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Does fingering lose virginity?
Hi, Im an 18 year old female, Ive never been sexual with anyone before. I started started seeing someone & it wasnt boyfriend stage yet. I told him no sex before marriage but he fingered me. He always said I would still be a virgin if he did that & did it anyway. I didnt even like it & he did not ask me once if it was ok or if I do not want to do it. He did everything to me apart from put his penis inside. The next day he did it again & I started bleeding. Does that mean Im not a virgin anymore cause my parents told him 'dont have sex with my daughter' He kept saying its not sex but he is the first person to touch me there with things. Afterwards I felt really weird. This happened on Friday night & most of Sat. I bled three times. What is this weirdness that Im feeling? I feel like Ive done something but not. Does that mean Im not a virgin even if his penis didnt go in? My parents will just be upset if Im not one. How far can a finger go in the vagina? Im upset & nervous to tell my parents what happened. The guy hasnt even called me back or asked how I am. Why did he do this to me? I trusted him. Can anyone tell me what this weirdness Im feeling is. Thanks for your help.
Thanks for your replies. I told my parents what happened & they are now reporting him as a rapist. He told my parents he thought it was 'foreplay' & didnt know it was same thing.
The status of virginity is a cultural construct based on religion and tradition. Some people believe it is lost with penetration from abpenis or an object. Other people believe virginity is when you share yourself with a man, whether boyfriend or new husband. As others have mentioned most of us most likely tore our hymens doing sports as children. Your boyfriend committed sexual assault as molestation. He did not hesitate to proceed and really did not take your feelings into sccount. I was assaulted by an uncle in this manner when I was five years old. Again at age 7 by an elderly neighbor. The question of consent is crucial in litigation.
same thing happened to me, i thought it was a normal thing do or be done with, he said its something all people do to not get the idea of having sex and/or pregnancy. he also said i would stll be a virgin, and that its okay. i tried so many excuses even the bible that like lust is a sin but he just keeps on coming for it. i tried everything and we've been to fights and its because i loved him and i dont want to lose him thats why i kept on giving him what he wants. he reassured me that he woudnt have sex with me and thats why he does that and he forces me to touch him as well. i swear i didnt want it. but i did it anyway because im stupid. that was 4 years ago, i didnt know what finger really mean until now. ive watched a movie and i researched about fingering and virginity and this page is where i am now reading what your boyfriend did to you. and now that i know thats what it actually is im so depressed and sad that i have to deal with this now. i could have dealt with it before after breaking up with him but i didnt know. i didnt know the reality of what he did until now...... i dont know what to do.
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Heey dont be sad :) He was the ******* and even though you acted against your will, you learned from that now right? In the future make sure you put your boundries loud and clear for the other person and if he/she doesnt respect that then they don't love you. Love is when you put the other person in front of you AND THEY DO THE SAME. Love is something two people build together. So if it is one sided then it isnt called love I guess idk. Anyway, live your life as happily as possible and don't worry about when what happens just go with the flow. If you don't like something, then change it. Believe in yourself. That is litterally the only way to get things done :)
Well your hymen is broken but you are a virgin still cause his penis didn't enter your vagina,but the reason u stomach is acting and you not eating to much he maybe fingered you to hard
yes, if you bled, you definitely have lost your virginity. this is just an indication of a broken hymen.
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A virgin loses there virginity through vaginal intercoure. Sports such as horseback riding, gymnastics, certain bodily workouts/exercises, or other physical activity can stretch or break the hymen. Despite self stimulation or masturbation. A woman is a virgin sexually or technically until a penis enters the vaginia.
You are completely correct. Virginity is a social construct
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