do some foreplay,tell your partner what you want him to do or where is your most sensitive part, and also try role playing. maybe you will experience orgasm through role playing your fantasies.
My former GF, opened up and started having orgasms after she has explored she started masturbating. So you really should give it a try. The people in the thread know what they are saying.)
Similar to kegel exercise, you can do perineum exercise. It is a small muscle between legs. One can massage this muscle. you can also fold it inside by pressing it. If you bring tailbone near to sacral bone, the perineum will fold inside- between two legs. This also helps to experience different type of orgasm. Cupping the vagina and pressing it for 10 to 15 times increases the blood circulation in the vagina area. It will also excite one sexually. These tricks are worth trial.
Kegel exercises do help to control your sexual excitement. It also strengthens pelvic muscles. they are useful for man and a woman. One can kegel each other to enhance the sensual pleasure. There are many websites in the internet.
yes, having an orgasm is a hard task for the male to accomplish. however, with the proper stimulation of the clitoris, it can be achieved easily and multiple times. usually my boyfriend has to stimulate my clitoris as we are having sex, because with out it, i will not have an orgasm however i will still feel as if im close. but yes, maybe try masturbating and finding where you actually want to be touched, so that you know where he needs to touch you! best of luck!
i have alot of trouble getting comfortable myself and just letting go. even if its with someone i love very much, but the only position i have found that has good stimulation for me is mastery kneeling or cowgirl. you have control of what speed and what spots he hits.
I know what you mean by "getting close" then losing it. I used to be that way too... in my case, I was afraid of letting go and allowing myself to orgasm.
thank you for your tips. i feel as though every time i get close it dissapears. i feel like i must be doing something wrong, but yes i agree to exploring.
thanks again
The way to do that is to explore and discover where your pleasure points are... and then, with practice, you can figure out how to stimulate those areas. An effective way is through masturbation, either manually or with a vibrator. I recommend stroking the clitoris (including the sides of the clitoris) because it's a highly sensitive and responsive area for arousal.