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Vulva pain
I'm sixteen years old virgin and have been in a relationship with my eighteen year old boyfriend for over a year, whom I have been friends with for over two. When we "mess around" and he fingers me it tends to be painful even when I'm turned on and he only uses one finger. He can barely get two in and it is unbearable pain for me. I'm worried about never being able to have sex with him and wondering what I can do to make this experience more pleasurable. We have had oral sex but I feel like its more teasing than pleasurable. I have never had an orgasm with him which is probably a result of being in pain after a few minutes. I just don't know what to do or think.
That's right. I would still be sexual assault, though.
Yeah. Go to a doctor and see if there could be something that can be done.
She might just tell you to have sex to see if it happens again.
Yeah. Go to a doctor and see if there could be something that can be done.
She might just tell you to have sex to see if it happens again.
I had the same problem then and still somewhat do now and i'm not a virgin anymore. It's normal and if you feel like it's not than.... the best thing to do is go see a doctor and there's nothing more to that
Its statutory rape if its three years older in NY.
I have been to a gynecologist and she did an exam and everything. the only thing that hurt was when she put her finger in.
I have been to a gynecologist and she did an exam and everything. the only thing that hurt was when she put her finger in.
First off, since you live in NY, that's stagetory rape (the legal age of consent in NY is 17). Don't tell anyone that your boyfriend is 18 and you're 16.
As to your question, your pain is completely normal. Since you're a virgin, your hymen is in tact. It's a thin layer of skin that protects your vagina. When you have sex the first time, it is broken when the penis goes in...and that causes a bit of pain. Sometimes the hymen is so sensitive that even fingering can cause pain.
The only thing to do is relax. If you're too tense, the walls of your vagina contract and sometimes you can get cramps that cause pain. Use a lot of lubrication and remember, if you don't like something he's doing, just tell him to stop.
If you're still in a lot of pain, you might have an abnormally thick hymen that needs to be broken by a doctor...
Have you been to a gynecologist yet?
Where in NY do you live?
As to your question, your pain is completely normal. Since you're a virgin, your hymen is in tact. It's a thin layer of skin that protects your vagina. When you have sex the first time, it is broken when the penis goes in...and that causes a bit of pain. Sometimes the hymen is so sensitive that even fingering can cause pain.
The only thing to do is relax. If you're too tense, the walls of your vagina contract and sometimes you can get cramps that cause pain. Use a lot of lubrication and remember, if you don't like something he's doing, just tell him to stop.
If you're still in a lot of pain, you might have an abnormally thick hymen that needs to be broken by a doctor...
Have you been to a gynecologist yet?
Where in NY do you live?
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