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Porn a Real Problem
Or how to nearly wreck your sex life in one easy lesson, I have been viewing porn on and off for 30 years, since I got my first computer 10 years ago I have been looking at porn pretty much all the time, this of course involves masturbation.
I have noticed over the past 3 months or so that it is getting harder to find porn that turns me on, I guess I have masturbated to just about all types but now searching for that buzz scene that gives satisfaction is almost impossible, I sit for hours with a half erect penis precum ozzing out of my penis but just cant find anything suitable for that great climax.
I have noticed lately that if I turn the computer off and dream about past sexual encounters etc I have no erection problems and orgasm with ease.
I have been trying to give the porn habbit away for some time, now I realize I realy need to.
This poses a question - do other forum members think the regular viewing of porn could be responsible for wrecking the viewers sex life?.
I have noticed over the past 3 months or so that it is getting harder to find porn that turns me on, I guess I have masturbated to just about all types but now searching for that buzz scene that gives satisfaction is almost impossible, I sit for hours with a half erect penis precum ozzing out of my penis but just cant find anything suitable for that great climax.
I have noticed lately that if I turn the computer off and dream about past sexual encounters etc I have no erection problems and orgasm with ease.
I have been trying to give the porn habbit away for some time, now I realize I realy need to.
This poses a question - do other forum members think the regular viewing of porn could be responsible for wrecking the viewers sex life?.
Well thats very nice, you know I havent bothered about this forum for a while, mostly because of false and misguided information given by some people, last night I recieved an email re this thread, someone had posted a reply, feeling a little bored I decided to take a look, it has taken less that 18 hours for me to understand why I stopped bothering about it, I realy dont mind what you think of me or others that watch porn, people are involved with making those movies for one reason, money, if things are so bad in the industry the performers have the same choices as I do as a viewer, give it up.
"I have been trying to give the porn habbit away for some time, now I realize I realy need to.
This poses a question - do other forum members think the regular viewing of porn could be responsible for wrecking the viewers sex life?."
I was trying to answer your question posed in your beginning post which my answer would be yes, porn can wreck a sex life. It often wrecks a relationship. I don't like porn for the reasons I stated in my other posts. It's like having a little bit of heroin....there's no such thing IMO. You take a little bit, it feels good, serve a purpose but then after a while you need more and more of it to get the original feeling. And, you will do what you have to do to get more heroin at the expense of your health and your family's health.
How was original post supposed to help others? I missed that part. Are you trying to stop people from even getting started on porn? Then why did you say that watch it b/c you love your wife and you don't want to bother her?
I've read many posts where seemingly "nice" people like to watch porn & think it's ok. I just wonder if they knew what was behind the porn movie they were watching if they would still think it's ok. One woman told me she didn't care about the people in the porn movies. Maybe that is my problem, I do care about those people and they are the ones I am trying to actually help.
I am not trying to condemn you but give you an honest opinion of your situation. You can't post a question and not expect people to answer a post in the way they feel is right now can you? This is a free public forum crazywillie. I've been chastised plenty of times. I am being honest with you however I am not condemning you b/c I think you have a problem & need to see what I see when I read your post.
This poses a question - do other forum members think the regular viewing of porn could be responsible for wrecking the viewers sex life?."
I was trying to answer your question posed in your beginning post which my answer would be yes, porn can wreck a sex life. It often wrecks a relationship. I don't like porn for the reasons I stated in my other posts. It's like having a little bit of heroin....there's no such thing IMO. You take a little bit, it feels good, serve a purpose but then after a while you need more and more of it to get the original feeling. And, you will do what you have to do to get more heroin at the expense of your health and your family's health.
How was original post supposed to help others? I missed that part. Are you trying to stop people from even getting started on porn? Then why did you say that watch it b/c you love your wife and you don't want to bother her?
I've read many posts where seemingly "nice" people like to watch porn & think it's ok. I just wonder if they knew what was behind the porn movie they were watching if they would still think it's ok. One woman told me she didn't care about the people in the porn movies. Maybe that is my problem, I do care about those people and they are the ones I am trying to actually help.
I am not trying to condemn you but give you an honest opinion of your situation. You can't post a question and not expect people to answer a post in the way they feel is right now can you? This is a free public forum crazywillie. I've been chastised plenty of times. I am being honest with you however I am not condemning you b/c I think you have a problem & need to see what I see when I read your post.
Regarding your comments-
(If you don't want to "bother" your wife with your sex, why don't you find a hobby like building homes for the homeless or working at a soup kitchen.)
Very hard to do when you live in a small community in Outback Australia.
(Or learn to paint or cook or rebuild cars.)
You are assuming that I have lots of money, I have hobbies that consume time eg Reading.
(Sex is not all there is in life).
Do you realy think I need to be told that at 64 years of age, I am not some irresponsible idiot, I have reared seven children, have 19 Grandchildren and one Great Grandchild on the way, for goodness sakes give me some credit, once again my sole intention of the original post was to help others not be condemed.
(If you don't want to "bother" your wife with your sex, why don't you find a hobby like building homes for the homeless or working at a soup kitchen.)
Very hard to do when you live in a small community in Outback Australia.
(Or learn to paint or cook or rebuild cars.)
You are assuming that I have lots of money, I have hobbies that consume time eg Reading.
