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Trying to have sex for the first time.
Hi, I've recently gotten into my first serious relationship and after a while, I've decided that I'm ready for sex. (I'm a straight female) We got everything ready; condoms, water-based lube, good timing, good atmosphere, ample arousal, etc.
Side note; I used to be scared of things entering my vagina, and have still never used a tampon or put any foreign object inside of me, but I'm completely ok and at ease with the idea of putting a penis inside me, especially since it's attached to my lovely boyfriend.
Long story short, we tried it out, started slow and everything, and I found that it was very difficult to insert him more than the head. I felt like there was a wall inside of me that really, /really/ hurt when he pushed against it. We tried a few different positions, to no avail.
I'm aware that it's my hymen, and that most of the time, it's supposed to hurt a bit the first time, and I was ready for that. But the excruciating pain that I felt wasn't normal. I'm just concerned about it, and don't know if I should just forcibly break it, with extreme pain, or go see a physical gynaecologist so that they can see what's up.
I'd really appreciate any advice you can give me!
Thanks!
Side note; I used to be scared of things entering my vagina, and have still never used a tampon or put any foreign object inside of me, but I'm completely ok and at ease with the idea of putting a penis inside me, especially since it's attached to my lovely boyfriend.
Long story short, we tried it out, started slow and everything, and I found that it was very difficult to insert him more than the head. I felt like there was a wall inside of me that really, /really/ hurt when he pushed against it. We tried a few different positions, to no avail.
I'm aware that it's my hymen, and that most of the time, it's supposed to hurt a bit the first time, and I was ready for that. But the excruciating pain that I felt wasn't normal. I'm just concerned about it, and don't know if I should just forcibly break it, with extreme pain, or go see a physical gynaecologist so that they can see what's up.
I'd really appreciate any advice you can give me!
Thanks!
Hi,
What you've described is actually common for many women during their first few attempts at sexual intercourse. It sounds like you've done a great job at being prepared for sex, but there could still be a few issues that might be causing unsuccessful penetration.
To begin with, you might be unaware that you're involuntarily tightening (clenching) your vaginal muscles at the start of penetration. The term for this is 'vaginismus', it causes extreme pain, and makes penetration nearly impossible ~ it's caused by the anticipation of pain. A few ways that you can overcome this problem would be to learn relaxation and foreplay techniques (research online) that can help you smooth the way for pleasurable sex. Remember go slow, use plenty of lube, and enjoy this time with your partner.
Something to keep in mind is that not all hymens are the same; some stretch (rupture) more easily than others, some are tough, and a few need to be looked at more closely by a doctor. If you continue to face problems with any further attempts, and feel that medical intervention could help, make an appointment with your doctor/gynecologist for a pelvic exam...
Take Care & Good Luck
What you've described is actually common for many women during their first few attempts at sexual intercourse. It sounds like you've done a great job at being prepared for sex, but there could still be a few issues that might be causing unsuccessful penetration.
To begin with, you might be unaware that you're involuntarily tightening (clenching) your vaginal muscles at the start of penetration. The term for this is 'vaginismus', it causes extreme pain, and makes penetration nearly impossible ~ it's caused by the anticipation of pain. A few ways that you can overcome this problem would be to learn relaxation and foreplay techniques (research online) that can help you smooth the way for pleasurable sex. Remember go slow, use plenty of lube, and enjoy this time with your partner.
Something to keep in mind is that not all hymens are the same; some stretch (rupture) more easily than others, some are tough, and a few need to be looked at more closely by a doctor. If you continue to face problems with any further attempts, and feel that medical intervention could help, make an appointment with your doctor/gynecologist for a pelvic exam...
Take Care & Good Luck
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