wheres my sex drive?

[Jessa666]

Hi im a healthy 20 year old mother to a 3 and a half year old and a 5 month old.im still breastfeeding the 5 month old.it is very rare for me to feel horny and when i do feel horny it only lasts a few minutes.its like ive lost my sex drive.ive been with my fiance for 2 and a half years now and were getting married next year.i love him to death.before i had my 1st i had no problems feeling like sex,then about a year after having my 1st i started loosing my sexdrive,we used to have sex 4 times a week sometimes more (when i felt like it as he always leaves it up to me when we have sex,he doesnt pressure me) now were lucky to even have sex once a fortnight,i miss how i used to be,im too young to have these problems!i want to want him.im also on 100mg of zoloft for my depression and yes i realise anti depressants make youre sex drive slow down as well as breastfeeding but these problems have been for years now and i just want to get back to normal and enjoy my time alone with my man.please help me

[solace21]

Hi,
   Check your thyroid and other hormone levels.Ofcourse, you should not discount the age difference from 16 to 20 years, as well as the stress due to two deliveries and bringing up the kids. If no hormonal problems are  seen, it should improve over a period, after the antidepressants and breastfeeding are off.
Solace

[John987]

Hi Jessa, even without the Zoloft, this could easily be situational.  Raising two small children can easily tire you to the point of reduced sex drive.  All your "maternal hormones" are in full bloom also.  It is very common for mothers of small kids to feel much more maternal than sexy--plus they are often exhausted.  Please give yourself some more time as there is not likely a quick remedy that can get you back.  But you will feel like it again and more so than in your teens, in time.  Try to feel amorous earlier in the day also, if you haven't.
John