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embarassed because i was caught masterbating
im not sexually active with another person. im still a virgin and dont have a boyfriend. last month my friends older sister bought me a vibrator as a joke and its been sitting in the box up until today. i was home all day alone because my mom is gone for the weekend and my step father went fishing. i dont know why i did it but as soon as he left the house i started playing with the vibrator. i didnt do any vaginal penetration because im kind of scared about tearing my hymen(afraid it will hurt) but i was using it anally.
to make a long story short my step dad came back because he forgot something and caught me on the couch in the act. ive been avoiding him all day. i dont know what to say, he saw me naked, using a vibrator for anal sex and i think he saw me orgasm. im afraid he'll tell my mom. what should i do?
to make a long story short my step dad came back because he forgot something and caught me on the couch in the act. ive been avoiding him all day. i dont know what to say, he saw me naked, using a vibrator for anal sex and i think he saw me orgasm. im afraid he'll tell my mom. what should i do?
I see that you are 14 and at this age it is very normal to start experimenting. There is nothing wrong with what you did and many many many many other woman and girls do it. My advice is not to say anything about it, and if/when you do it again do it in your room where you know that even if someone comes home you are safe in your room.
I would question if you really had an orgasm from doing it anally unless you also had clitorial stimulation. But that is something over time you can find out many things about yourself and your body.
As for your hymen, most girls actually break there hymen well before they start having sex. Most who play/played sports will break it at that point, so probably a 50/50 chance that you don't even have one because it already broke.
I would encourage you if you have a good relationship with your mother to talk about sex. You don't have to talk about what you did but talk about sex in general so you know what to expect and when the time is right for you to have sex. Many young girls feel pressure to have sex and do it without good knowledge.
I would question if you really had an orgasm from doing it anally unless you also had clitorial stimulation. But that is something over time you can find out many things about yourself and your body.
As for your hymen, most girls actually break there hymen well before they start having sex. Most who play/played sports will break it at that point, so probably a 50/50 chance that you don't even have one because it already broke.
I would encourage you if you have a good relationship with your mother to talk about sex. You don't have to talk about what you did but talk about sex in general so you know what to expect and when the time is right for you to have sex. Many young girls feel pressure to have sex and do it without good knowledge.
Just don't say anything and act normally. You don't need to explain yourself to your step dad for what you did. Though I do find it odd that you used it for anal rather than vaginal. It would probably be more painful to use anally, than vaginally. Breaking your hymen is not hugely painful. The anus is not meant to have things go inside of it, otherwise there would be natural lubrication and there isn't.
Hey girl dont be embarressed at all. Other times do it in your room or bathroom. ive been caught to, not a big deal,,,we all masturbate. About the hymen,,,i can give u some tips ive tried myself. First use the fingers,,,finger ur hole,,,then use the vibrator.
Good luck with the masturbating,,,its alot of fun,,,i do it 4-5 times a day, love it.
Good luck with the masturbating,,,its alot of fun,,,i do it 4-5 times a day, love it.
thanks guys. i wont use it for a while. im just so embarrassed right now, but i appreciate the support. i just cant believe he happened to come in when i did orgasm, there was no way to hide it and i know he saw it. it was foolish of me to think i had the house to myself.
I wouldn't tell a soul. You can probably trust the assumption that he was just as embaressed as you were. I mean, he is not going to walk up to your mother, saying "you've got to hear what I saw your daughter do!!!"
If you feel good using it anally then even if he tells your mum, she will understand. Your fears of pain are real and so it is at least understandable why you used it the way you did.
next time, use it in an -at least- closed bedroom however.
If you feel good using it anally then even if he tells your mum, she will understand. Your fears of pain are real and so it is at least understandable why you used it the way you did.
next time, use it in an -at least- closed bedroom however.
Breaking hymen hurts and as long as it doesnt hurt or bleed anal, I'd say you are fine.
im just not going to say anything. i just dont want to be labeled a pervert. is it worse using it for anal sex than regular sex? im just afraid that it will hurt when hymen breaks
Well... I see 3 approaches.
If you have a fairly good relationship and open communication with your step dad, you could approach him... apologize for what he saw... and ask him if he could please not tell your mom.
You could approach your mom, and without delving into too many specifics, tell her that you're embarrassed because you created a situation where your step dad saw something that he shouldn't have seen. Then, if he does say something to her... she may not go too ballistic.
Or, you could say nothing... and pray that he doesn't say anything, either. Just be aware that on the long term, the uncertainty of not saying anything can weigh on you.
*Good luck and next time, do it in your room... with the door locked!
If you have a fairly good relationship and open communication with your step dad, you could approach him... apologize for what he saw... and ask him if he could please not tell your mom.
You could approach your mom, and without delving into too many specifics, tell her that you're embarrassed because you created a situation where your step dad saw something that he shouldn't have seen. Then, if he does say something to her... she may not go too ballistic.
Or, you could say nothing... and pray that he doesn't say anything, either. Just be aware that on the long term, the uncertainty of not saying anything can weigh on you.
*Good luck and next time, do it in your room... with the door locked!
I know you're frightened but don't say or do anything unless your mom says something
then just tell the truth you're a young girl and what you did is normal I'm sure your mother has
masturbated. just make sure the next time you do this in a closed and locked bedroom.
When I was a teenager I was caught by my stepmother I was embarrassed and nothing was said about it. Please don't be frightened everybody does it.
then just tell the truth you're a young girl and what you did is normal I'm sure your mother has
masturbated. just make sure the next time you do this in a closed and locked bedroom.
When I was a teenager I was caught by my stepmother I was embarrassed and nothing was said about it. Please don't be frightened everybody does it.
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