Aa
Orgasm problem
I'm very worried because I think I am abnormal. I'm 19 this year and I don't know if I ever had an orgasm. I often feel the pleasure when my boyfriend services me but this weird thing always happens: after the climax (which often lasts for at most 2 or 3 seconds), I will get this really weird feeling. The upper part of my body will start contracting towards my lower part and I feel extremely uncomfortable that it becomes a displeasure. I don't feel the urinating desire as described by some females as weird. I think what I feel is even weirder. The thing is idk if I ever had an orgasm because I don't think I've ever ejaculated before (My boyfriend told me so) but I can feel the change in sexual climax when I reach the peak. It feels really good but that feeling only lasts for at most 3 secs for me (is that normal?) and thereafter it will be accompanied by the feeling of awful discomfort. I never had sex before, except oral. I dont know why this is happening to me and I'm really worried. Someone pls help..
70% of women can't achieve a orgasm. It's perfectly natur al. there nothing to worry about. If you worry to much during sex and before that will decrease your chance of getting an orgasm becaus eyour not enjoying the sex intercourse. To higher your chances to get an orgasm is trying to be comfortable with the guy your having sex with and also try to find the best position and rythum fo ryou.
Test and see with the massager. It might just be muscle cramping from the way you are lying or tensing your body.
Thank you for your reply. Hmm but is it normal that I will get this weird feeling aft the climax, like the upper part of my body will start contracting towards my lower part and it will lead to extreme discomfort? :/
Your boyfriend is mistaken if he thinks all women ejaculate. Some (serious, not porno) writers on the topic think the idea that any woman at any time shoots out a liquid when having an orgasm is a complete myth, others are not so sure. But it is not common. Your boyfriend has probably been reading too many men's magazines, which reliably feature a writhing, screaming female shooting out her stuff so far that it hits the wall behind the guy. That kind of writing is all based on male fantasy projection.
A woman I know describes orgasm as "feeling like your c*** is sneezing." If you want to know what an orgasm feels like for you, in particular, get a massager from Walgreen's (the kind with an innocent-looking photo on the box of someone massaging their shoulder or neck with a big smile) and try it out. You'll find your spot soon enough and it will tell you if that is what you have been experiencing during oral sex.
A woman I know describes orgasm as "feeling like your c*** is sneezing." If you want to know what an orgasm feels like for you, in particular, get a massager from Walgreen's (the kind with an innocent-looking photo on the box of someone massaging their shoulder or neck with a big smile) and try it out. You'll find your spot soon enough and it will tell you if that is what you have been experiencing during oral sex.
Have an Answer?
You are reading content posted in the Sexual Health Community
Millions of people are diagnosed with STDs in the U.S. each year.
STDs can't be transmitted by casual contact, like hugging or touching.
Syphilis is an STD that is transmitted by oral, genital and anal sex.
Discharge often isn't normal, and could mean an infection or an STD.
STDs aren't transmitted through clothing. Fabric is a germ barrier.
Normal vaginal discharge varies in color, smell, texture and amount.
