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Me and my girlfriend have sex nearly everyday. weve ben together 2 months exactly and have probably had sex nearly 70 times in those 2 months. 2nite she told me she wanted me to use a vibrator on her and it kind of hurt me cuz it makes me feel like im not good enough. i never have a problem getting her off. she usually orgasms 2 or 3 times by the time i orgasm once. am i just having sex with her 2 much and getting old to her? i love her very much and hurts me to think im not enough 4 her
I guess josh will probably think it sounds odd to be saying she is feeling ignored or needs more attention, given that he is having sex with her every night, but josh, every woman has a vagina. There is nothing particularly special about the ability to use it. If you act like she is only there for you to come have sex with, you are implying she could be anyone. What are you paying attention to about her that is really about her uniquely? Have you learned about her interests, her plans, her opinions, her fashion sense and her family, her problems, her friends? Are you two doing anything interesting or talking about interesting stuff? The large number of times you've had sex in such a short time suggests that it would be getting same ol' same ol', to her. "He comes over and we have sex" should not be the entire description of a relationship. It's too boring!
Exactly Annie! Also you may not realize that there are ways that women need stimulating that are not satisfied by sex alone - (I'm gonna say the typical guy thing here) it can be very complicated! :-)
I'd take it not so much as a feeling of inadequacy, and much a feeling of the fact that she is so subtly telling you she needs more attention (and she may not even know it herself) and she is using a method that she knows will catch your attention - obviously did!
I'd take it not so much as a feeling of inadequacy, and much a feeling of the fact that she is so subtly telling you she needs more attention (and she may not even know it herself) and she is using a method that she knows will catch your attention - obviously did!
Well, vibrator or no vibrator (which I really think is an unimportant issue), if I had a new boyfriend who just shrugs off any hints that possibly there are other ways to spend time together with the comment "I like to do it every night." I would begin to feel a little ignored or used. What do you do to make her feel special?
I c wat u mean. but i am 21 shes the first person ive regularly had sex with so i like to do it every night. and i just felt that way because ive had no suggestions 4 2 months but now all of a sudden she wants to try a vibrator. makes me wonder if ive gotten old to her and she needs a vibrator instead. idk. she still claims to love my sex . maybe she just wanted a vibrator but it jus sounded weird to me
Maybe she just felt like using a vibrator. It might not be worth over-analyzing. Vibrators are fun, too. It's not like she asked you to do a threesome with the handsome lifeguard at the pool that she has had her eye on. I sure wouldn't waste any time being jealous of a vibrator.
That said, if I was with someone and had sex 70 times in 2 months, I would worry that the relationship would be ending soon. Maybe that feeling is what you're really picking up. Sex every day is a lot of time and energy devoted to sex, when it could be devoted to other aspects of life together, like getting to know each other, and doing interesting things together. If all you are doing is getting together and having sex, there might not be enough else happening on the emotional front. Are you worried she thinks you're not interesting? Or are you just worried that she seemed for a moment not to find you a thousand percent of her fulfillment in the sack?
That said, if I was with someone and had sex 70 times in 2 months, I would worry that the relationship would be ending soon. Maybe that feeling is what you're really picking up. Sex every day is a lot of time and energy devoted to sex, when it could be devoted to other aspects of life together, like getting to know each other, and doing interesting things together. If all you are doing is getting together and having sex, there might not be enough else happening on the emotional front. Are you worried she thinks you're not interesting? Or are you just worried that she seemed for a moment not to find you a thousand percent of her fulfillment in the sack?
I guess wat im asking is what am i doing wrong? im not tryin to be gross but i dont think size is an issue cuz im a tad above eight inches in length. but i dont want her to be unsatisfied with anything im doing so if anyone knows what the problem is id appreciate it. thanx
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