Zero Libido

[Hamburglar988]

I'll start by saying that I am a 21 year old male who has absolutely no libido. I've been having problems with this since shortly after I turned 18. I assumed it was a phase of sorts, so I've just kind of been ignoring it. However, I recently lost the ability to maintain an erection and this is the last straw. I can't take this anymore. I want to be the same way I was when I was in high school.

I don't get morning wood, I don't get blue balls when I stop masturbating because I'm so bored, I don't release pre-ejaculate, and the feeling I get when I masturbate is uncomfortable. The best way to describe it is as if I had just ejaculated and was still rubbing the tip of my penis. It doesn't feel pleasurable, just kind of irritated.

I went to the doctor and had my testosterone levels checked. Came back total 505 and I don't recall free, but it was in normal range as well. He said he couldn't raise it with medications, but I could raise it by correcting diet/activity/sleep habits etc. I've been eating right, lifting/running 4 or 5 days a week, schedule permitting, going to bed before midnight, etc for the last 2 months and I have yet to see any positive change in myself. If anything, I've gotten worse since I started.

I used to force myself to masturbate every few weeks, but now I can't even do that. I'm 21. I'm supposed to be in my sexual prime. WTF??? This is EXTREMELY frustrating, especially since nobody seems to know what's wrong. My doctor didn't have any suggestions as to causes other than hormonal. Nothing I've read online is similar to my situation. I was thinking of going to a therapist who specializes in sexual health, but I'm not sure if this is the right direction I should be going in.

Does anyone have any suggestions as to what I should do or what this might be? I just don't know what to do anymore... :(

[Ineedhelpfornow]

Hi, what happened did your libido come back?

[DrBoo40]

G'day Hamburglar988. I am a 49 year old Australian male and I too have suffered what you are experiencing. For the past 11 years I have suffered from Chronic Fatigue Syndrome (CFS) since 1999 and this alone has caused me no joy in things sexual. Well. Put it this way. I haven't had sex for 12 years now. I enjoy masturbating like most men (although for me having a partner would be much more satisfying) but often it can take a long time to climax. Depending on my energy levels at the time, I can *** quickly or it can take 10 minutes which for me is too long, annoying, irritating and tiring.


Because of CFS I have been taking anti-depressants for the past 11 years. I am certain  CFS and  depression  have caused my low libido. My testosterone levels are fine, my diet is good, and overall things are OK.  What I am trying to say Ham is that fatigue and anxiety have had an enormous effect on my sexual drive. You sound like you have had a healthy sexual history but at the moment your libido is low. I agree with David that it could be physical, psychological or both.

There are some really good forums and medical sites dealing with your very issue and I strongly encourage you to research this thoroughly. Just Google "Low Libido",  "Erectile Dysfunction", (which I would recommend you to look at first) or even "Masturbation Problems".

Let me tell you about two natural products I have taken for 4 months now and i do feel they have helped. These are available at any chemist (or drug store if you are American). I have been a skeptic of vitamins and minerals for a very long time so I have no bias in encouraging you to try these.

The first is called Brahmi 6000 Optimal manufactured by Bio Organics and other companies which claims to improve memory, concentration, helps relieve mild anxiety and fatigue. The second one I take with Brahmi is Ginkgo Biloba 2000mg made by Nature's Way and this is said to improve blood circulation. One of the reasons why men have a lack of a strong erection is because of poor blood circulation. It makes sense to me because after all, an erection is all about the pressure of blood building up in the penis. And fatigue? Well who feels like doing much when you are exhausted. I continue to take these two products once daily and I now believe I can say that it has definitely worked. My erection is stronger, although not like it was when I was in my teens and twenties. However, it is so awesome to get that firmness and intense feeling back.

I have a good balanced diet but don’t exercise due to CFS. I believe if I was able to exercise even moderately my libido would be even higher. These two vitamins only cost me 35 cents a day ($2.45 per week) which is easily manageable even for me surviving on a disability pension. Research these two products for yourself and any other natural products. Keep an open mind because, after all, there is nothing to lose and it won't harm you. And also, the best natural product anyone can take is water. Drink plenty daily.

There are thousands of men just like you and me Ham that have found remedies that have worked for them. I believe the greatest enemy to our libido ( apart from physical damage) is ANXIETY and DEPRESSION.  Whatever you do, don't sweat it. Relax! Chill out! Let your mind take you to your desired fantasies when masturbating and keep at it. I believe regular masturbation helps to maintain a good libido.

So for me the answer is Brahmi, Ginkgo Biloba, plenty of water, relaxation, healthy eating and regular exercise. Don't give up!  Keep anxiety away as much as you can and I am sure your libido will eventually return. If not, talk to your doctor about erectile dysfunction and related topics. Be frank. Say it as it is. All men want a great erection.

I hope my experience can help you somewhat. Look after yourself Ham and let us know how you are going. Remember Google is amazing.

Regards...DrBoo40

[DavidY10]

Yeah go to a GP and a therapist. If you don't get morning wood it could be something physical. Everything else sounds like it's psychological. are you single? Depression, Anxiety, and loads of other things can cause a loss of libido and a psych can help figure out what's going on.