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Thinking about cheating
I need some advice. I am with my highschool sweetheart, father of my daughter, and love of my life. He is an exquisite man in ALMOST every way-understanding, patient, handsome, fun, wonderful daddy etc...The only thing is-and I hate to say it-he ***** in bed. Now, I am not a demanding woman in bed but I do enjoy a good f***, if you know what I mean. My honey is passionate but gets off too quick, doesn't rock it hard, has no rhythm, never tries places besides the bed (which I can understand since we do have a little one) and once he's done, THATS IT. I'm left out in the cold. I have found myself lately wondering if I could get some action from the neighbor down stairs, or hey, that guy looks like a good one, and this IS NOT what I want. I love my man more that anything and I want him forever, but i have certain needs and this one (one of the biggest) is so not met. It's not like I haven't confided in him, told him how I feel, even told him I don't want to cheat. I've mentioned toys, positions, etc. He avoids it and honestly I'm so bored. I do think a lot of it has to do with his insecurity and the fact that I've always been slightly more sexual of a person than he. Unfortunately, I'm starting to think "hey, its not like I didn't warn you". It breaks my heart to think that my whole life could be flushed down the drain in an instant because, god forbid me if I want it hard against the wall sometimes and it isn't from him. Please, what do I do?
the reason i said wait to 3 hours after dinner because .. your body takes time to digest the food.. if food is not digested well a man feel like full in stomach then he wouldnt have too much control over body parts... You should also try in the morning when he have morning erection...
yes slow strokes will increase the time...
yes slow strokes will increase the time...
Was he like this when he first met you, then that was something that was on you. You chose to be with him for all his other qualities but it seems you are willing to mess up everything for a good role in the hay.(now i may have worded this wrong) but you may understand what i am trying to say. Now what if you do decide to cheat and he finds out. You will mess up everything you two have build together. Now i am not bashing you, because i understand You do have needs. Now have you two tried using toys, or watching porn. Maybe take him to a strip club or one of those booths that plays movie or do that live dancing. Maybe he his willing to do these things but just dont know how to come about it.
Now thats a first-waitng 3 hours-is that kinda like waiting an hour before swimming? No, seriously, could you explain please. BTW We'll slow down the pace.
ask him to move slow in begaing during sex.. this will give him some practice to stroke more later. when he comes to peak then tell him pull out.. breath and start again.... finally in couple months he would get 30 mintues to an hour... you should wait at least 3 hours after dinner... then start sex
Good to hear, remember start slow and ease into things. Don't try to get everything you want at once. Yes communication is always key.
Hey there. Just wanted to let you know we talked about it-took your advice-and we are going to work on things-first thing,COMMUNICATION! He said he would be willing to do more, but mentioned I don't take the inititative and I do understand that. I'm glad we can both admit our faults and hopefully this situation will be resolved soon-perhaps we'll start tonight;) You were wonderful for not sugar coating and I appreciate it. Thanks again. T
Well let me know how things go. I might be able to provide further suggestion. If you want to send me a private message feel free.
Thank you for your reply. I know what you mean about cheating with a person who won't be worth it and I completely agree. The thing is I have talked to my bf a couple times about it and I NEVER speak to him by swearing. I've told him before that I just want him to "take me". In this way, I meant be more aggresive, but I don't think he can. He is soooo sensitive that he can barely move that much before getting off and honestly, I'm really not that into oral sex (it has never gotten me off no matter that partner). He has issues with displays of affection so "sex in the car" is way out the window, however I would love the excitment. He knows all this about me and just doesn't do a darn thing about it. I'm gonna talk to him again and let him know I don't want to leave but may
Well cheating could end the relationship. He will either find out or you will feel guilty and tell him. And it is never the other person fault for cheating, it's a decision you make and you are responsible for it no matter what.
How do you know this other guy is any good? What if he *****? Then you would have cheated and gotten nothing from it.
Here is my advice...talk with your bf. If he doesn't respond to talking then tell him this is something you need in a relationship and if he can't help you out then you will have to leave him. Do I believe you should leave him over sex...of course not. But you might have to open his eyes that he might lose you.
What exactly are you looking to be done to you? try to explain without swearing, just use common language like oral sex and intercourse in the car...things like that instead of blow J&b and fu&k. I can probably help more in how to approach him if i know what u want.
How do you know this other guy is any good? What if he *****? Then you would have cheated and gotten nothing from it.
Here is my advice...talk with your bf. If he doesn't respond to talking then tell him this is something you need in a relationship and if he can't help you out then you will have to leave him. Do I believe you should leave him over sex...of course not. But you might have to open his eyes that he might lose you.
What exactly are you looking to be done to you? try to explain without swearing, just use common language like oral sex and intercourse in the car...things like that instead of blow J&b and fu&k. I can probably help more in how to approach him if i know what u want.
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