Using women for sex

[AmbassadorofAwesome69]

OK, so last Spring was the end of a year long journey to try to patch a relationship with my now ex-fiance.  I was devastated so, about a couple of months after her, I started to fall for a much younger co-worker (she was 19, I was 37) who was a cute little redhead and I was just enamored over her, a small little crush perhaps.  However, I was her supervisor so I would never flirt at work or give her any hints until MY supervisor wanted to fire her and I volunteered to take her "under my wing" [at his request] so that just fed into everything.

So, giving her a tour around the property turned into going somewhere else to talk so I could tell her what was happening "off the record".  Sure enough, when we met at the beach late at night [even though I swore I would keep it innocent] and got back into the car, we shared a very passionate kiss.  So, due to the maturity issues, I started getting texts "O, I'm so aggravated about such and such . . . " [whether it was work or her home situation since she still lived with her parents] so it was too easy to say, "Well, come over and hang out" which didn't take long before it turned into spending the night so you see where I'm going with this.  I was intrigued by this situation and trying to hide it at work but the truth was no girl/woman had turned me on that much in years.  I felt young again - making out on the couch, seducing her into taking her clothes off, finally having sex with her one time, and no one ever found out at work.  However, I got a better job shortly thereafter and moved on.  I even went to her house, introducing myself as the "mentor" I guess, but within a week's time she got a big complex about the age difference and said "I can't be friends with you anymore" which, ironically, I understood, only two days later to say "I made a mistake - age is just a number" only, again, to change her mind a couple of weeks after that.  So, I let it drop.  

So, after her I did this "rant and rave" in the relationship section of Craigslist and met, let's call her "Jill" who agreed with some basic stuff about relationships, taking it easy, maturity, and it wasn't long before e-mails turned into flirting over Facebook, dirty texts, etc.  We had so much chemistry that, the first time we met, we were basically making out on the beach.  I said in a funny way, that we needed to get out of there [that beach again!!!] before someone called the cops on us!!  We couldn't really make it anywhere before we drove around and found a dark spot in a park, made out heavier than I ever had, and she basically gave me oral sex and a hand job to completion, even swallowing.  Needless to say, the three or four dates that followed all ended up in the best sex I ever had which turned into skip the dates, have the sex, before I, for some silly reason, stopped it saying we needed to explore our feelings to see if they're real instead of just "having fun".  Well, she just wanted to have fun and that was the end of that.  

Another one also responded to the Craiglist thing - a petite Puerto Rican, let's call her "Cindy".  Cindy was cool.  We started going to the movies, everything but I wanted to treat her right, though.  But, we ended up having sex on our third date and the difference between us was size - she was like five feet tall and I'm about six and a half feet tall.  So, I got this shocking facebook message one day that she wanted to "really explore our sexual differences".  She wanted to do things that Medhelp will probably censor so just use your imagination or message me!!  LOL - So, I wanted to do it but she lived out of town so our schedules conflicted too much.

So, I felt like I was using all three women just for sex to keep my mind off my broken engagement.  I had to take time to heal but now I'm ready to re-enter the "game".  However, there is the little devil on my shoulder that says contact all three of them and just see what they say, have some fun, no big deal.  But, I think its bad karma so the little angel on the other shoulder says go with trying to form a true relationship and don't make it all about sex anymore.  

Sorry so long.  I just don't want to mess up anything good I have going for me.

[AmbassadorofAwesome69]

Well, I don't want a relationship with ANY of them so we're cool on that front - hence the problem.  Well, I figured sending a Facebook friend request was innocent enough.  No message, nothing.  Then, we'll go into "don't know what happened" and then I'll just hit them with the honesty - "Hey, if you still want to have some fun . . ."  

[Myron_Long]

do whatever you wish, just don't go around making women think you want a relationship with them or lie and say you love them when you really don't JUST to get some sex.

[AnnieBrooke]

I'd leave the kid out of it.  She'll grow up, she won't be a cute lil 19-year-old any more, you will not be as attracted, it will hurt her.  Stick with women for whom the attraction is based on less temporary things about them, such as their character and joie de vivre and personality, and not on the forbidden fruit of a large age difference.  It is not fair to take advantage of the naivety of someone who is in fact still a kid in a lot of ways.  By all means contact the other two, just do let them know you're dating around, so they don't feel you're dealing with them under false pretenses.

[thehitman357]

Man that was long. I need to sit down for a minute. Ok whatever, do them all I say. BUT, you better be using condoms. Even with oral. You don't have a girlfriend or wife so just be honest with them and take your time to see what happens. Unless your angel is telling you you will be going to hell.