whats wrong with me?????

[annoumious]

when i was 14 years old my mother brother raped me. i'm now 23 years old in i've been dating this man for 4 years now. i've been pregnant by him twice in lost both babies. the doctors say my body termernated them by its self. beside the fact of my mother brother rapping me. he's the only person i've ever been with. could their be somthing wrong with me? will i ever be able to have kids? can somebody help me please????

[ducky406]

My SIL had a miscarriage at 26/27 weeks and they never figured out any idea why until 4 years later when she got pregnant with her last. My brother has RH +/- and his wife the same. So although her blood shows she's A+, she unknowingly carried the gene for Rh- and was able to conceive a baby with A- blood. She came a little early 36 weeks, healthy and beautiful. Then she got sick. Her mother's blood was still in her and her own immune system was attacking it causing her to become severely anemic. The baby almost died. Her doctors realized that this was caused because of the RH factor and have since theorized that that is what caused her miscarriage. Now if the same is true for you, the only way you will know it is if a similar story happens or your husband has RH- and you are RH+. That being said even with their youngest being sick her first few months they were able to have 2 other healthy munchkins without any real problem.  

I also have a friend who has a problem where her babies are usually trying to come out early- this is caused by a very thin cervix. Have they ruled out those physical kind of possibilities that would make it hard to carry a child during the 3rd trimester?

I'm sorry I'm not more helpful, just don't know what else could possibly cause it. The only other thing I could think of is a genetic abnormality such as a missing chromosome, but I don't know if a pregnancy would get past the first trimester if that was the case.

[annoumious]

ive been tested for many differnt reason ive had a test for t3 in t4 every time it always come back fine. they dont know what causing it. or else can they check. with my last pergnacy i was 5 in a half months pregnant in one day i woke up in so much pain. they said i was healthy in she was too. ion know what could have went wrong. ive never had in std, i dont drink, or smoke. so what does that mean?

[ducky406]

An STD can cause problems with fertility, so I suggest getting tested for common stds (although I don't think this is the cause). Besides that definitely get your thyroid and the rest of your body checked out. If your thyroid is off, that can cause miscarriages. Make sure you ask for free T3 and T4 tests as well as the standard TSH test, because they tend to be more reliable at saying what the thyroid is doing. If your body is low on a certain vitamin, that can also cause miscarriages. If your weight is off that can also cause problems too. And of course- if you and the baby's blood doesn't match that can cause a miscarriage too. (So my sister in law lost a baby because she was Rh+ and the baby Rh-)

There are a lot of things that can cause problems carrying a baby, but a lot of them are easy to be fixed once they're known. Just keep working with your doctor and you'll get there.

Good luck.

[gina204]

I suggest you have your thyroid checked, have everything involving your reproductive system checked. (But only if you can afford it or have coverage of some sort) I don't suggest you do this if you can't afford it cause don't want u to go broke. I was molested for years as a kid, been tested for many things, always turn out fine, been having unprotected sex for over 3 years and have yet to get pregnant. It could be my weight or could be the man I am with could be having infertility issues not sure but anyways I hope my advice to seek testing leads to answers for you. Good Luck!