(Sex is not all there is in life).
Do you realy think I need to be told that at 64 years of age, I am not some irresponsible idiot, I have reared seven children, have 19 Grandchildren and one Great Grandchild on the way, for goodness sakes give me some credit, once again my sole intention of the original post was to help others not be condemed.
Sadly I dont need anyone to tell me about sexual abuse, I was mollested as a child.
I cant help feeling that I am being judged by your comments, the world is not perfect and I seem to remember someone once said "Take the log out of your own eye before you take the speck out of your Brothers eye, I think we should leave it at that, after all my original intention was to help people not to become addicted to porn, not to judge them and certainly not to be judged myself.
I cant help feeling that I am being judged by your comments, the world is not perfect and I seem to remember someone once said "Take the log out of your own eye before you take the speck out of your Brothers eye, I think we should leave it at that, after all my original intention was to help people not to become addicted to porn, not to judge them and certainly not to be judged myself.
"Just remember some folks look at porn so they don't become a pain to someone they love"
That's an excuse if I ever heard one. You are watching sexual abuse right before your eyes. You are watching people who have been sexually abused and have been conned into thinking that this type of "acting" is an ok way to make a living. They are probably on some sort of drug to get through the sex scenes. Where your money goes, so do you.
If you don't want to "bother" your wife with your sex, why don't you find a hobby like building homes for the homeless or working at a soup kitchen. Or learn to paint or cook or rebuild cars. Sex is not all there is in life. Replace your need for porn with something healthy and you will see your desire for it disappear. When the desire hits you to have an orgasm, masturbate while fantasizing about your wife or a beautiful girl.
You could be in a vicious cycle - watch porn, get horny, go to wife & get turned down, go back to porn. If you take the first porn out of the scenerio, you are stopping the cycle.
I do not see how someone can watch porn and not get desensitized to sex. I've seen it with the men in my family and with people I know who like porn - even women. Sex is no longer associated with love, but with some a physical release that people seem to feel is necessary to living. Well, I "need" expensive jewelry but if I don't get it, I will probably live to see tomorrow. Sleep & food are what our bodies need to survive. The love of a partner is the icing on the cake.
That's an excuse if I ever heard one. You are watching sexual abuse right before your eyes. You are watching people who have been sexually abused and have been conned into thinking that this type of "acting" is an ok way to make a living. They are probably on some sort of drug to get through the sex scenes. Where your money goes, so do you.
If you don't want to "bother" your wife with your sex, why don't you find a hobby like building homes for the homeless or working at a soup kitchen. Or learn to paint or cook or rebuild cars. Sex is not all there is in life. Replace your need for porn with something healthy and you will see your desire for it disappear. When the desire hits you to have an orgasm, masturbate while fantasizing about your wife or a beautiful girl.
You could be in a vicious cycle - watch porn, get horny, go to wife & get turned down, go back to porn. If you take the first porn out of the scenerio, you are stopping the cycle.
I do not see how someone can watch porn and not get desensitized to sex. I've seen it with the men in my family and with people I know who like porn - even women. Sex is no longer associated with love, but with some a physical release that people seem to feel is necessary to living. Well, I "need" expensive jewelry but if I don't get it, I will probably live to see tomorrow. Sleep & food are what our bodies need to survive. The love of a partner is the icing on the cake.
I am the original poster of this thread, I did not mention that I have been Maried three times, my first two Wives were not compatible with me sexualy, that of course is not the main reason why they are ex, many factors lead to marriage breakups but sex is part of it, the partners I have had in the past come on strong with love making at first but it gradually wears off, after making love maybe twice a week it soon gets down to once a week then by appointment only, this of course creates a problem for the partner that is highly sexed.
My third Wife of 20 years was sexualy compatible with me for many years, she is my soulmate and I love her dearly, in her mid 50s she started to slow down sexually, now 10 years later she is not as highly sexed as she was a few years back, because I love her so much and respect how she feels I have looked at porn and masturbated for about 10 years, yes we still make love but not very often.
Why am I telling everyone that reads this, well my point is not everything with porn is black and white, I am looking at this rubbish because I love and respect my Wife, she knows I do it so there is no problem, it is not my fault that I am still highly sexed at 64 yrs of age, it is not her fault she is not as sexy at 66, thats life.
Just remember some folks look at porn so they dont become a pain to someone they love, right or wrong love is like that, my advice to others is dont look at it all the time, as for me I am doing OK without it, as mentioned in my original post fantasy is just as good.
My third Wife of 20 years was sexualy compatible with me for many years, she is my soulmate and I love her dearly, in her mid 50s she started to slow down sexually, now 10 years later she is not as highly sexed as she was a few years back, because I love her so much and respect how she feels I have looked at porn and masturbated for about 10 years, yes we still make love but not very often.
Why am I telling everyone that reads this, well my point is not everything with porn is black and white, I am looking at this rubbish because I love and respect my Wife, she knows I do it so there is no problem, it is not my fault that I am still highly sexed at 64 yrs of age, it is not her fault she is not as sexy at 66, thats life.
Just remember some folks look at porn so they dont become a pain to someone they love, right or wrong love is like that, my advice to others is dont look at it all the time, as for me I am doing OK without it, as mentioned in my original post fantasy is just as good.
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