Sexual Health

[Becker0109]

I'm 61 years old who has had an ED problem about 4-5 years. My wife is a beautiful and sexy fifty-six years old. I was in medications for depression for almost 10 years and I got off them 32 months ago. I still take clonazepam (1mg for the day and two 1mg at night) and Metadadate (one 20mg & one 32 Mg in the morning & same at 2 Pm). I had a heart attack in late 2002. I dropped 65 pounds and see my doctor regularly. She gave me Cialis (5mg) to be taken each day and I can get an erection if my wife and I start to be intimate. Problem is, I can't maintain it to orgasm. I love my wife with all my heart and she's beautiful & very sexy. I'm the one who gets the intimacy going as she "believes it's the man's job" and I like a lot of foreplay to get her aroused. By the time I bring her to Orgasm sometimes I'm soft afterward. If I have a decent erection and penetrate I go soft about 70 percent of the time. I've asked her to help me out by doing different things but she mostly says her arm is tired after trying to manually stimulate me or her jaw locks if she tries oral. I'm in good shape and all my extensive bloodwork says I'm doing great. My testosterone is at the high "normal level." level. My wife is very inhibited and would not watch a educational sexual video nor read any material to help us try different things. I'm at my wits end and embarrassed by this. After my heart attack I was able to maintain an erection for as long as I needed to. i'm afraid to suggest things to my wife as I'm afraid she might think I'm a pervert, though I have in the past and she wondered if I was normal. We've been married for 34 years and she is not happy about me going soft but can't bring herself to go out of "her comfort zone."

[NOHARD]

Hi Becker, Well you are either still getting effects from the depression drugs you were on even though it was a long time ago, but you were on them for 10 years, and they may have done some permanate damage, the things I sent you mostly will clean you blood, clean blood gives good erections, and the DHEA and Tribulus will help the other way to erections.
Good Luck

[Becker0109]

Please reread my post. Clonazepam and Metadate are not SSRI's, There are no side effects that are sex killers. I appreciate all who have responded.

[NOHARD]

Hi Becker, you related to bom bom, Ok lets get you up and running all the way if we can, I'm 4 years ahead of you and had ED, and now in recovery, but lets start with your drugs, to give you something to do google all of them and see what the side effects are and try it with erectial dysfunction on the end, if these are for depression? they are sex killers.
So you could try the things I'm on, there all herbs and a hormone, its worked for me, and most of them are for your blood, get it running smoother and clean, I will send you some emails on them, have a read then hopefully give them a 12 week trial, if by week 6 your getting your nocternal erections back along with morning woods, there working.
Good Luck

[Becker0109]

Thank you

[remar]

You are completely normal and you want to have a normal loving sex life with your wife. If you're in great shape and everything else is alright then I think the ED may be psychological. If you're always worried about maintaining an erection it's probably going to happen, which you say it does a lot. I'm going to ask a very personal question. Do you have any problems during masturbation?  If not, then it is psychological. If you do, then it's most likely medical.