Hi I wanted to ask a few questions. I am a guy, asking more or less on behalf of my girlfriend and to get more knowledge for myself. Are you able to answer questions related to sexual life of a woman and issues related to that?
My girlfriend is 25 years old. She's beautiful and everything but she was never very sexually active, in fact, I am her first boyfriend. She did have an intercourse when she was bout 12 but that was more playing with her friend but she had lost her virginity back then. She's never had sex since then.
I am not sure how to say these things to make sure that it sounds right, English is not my primary language, but as one might expect I guess, her vagina is very tight. We have been putting my finger inside for last about three weeks and my girlfriend felt very comfortable with it and enjoyed it. We have occasionally tried two fingers, very gently, certainly not to cause even slightest pain, but they wouldn't go in. I was a bit affraid to have sex with her as my penis is rather average size but it's still way more than two fingers obviously. Now I'be always had sexually experienced and active partners so I wasn't sure how to approach this but I knew that we can't rush things. About three days ago, we have decided to try intercourse just to see if after a nice massage and long foreplay it could work. We have tride about three times, gently and slowly but I couldn't get in. At one point, I think we might have gone too far... she has experienced quite uncomfortable pain so we have stopped. Shortly after that, I think my gilrfriend had contraption, I could feel her squeezing my finger.
The next day, when I've tried to put my finger in, slowly with lubricant, even that wouldn't fit this time and she started to feel a bit of pain again so we have stopped trying even just my finger. That was about two days ago.
I am not sure whether this gives you enough information but my gilrfriend felt really bad, I was very sensitive trying to calm her down and explain her that she didn't do anything wrong and that this can be something quite normal for a girl who is starting her sexual life.
There is a lot of blogs on the internet about this toppic but I wanted to ask someone who knows more about girls physiology , age and such. What can we do so she can take me? Is there a massage technique, is there some exercise, is there something whe should be doing to open her up or something we should do on daily basis or a few times a week or so?