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Worried about my mistake
I recently became very drunk one night and slept with a girl I met at a bar. I had protected intercourse the entire night. I agreed to have her digitally stimulate my anus using a condom on her finger. It's been 8 days and I still have a nagging feeling when I'm sitting down. I'm very panicked I have some anal damage or STD at this point. I have never had anal penetration before and have dreaded that decision since that time. Any suggestions on what the pain is from or is it in my head? Should I worry that I may have gotten a disease if the finger condom failed and her hand was exposed? Sorry about the questions... I'm really bothered and scared by my decision.
I don't have any blood, blisters, odd discharge, yet this nagging pain in my butt. Does anybody have any advice. Thanks
I don't have any blood, blisters, odd discharge, yet this nagging pain in my butt. Does anybody have any advice. Thanks
I wouldn't be too worried. The thing is, that area is more weak and sensitive than you realize. There are hundreds of tiny little nerve endings that can rip or tear very easily. Hemmorhoids are normally formed like that. I've had anal before and it ripped me up. Hemmorhoids formed. She may have damaged a few little nerves, you might have internal or outter hemmorhoids but they should go down on their own. Or you could just be really bruised from the action. If it's burning or itching, it could also be signs of damage to the nerves. When you take a shower, let warm-hot water run over the injured area, it should help releive some of the swelling. OR if it's really bad you can get a...I think it's called a sift-bath...or something. It's basically a big bowl you can fill with water and sit in. Fill it with warm water and add EPSOM SALT. It's like 1$ at the pharmacy. It's a natural healing salt. should relieve pain and help heal faster. Couldn't hurt. Unless fluids were exchanged in that area, like saliva or anything down lower, you probably just have nerve damage.
I couldn't tell you how long it'll last but it sure sounds like you're just not used to having something up there so it's a lttle sore and tender. Shouldn't last long though. Like I said you can always check with a doctor to be sure.
Thank you for your suggestions. The phrase "nagging feeling" for me is increased soreness and increased pressure when I sit on my behind. The soreness rates on a scale of 1-2 out of 10 so it's not unbearable but is noticable. Do you have a time frame about how long this will take before it gradually goes away?
You might be a little sore from it. Assuming you both were kinda drunk she may have been stimulating you harder than you thought or realized at the time.
In order for her to have given you some kind of STD a lot of things would have to happen:
She would have to HAVE something to give you in the first place, she would have to have an open wound on her finger, the condom would have to fail somehow, and you'd have to have a cut inside your anus somewhere so the disease could be transmitted from her open wound to yours.
All that happening at the same time is very unlikely. Also, it usually (I say USUALLY) takes longer than 8 days for signs and symptoms of (a lot, but not all) STD's to show up and even then you'd be experiencing more than just a "nagging feeling" in your behind.... What exactly is a "nagging" feeling? Like a strain or a muscle sore?
You can always get it checked out by a doctor if you want to be sure. If you're embarassed to go to your own doctor you can try calling or visiting a local clinic, hospital, or Planned Parenthood and see if they have any ideas or places they can refer you to.
My gut feeling is that you're fine and probably just experiencing a little physical discomfort from a new sexual experience. Possibly it's bruised or sore or you strained something but I suspect it'll gradually go away with time.
If it doesn't go away, or if you develop any sort of rash or other symptoms you should get it checked out right away. It's always easier for a doctor to diagnose a condition when the symptoms are visible and/or active.
In order for her to have given you some kind of STD a lot of things would have to happen:
She would have to HAVE something to give you in the first place, she would have to have an open wound on her finger, the condom would have to fail somehow, and you'd have to have a cut inside your anus somewhere so the disease could be transmitted from her open wound to yours.
All that happening at the same time is very unlikely. Also, it usually (I say USUALLY) takes longer than 8 days for signs and symptoms of (a lot, but not all) STD's to show up and even then you'd be experiencing more than just a "nagging feeling" in your behind.... What exactly is a "nagging" feeling? Like a strain or a muscle sore?
You can always get it checked out by a doctor if you want to be sure. If you're embarassed to go to your own doctor you can try calling or visiting a local clinic, hospital, or Planned Parenthood and see if they have any ideas or places they can refer you to.
My gut feeling is that you're fine and probably just experiencing a little physical discomfort from a new sexual experience. Possibly it's bruised or sore or you strained something but I suspect it'll gradually go away with time.
If it doesn't go away, or if you develop any sort of rash or other symptoms you should get it checked out right away. It's always easier for a doctor to diagnose a condition when the symptoms are visible and/or active.
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