Aa
this is alittle embarrassing
so umm me (16) and my boyfriend (17, who hasnt done things with a girl before) were messing around and we then moved things forward by wanting to do it but after almost an hour or so he couldn't get erect, so kept trying but still couldn't! and he won't go find out what's wrong cause he is a proud type person and well im concerned and want advice! please help!
well we did go and he got checked out and nothing is wrong, but i think he was nervous because of the fact he hadn't done things before and the fact i am pregnant so it would be very weird for him i suppose, we have talked and he has relaxed and is now getting an erection but still the nervousness is still there so it doesn't last long, but i'm okay with it and so is he!! :) thanks for your advice!! x
I can imagine it's VERY annoying haha, I get a little frustrated with my boyfriend, but when it used go down, I just ignored it and tried my best to get it back up by kissing him etc etc. He's probably thinking about it a lot, I'd try maybe talking to him about it, and try to like comfort him and don't make him feel bad, if the problem still persists he might have a problem and to get it checked. But like I said it's a vicious circle... it happens, he gets depressed about it, he thinks about it, the time comes again and he's thinking about it, then it happens again. Just try talking to him and try not to get annoyed with him, although it's hard not to get annoyed at the male species :P xo
well we tried again twice and still nothing, I haven't mentioned it at all since the last time we tried and i'm getting alittle annoyed I'm not gonna tell him how I feel obviously so he doesn't feel bad, all I wanna know is what could be wrong!? :(
Yeah my boyfriend used to get touchy about it, now we just laugh about it. I've done embarrassing things too, and he'll just get used to it after time :) you're welcome anytime xo
thanks alot! I was concerned cause we have tried before and I don't talk about it cause I know how touchy these sorta things can be! but thank you so much!
This is exactly the same thing happened to me! We are the same ages and he is a very proud person to do anything! Don't panic though, it's most likely because he's really nervous since he's not done anything before with a girl and because you have done things with a guy before and he wants to step up to the mark and show you a good time, that's what it was with my boyfriend, if it's the first few times you've tried it may happen. Try not to talk about it a lot and make a big deal over it because then the second time you try it, he will keep thinking about it and not want it to happen and it will just happen again, it's like a vicious circle. If it does go down, don't make a deal out of it just carry on kissing and touching and it will most likely pop back up haha! It will stop happening after he gets used to things, don't worry :)!xo
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