Porn a Real Problem

[crazywillie]

Or how to nearly wreck your sex life in one easy lesson, I have been viewing porn on and off for 30 years, since I got my first computer 10 years ago I have been looking at porn pretty much all the time, this of course involves masturbation.
I have noticed over the past 3 months or so that it is getting harder to find porn that turns me on, I guess I have masturbated to just about all types but now searching for that buzz scene that gives satisfaction is almost impossible, I sit for hours with a half erect penis precum ozzing out of my penis but just cant find anything suitable for that great climax.
I have noticed lately that if I turn the computer off and dream about past sexual encounters etc I have no erection problems and orgasm with ease.
I have been trying to give the porn habbit away for some time, now I realize I realy need to.
This poses a question - do other forum members think the regular viewing of porn could be responsible for wrecking the viewers sex life?.

[mr.lucky66]

Thanks for your thoughtful post!

[mayflowers]

You got it right mrluck66.  I used to be ok with people watching porn until I met a young woman who was in a porn film and she opened my eyes to the abuse of it.   I did some research and now I see that while it may seem trivial to watch a film here and there it slowly deadens your feelings to where people become objects instead of human beings.  It just snowballs from there.  Taking something meant to bring people closer and then degrading and abusing it can't be good for a society.  Unfortunately there are a lot of broken people in this world, many of them on these forums.   I see people in denial all over the place about their relationships.    It really saddens me.

The best thing a person can do is find someone they are sexually compatible with.  That is a problem with many couples, they are too different in the sex department.  You have to have similar drives and desires.  If you have a low sex drive then a relationship won't work with a highly sexual person no matter how wonderful that person may be deep down.   There is nothing wrong with being creative but if your partner is a strict, keep still, no noise person, the relationship won't work.  If you like oral and your partner hates it, the relationship won't work.  It's so important to be compatible.  And don't settle either.  

But the best part of sex is the closeness you feel when you are with someone you really love. Knowing that this one person cares for you more than anyone else and you can be free sexually with them is a natural high.  It's an emotional bond that I believe is necessary for a good healthy life.  No porn movie will ever come close to that to making you feel that good and no porn movie will certainly ever make you feel good about yourself or other people.  Besides, I really find people that like to watch other people have sex kind of strange.

[mr.lucky66]

I agree with much of what you say! Porn is the root of much crime and comes from hell! Try real sex with a consenting adult instead.

[mayflowers]

When a person watches pornography, they are encouraging sexual abuse.  That's all it is.  The young men and women that perform in those films overwhelmingly come from sexually abusive homes.  Some have been raped at a young age thereby blurring the line between healthy sex and sex for money.  Drugs and alcohol are rampant in that industry b/c people need to dull their emotions in order to have sex, sometimes painful, and with many different people in day.

STD's are also rampant despite the fact that they are tested all the time.  Due to low self esteem, when they are off "work" they don't care who they sleep with.  Sex has become a chore or a way to get money.  It's not a way to show love and encourage close emotional bonds with a wife, husband, lover.  No, it's a way to survive.

The producers of porn will trick the actors into performing and once you have sex on film, your reputation is over.  Young girls think they are doing a modeling job but end up shooting a porn movie.  They are desparate and they are hungry so to survive the lure of fast cash becomes too much to turn down.

Here's a question for you:  Would you be proud if your son or daughter came home and said Hey Dad, I'm going to be porn star?  Would you be proud?  Of course not so why would you want to watch some other person child having sex?  That's just sick.  

I truly believe that people that enjoy commercial porn (not talking here about the hubby/wife making their own video's for their own pleasure) but commercial Jenna Jamison porn are sick and demented.  They need spiritual and emotional healing.  It is not ok to watch this filth.  

If you want to buy some toys or sexy outfits to play with your spouse, that's great.  Masturbation is fine.   Pornography is really a sign of mental illness.  You are watching other people have sex.  Is your life so devoid of any sort of happiness?  Don't you have anything better to do?  I guess not that why you do it.  

[Zilian]

Well, I think this is a good thing.

Porn should be banned from the Earth. I know it's good. Real sex is really much better, trust me. I haven't been watching porn movies for a long time now and I feel much better. It lures our minds. If you can avoid it, do it. I feel really better without porn movies. When I watch porn movies, I'm like "Oh ****, I ain't got no woman. I need to find one. I've gotta hit it." It's really annoying. Yes, stop watching porn for a long time and you'll like it again. For me, it's different. I'm not planning to watch a porn movie again. I'm single btw.

[mr.lucky66]

Porn is no good. I once knew an ex drug-porn addict. He hadn't touched either for many months and when he made the mistake of going to a adult book store, he paid dearly. He started smoking crack right way and lost everything! It's all connceted, drugs, porn, booze etc. I used to look at those mags when I was younger but now prefer a real woman instead of a magazine or computer screen