a few marriges out by spiceing things up abit.I know this sounds alittle extreme but try watching some porn with him.You may find out a few things about each other.It may be alittle uncomfortable at first but you may get a glimps at his fantasies and you may very well see a few things you like or may want to try.The fact of the matter is men produce alot of Testosterone and DHT and we have stong sex drives(some dudes just have stronger sex drives than others).Its a fact that men including married men "Jerk the Gerkin" at least once a week unless somethings wrong.Beleive me if he had a low sex drive that would probably tare your marrige asunder quicker than anything...Iv seen it happen.We men are sexual creatures by genetic design.I would suggest you use his sexual urges to your advantage and explore things you'd like to try...he wont arrgue I promise.