Weird behavior

[Concernedmama11]

Hi,
My daughter is 11, my son 10 months. This weekend my daughter went to my sister in laws for new years eve and spent the night because I was sick. Her kids are 5 years old and 1.5 years old, both boys. The 5 year old and my daughter were caught under the covers messing around, my sister in law asked what was going on and they both said nothing. Well new years day the 5 year old told his mother that my daughter was touching his weiner and making him touch her boobs. I'm freaking out! Do 11 y/o girls start sexual acts like that yet? Is this learned behavior cuz she's getting or was molested? She only spends time with my brother other then her parents and occasionally my sister in law. No other men! My brothers weird but I couldn't imagine he would do this! Dont know what to do....

[kelsebby92]

I do not have any kids, I do have one on the way, and I have never been in a sitituation like that as a child. Because I do remember boys had cooties and were nasty at that age. But as I was going thru highschool I would always hear all these stories about other peoples you.get siblings saying how they are already talking about sex and stuff along those lines, it was crazy to even imagine that. And I was in highschool so it was hard to believe. Until I started babysitting an 10 year old girl, who is now 12 always talking about her Bf at the time or who she had a crush on, she would always ask me too get on the computer and I would tell her ok as long as her home work was done. One time I caught her looking at penis', i was 18 at the time and very shocked. I didn't know what to say or do just told her to get off. I did tell her mother and her mother came out and told me all the stuff she had been doing, taking cig buds trying to smoke them and looking at that stuff on the purer. Really shocked me so I sat down and had alittle talk with her as her mother asked me to because she would look up to me as a big sister. And she told me wanna smoke some weed? I was SHOCKED and said uh what? How do you know about this? And do you even know how to get it. She said people from school, just like the smoking cigs, and girls talking about penis'. She had never touched weed and told me she didn't know how to get it she thought it grew in the woods. Which was a relief to me and her mother but it was all influenced from SCHOOL. Maybe your daughter is being influenced at school also? I do know some kids are VERY rotten and are exposed to a lot of things these days.

[Concernedmama11]

Thanks everyone. It's good to hear that it may be just curiosity. It worries me that they are so far apart in age and my sister in law said that's definitly abuse so freaking out a bit. I asked her and said nothing was going on nobody has ever done anything to her but hopefully she's not covering for her favorite uncle. No more alone time for now and speaking to her dr! Thanks again!

[brokenheart_]

The same thing happened to me as a child. It is nothing more than curiosity. It is important to be careful when you talk to her. You don’t want her to feel a lot of guilt over it. It could cause bigger problems later.

[Jaz1989]

dont jump in to conclusions just yet. simply ask your daughter what is going on with her. Also it is very normal for young boys and girls to explore themselves sexual. but if she does say she was or is being molested take her out of the situation.

[AnnieBrooke]

Well, hate to say it but uncles do sometimes molest nieces.  My friend's uncle molested her all through her age about 10 through 15, before she realized it was not what every kid has to put up with, and told someone.  He even raped her brother.  So don't overlook or blow off the possibility, it is a real, if awful, possibility.  If you need a way to talk to her about it that won't make her fear to tell you the truth, talk to a counselor who specializes in working with children.