normal sexual behavior for a toddler

[khykhy]

My 4 year old had a friend over who is 5 and female like her.  I noticed that they got quiet so I looked towards her bedroom.  The door only had a crack in it so I got up & peeked n.  I c my child taking her pants off and then her friend pulling hers down and laid on the bed. I open the door all the way & asked what was going on.  They pulled up their pants as soon as I yelled.  I asked my daughter many of questions but all I got was I don't know.  She later told me that they were kissing on the lips.  This is not the 1st time I have caught her doing things I consider not normal.  Over a year ago when she was 3 her & her cousin who is 11 months older and male was caught with their pants down & him laying on with his face on her bottom.  I am very concern and thinking about getting her help before it gets worse.  I talk to her after i spanked and try 2 explain to her girls don't do that 2 other girls, when u get your own place with a male u can kiss, your clothes don't come off unless 4 reasons I gave her and when u get married they come off 4 your husband.  Need answers fast

[khykhy]

She watches TV, mostly Nick Jr.  When there is a movie playing i tell her 2 close her eyes or cover her face on adult scenes.  Never has she seen a scene w/ 2 women kissing, i don't know where that came from.  I dont peck her on the lips like i did when she was a baby n e more bcuz she went around pecking everyone on the lips.  Had 2 explain & break that habit.  I could c if it was a boy, then i would know she seen it on TV or seen me do it.  As 4 the other lil girl, i dont know what programs she has been exposed 2 on TV, computer, or movies.  Her mom is heterosexual so she hasnt seen her mom doing it either.  My child is what some say has been here b4,  so she is way beyond her years & vocabulary impeccable 4 her age.  Is there a need 4 concern or a therapist?

[sweetpea03]

Well she has to have learned this behavior from somewhere, so is she allowed to watch any tv shows, movies, on the computer, or anywhere else she can learn this kind of behavior? It's normal for young children to be curious about their own bodies and even masturbate, although they don't know that is exactly what they are doing, but her kissing another girl isn't one of the natural curiosities. That is more of a learned behavior. I wouldn't even ring up the taking off your clothes for her future husband, as that is too advanced and all she needs are very simple answers for now. For now, there is no reason for her to take off her clothes and that should be the only thing that is said. She's 4 years old and may play house as a childhood game, in which she has a "husband", so what happens then. Just keep it simple, to do not take off your clothes off around anyone.