Masturbation

[FeFe0620]

My boyfriend and i have been together for five years. He is 21 years older than me,i am 42.A couple years ago or more I started finding pictures of random girls that he was sneaking and taking them(the girls do not know)well i found out that he mastubates to these pics every time i go somewhere.I have done every thing i can for him to make him stop!!!! I try to talk to him about it and he just gets mad and denies. But i know! He even will i geuss imagine them in his mind when i a sitting right next to him!!! Please help me before it really drives me crazier that what i am!

[NOHARD]

Hi FeFe, I'm Just trying to be helpful, do hope things work out for you both.
Good Luck
Seasons Greetings

[FeFe0620]

Thankyou,you ahve been a big help!

[NOHARD]

Hi FeFe, I dont think your in a hole, your the one who is in control, perhaps if you do a walk out it might bring him back to his senses, perhaps its the jolt he needs.
Just tell him the computer needs to be open to both of you, being a couple, its like no closed doors and being open with each other.
If He wont listern to you and wont take theropy or counseling, then its up to you to hold the strings, now you either lets them go or carry on stuggling with them, and your life in tatters.
Good Luck

[FeFe0620]

Yes i am in a hole and it really hurts!

[FeFe0620]

Oh yes he sneaks the pics on his phone and will send them to his email! Once we were at the mall and while i was in dressing room he was sneaking pics! He changed his password now i am constantly wondering what pics he is taking now!

[SincerelyYoursT]

where does he get these pics??
would there be some kind of other pics that he could look at that wouldnt bother you??
I'm not sure you can regulate this…
the real issue that i see is him taking the pictures of the girls (if that is what he is doing)...

[NOHARD]

HiFeFe, So now we come to the other side you did not say about, then yes he has a problem, and with what you now saying I think therapy, but your big problem is getting there as he, as you said does not beleive this is happening and denouces it.
Untill you can get him to abmit there is a problem, sorry but your in a hole,
so its toss a coin time, do i stay and live with it or do i walk, sorry but I cant see any other way out of it? can you.
Good Luck

[FeFe0620]

I do turn a blind eye but hell a woman can only take so much!

[FeFe0620]

What about him constantly sneaking pics of girls? He will even get an eye for some that work at stores and start sneaking there just to look at them its like he gets obsessed. I hate going places with him cause he will see one that he likes and i see it in his eyes....he is imagining them. I cant even leave the room without him touching himself!
I do thankyou for reply!

[NOHARD]

Hi FeFe, I would love to say just wait he will grows out of it, but at 63, not a lot of chance him doing that,one thing are you still having a good sex life or has that stopped?
The problem with us men we have great sex minds, and within that we can have some great sex once we have a hard p***s in our hands, so please forgive us.
But with him in denial, he presents a hard problem, the only thing is to turn a blind eye, but dont say anything to him, if your sex life is still good, then you cant ask for much more, at the end of the day if hes not masturbating when your in the house, the only thing you can do is keep losing the pics and leave it at that, remember all men need a hobby and at least hes not going with the girls, or not going out getting drunk.
When it starts affecting your sex life with him getting mild ED, then I think you can say to time to stop.
Any help.
Good Luck