i am about to turn 30, and within the last two years, my sex drive has sky rocketed.
Sadly, I haven't found "the one" and don't want to settle and i don't really believe in "friends with benefits", but i am starting to feel this is the only way.
I despise my sex drive, because on many occasions i wake up at 3am, because i cannot sleep and i am so incredibly tense and turned on (but it is annoying not pleasureable) i have to relieve myself, but sometimes i am so exhausted, that i will try for 2 hours and will not reach orgasm.
It really is not a laughing matter. i feel like it is a major impediment.
I empathize with men, because i now know how they feel. it is like you need food or oxygen, the feeling is so incredibly overwhelming. Sometimes i cry at night wishing i could meet the one, and not wanting to settle for just "any" guy.
i know if you get on birth control it will decrease your sex drive. i just hate taking it if i don't need it.
i wish there was a cure, where you could flip your sex drive on or off.
Women who exercise a lot, produces more testosterone, thus increasing sexual libido. That's why many female pro athletes starts developing male traits. But you're probably a long ways from that. Orgasms dumps out some testosterone so it would be a good thing to help you in not getting that mustache.
i have to masterbate every day or every 2 days otherwise it aches and i can not concentrate, i do not think about men or sex , i am a loving wife and mother and 1000% loyal and sex does not interest me , its just a physical ache that is relieved from the orgasm and gets rid of any stress or confusion ... i have to tel meyself not to feel guilty its just the same as going to the toilet or have a poo every day...we dont beat ourselves for that and this is no different..its healthy and just another cycle .. the energy fills up and it then it gets emptied by masterbation or sex with your partner and then you just carry on with life.
my partner helps me all he can and we call them "empties" rather than sex or masterbation
If you would read all i'm agreeing with DDMole!!! very healthy, and very active in exercise routines
not a brag!!
Good for you! But what pointing are you making? Though I do appreciate a good brag! lol
I'm 63 and have sex with my wife or masterbate every day (EXCEPT WHEN I'M SICK :-) )
I've started masterbating at about age 8 or 9. I also lift wt. and workout every day,
I have a complete home gym
It's probably a testosterone increase.
Can't thank you enough for your post. Ditto on everything you said, except I am 45.
I started seriously working out (cardio, pilates and strength training) about 2 years ago and noticed an immediate increase in my sex drive. Started masterbating at age 11 and pretty much did so 1 to 3 times a day in my teens, 20's and 30's. Now, in my 40's, as you described, I sometimes have to race home to relieve the build-up because I think I am going to explode. Like clockwork, in the morning and around 3 in the afternoon and sometimes again later in the evening. I have a healthy, loving sexual relationship with my husband, but he just can't keep up with me. LOL
I consider myself pre-menopausal and I am wondering if this "side effect" is just going to dissappear one day? Not complaining, just wondering what caused it?
Hmm... Well the sex need does. I like to have sex everyday, sometimes twice. Its not as bad an urge as the release I need from coming. Its all so strange! I feel like a 17 year old boy. Jk
seriously I know I'm not a nympho. Its funny, when our society depicts men as being the over sexual sensitive gender, I laugh to myself. Who could possibly have more of these urges than me!?
Just out of curiousity does the need recur as often when you have a partner?
This is very often just a normal side effect of being in shape.