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Fetish problems...
If one is interested in the fetish lifestyle (say spanking, toys, roleplay, etc.) what are some Problems then, one should avoid in terms with NOT entering this (lifestyle)?
I'll disagree with the posters above. If this is what turns you on, then absolutely, go for it. There's nothing "wrong" or "bad" about it.
I wouldn't say sex toys are particularly fetish, they are pretty mainstream these days for the open-minded. Role-play, and spanking and bondage, are slightly more specialist areas.
It is important that both partners go into it with mutual respect for each other, and a desire to please/excite/meet the other persons needs. Well, that's true for all sex, but probably more important with BDSM / bondage / spanking etc. Whichever party is submissive needs to have total trust in the person they are submitting to. In a way, the submissive partner is actually the more powerful, because they get to decide how far to go.
Typically, partners into this sort of thing will use a Safe Word, at least to start with - some word (usually random and not sex-related) that lets their partner know that they don't want to keep going. This means they can scream "No, no, ow, that hurts, please don't beat me any more" to their hearts content, as part of the role-play, but still have the role-play continue. Once you know each other REALLY well, you may decide you don't need to use a Safe Word any more, as your partner will know when enough is enough.
So, the main thing is to choose you partner carefully. They need to be into the same things as you, and neither of you being way more extreme than the other. You need to trust them. Use a Safe Word. Remember it's just role-play, it's not real. Don't take peoples every-day character as any indication of their sex character - plenty of people have a totally different fetish personality to every-day. I suspect that's part of the appeal.
Other than that, keep some Calendula and Germolene handy if the beatings are likely to be severe...
I've probably revealed WAY too much about myself here, but WTF, Twinkly84 asked and I wanted to give her a straight and honest answer, from my perspective anyway...
I wouldn't say sex toys are particularly fetish, they are pretty mainstream these days for the open-minded. Role-play, and spanking and bondage, are slightly more specialist areas.
It is important that both partners go into it with mutual respect for each other, and a desire to please/excite/meet the other persons needs. Well, that's true for all sex, but probably more important with BDSM / bondage / spanking etc. Whichever party is submissive needs to have total trust in the person they are submitting to. In a way, the submissive partner is actually the more powerful, because they get to decide how far to go.
Typically, partners into this sort of thing will use a Safe Word, at least to start with - some word (usually random and not sex-related) that lets their partner know that they don't want to keep going. This means they can scream "No, no, ow, that hurts, please don't beat me any more" to their hearts content, as part of the role-play, but still have the role-play continue. Once you know each other REALLY well, you may decide you don't need to use a Safe Word any more, as your partner will know when enough is enough.
So, the main thing is to choose you partner carefully. They need to be into the same things as you, and neither of you being way more extreme than the other. You need to trust them. Use a Safe Word. Remember it's just role-play, it's not real. Don't take peoples every-day character as any indication of their sex character - plenty of people have a totally different fetish personality to every-day. I suspect that's part of the appeal.
Other than that, keep some Calendula and Germolene handy if the beatings are likely to be severe...
I've probably revealed WAY too much about myself here, but WTF, Twinkly84 asked and I wanted to give her a straight and honest answer, from my perspective anyway...
Well, I have talked about it w/out of people in my real life here. I don't think it's for me or my personality personally speaking yet, I do know what I do want to do in relation to all of these fetishes! I may be shy & reserved but, I do know what I want to do...now only to find a loving, gentle, kind man to do them with. LOL
Hi Twinky!!! I hope we were of help to you earlier. I agree with Mami. You simply don't do it. Awareness of potential problems should alert you that the behavior can have negative effects or can lead to other problems.:)
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