I have many questions

[dolly420]

Ive seen videos where a girl is a virgin and shes doing it for the first time, and it looks SUPER PAINFUL! and im a virgin, and frankly im scared to have sex >.< But i just wanna know (not that im planning to do it anytime soon) how do u have sex? like how does it start? and where exactly does the penis go in? cuz the vaginal opening, where the hymen is, it looks like something is blocking the vaginal opening and it would hurt if something were to penetrate it...ive tried sticking my finger in there and it just hurts like hell i cant even get it half in or at all! and it feels like theres some sort of wall blocking the entrance? so how would a penis b able to go through?
OUGH! ^.^

[severin76]

"sex isn't at all what it looks like in the movies all romantic & crap. " - yes, you are right, it is much better when we get rid of all the romantic crap and other delusions which are presented in the crap movies:)

[sweetpea03]

Well sex is usually about love, though some people don't feel that way. I'm glad you're waiting, it's not something to jump into. When you find the right guy, it will go smoothly. It's not super painful, more just sore, but that will go away pretty quick. I was sore, but it wasn't painful. Don't worry about what others have experienced, yours might not be the same at all. Just make sure that the guy you are with loves you and will go slow. Good luck

[SeriousSam]

Gynecologists and I wouldn't call it a vibrator.  Dilators.

[dolly420]

Yeah thanx for that :)
Im just scared it will hurt alot
and i wont be able to take it..but i know im not ready for sex anyway
and i wont be for a long whileee. I just have ALOT of questions about it ^.^
How does it feel tho? The pain u feel the first time?

[dolly420]

Wow i didn't know doctors prescribed vibratos ;o

[dolly420]

Wow i didn't know doctors prescribed vibrators ;o

[dolly420]

Hey thanx alot for you're answer, its pretty helpful umm not that im going to try any of those things tho, im just scared of it hurting! sex isn't at all what it looks like in the movies all romantic & crap.

[dolly420]

Hey :)
well yeah i think your right on the 'dildos' i mean if i cant even get my finger in there how am i suppose to fit a dildo ;O but i know im not ready for sex and im not gonna be for a loOoOOOng time ;D I definatly wanna do it with the RIGHT person that i know i wanna be with because i think sex is ulimatley about love right? and i guess i'll just expierience it for myself >.<
thanx 4 your answer.

[dolly420]

Thanks you guys, these are all very helpful and you all seem nice and understanding.
Umm, i dont think i will be buying a dildo tho haha. Because if i can't even get my finger in there how the hell am i gonna get a dilldo in there. And i am NOT ready for sex i know im not and that im not going to be for a WHILE. I definatley don't want to be like those LOOSE girls who are going from guy to guy n ****...i have loads of self-respect! I want to do it with the right guy that i want to spend the rest of my life with..i guess i'll just have to wait and see how it feels o.O i ask all my friends who've already done and they all say it hurts but if u keep doing it, it starts to feel good? ahh it doesn't sound fun or comfortable at all! >.<

[sweetpea03]

I don't think she needs one. There isn't any reason why she can't do things without one. She's 17, pretty young. So I would say she's just not ready for sex. She has to be ready, be relaxed and know who she is with. If she has all that, then her body can be ready.

[SeriousSam]

Regarding dildos?  I have to partially agree with you but you do realize that some doctors have prescribed graduated dilators that range from very small to larger that are essentially smooth vibrators minus the motor to stretch, gradually the vaginal opening for some purposes.

[sweetpea03]

First off, I do NOT recommend buying a dildo to play around with, you can just use your finger. Second, if you've seen the videos, then you can see how sex happens. In order for yourself not to be tight and for a penis to be able to penetrate you, you would have to be relaxed, otherwise the muscles will be tight and it can be painful. If you're nervous, then it would be difficult, even to just get your finger in. You have to relax and feel comfortable with your body. Plus you would have to be turned on enough so that your body can naturally lubricate itself. Lots of foreplay is usually good. The first time can be painful and you might bleed, but not everyone does. I didn't bleed at all and I was only a little sore afterward, but it was not painful.  Don't rush into sex. It's better to wait and know who you are going to have sex with. Make sure you are physically and emotionally ready  for it. Good luck.

[onlinemaca]

it really hurts normally but after some strokes you'll ever feel the pain anymore instead you will going to feel the pleasure.

[severin76]

Hi!
First of all, I am not a woman, so I can´t share my personal experience with this "first time" and I am probably not the right person to comment it.
But I just want to help you feel less worried about sex. The first time experiences regarding losing virginity vary among girls, so in my opinion some girls can get over it easily and they might also enjoy the first sexual intercourse, while others may find it more painful or uncomfortable, but in general, every beginning is difficult and there is the highest probability that you will discover your own ways how to enjoy sexual pleasure in your life.
It also depends on the partner and his sensitive approach, understanding, maybe some kind of sexual experience or at least theoretical knowledge about female body and female sexual functions may be a great advantage.
Another point is that if you want to become more comfortable with the idea of having sex in the future, you can try to masturbate first - self-pleasuring may help you to discover which forms of stimulation bring pleasure to you, you can get more comfortable when it comes to sexual reactions etc. Penetrative forms of sex or masturbation are just one part of sex, there is also a variety of ways how you can be aroused and also reach orgasm by clitoral stimulation or by stimulating external parts of genitals, so it can be a good start instead of jumping right into penetration with some larger objects which may make you feel uncomfortable.
Of course, I agree with the idea in the previous post, dildo can be one way how to "practise" on your own before having sex with a partner. But neither you, nor your potential partner in the future should forget about the importance of feeling relaxed and aroused (sexually) before penetration. At least, at the beginning of your sexual life it can be very helpful. So, try to experience sexual arousal or orgasm also by non-penetrative forms of stimulation (clitoris, manual stimulation or oral sex with a partne), using your sexual fantasies and everything which will help you concentrate more on the pleasure than on fear or feelings of discomfort or pain.
I wish you good luck!

[gymdandee]

fingering your hymen won't work you should buy a dildo and KY jelly and take your time it will
hurt but it won't kill you make sure you use enough KY jelly to lube the dildo
check the web address below


http://www.youngwomenshealth.org/hymen.html