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My Husband Never Wants To Have Sex!
I am 24 and my husband is 25. We have been together for 8 years and married for 6. We are both healthy and have a 9 month old daughter. My problem started about 7 years ago when it seemed like my husband never wanted to have sex. Then after a while it seemed like I was always initiating it and getting turned down! He just shrugs it off and thinks that I being funny and laughs! Mean while I feel rejected and depressed. I didn't say anything for a while I pretty much let it build up for a while and then one night I had to much to drink and decided to bring up the issue. He didn't seem to think that anything was wrong with our sex life and couldn't believe that's what I was mad about! I asked him if there was something wrong with me he said no. Then I asked him if there was something wrong with him he said he doesn't think so. I suggested that he gets checked out to see if somethings wrong since he assured me that it wasn't me. Need less to say he never did and we have had about 4 or 5 more huge blow outs since then! Nothing seems to change so I don't even bring it up anymore! I don't understand it though because he is very affectionate. We are still young and I think we should be having sex more than once a month! He thinks that its not that big of a deal. I don't know what else to do!!?? He obviously is interested in sex because I find porn on our computer. I also expressed to him that makes me feel like total S*IT to know that you looking at that **** but don't want to have sex with me!! Again....I'm overexagerating!! I'm starting to think that it's going to be like this for the rest of my life! It's making me paranoid that he is cheating, so now I'm checking our cell phone bills and always watching what he does (when I can) and I don't want to be that person who is jealous but I cant help it. What do I do?
I'm 33 & just like a lot of you women who have high sex drives & are married to Mr. 3 x a month. My hubby (33) still has no response to his testosterone shots yet. I'm still pushing him to email Dr. re: it not working, pulling teeth to simply get this far. I know you said we might have another shot to go (#3).
My question is, he's played football his entire life (defensive end). There were no steriod use for sure. If he did have "damage" & that was the reason for lack of sex drive, would Testosterone shots ever work? He says he never remembers getting blasted there.
Also, is there a direct coorelation between low tes. & fertility? ( Aside from lack of sex). Have any of you women had problems getting pregnant when your hubby has low Testosterone? It scares me b/c his brother has unviable sperm & can't have kids. Am I to worry about heredity &/or low Test. playing a role in fertility?
My husband is very calculated & wont start trying to conceive until end of Nov??? I think he thinks this is a one shot deal. I suppose I shouldn't panic until problems arise. Any replies are helpful.
My question is, he's played football his entire life (defensive end). There were no steriod use for sure. If he did have "damage" & that was the reason for lack of sex drive, would Testosterone shots ever work? He says he never remembers getting blasted there.
Also, is there a direct coorelation between low tes. & fertility? ( Aside from lack of sex). Have any of you women had problems getting pregnant when your hubby has low Testosterone? It scares me b/c his brother has unviable sperm & can't have kids. Am I to worry about heredity &/or low Test. playing a role in fertility?
My husband is very calculated & wont start trying to conceive until end of Nov??? I think he thinks this is a one shot deal. I suppose I shouldn't panic until problems arise. Any replies are helpful.
My T shots have a huge curve. On shot day, which i have on saturdays for obvous reason, my libido skyrockets.
MONTHY!!!?!?!?!?!
Injected T only has a half life of 6-8 days. after a month its long, long gone. My cycle is 7 days!
I didnt see any effects till m 3rd shot.
sounds like you need a TRT specialist, this doctor evidently does not follow the 2002 AACE guidelines for hormone replacment in men.
The dosage may not be enough too, average dose is 100mg testrostone cypionate
On TRT, his testes will shut down, he must have the proper ammount from the artifical source or your doctor is going to do MUCH more dammage than good.
MONTHY!!!?!?!?!?!
Injected T only has a half life of 6-8 days. after a month its long, long gone. My cycle is 7 days!
I didnt see any effects till m 3rd shot.
sounds like you need a TRT specialist, this doctor evidently does not follow the 2002 AACE guidelines for hormone replacment in men.
The dosage may not be enough too, average dose is 100mg testrostone cypionate
On TRT, his testes will shut down, he must have the proper ammount from the artifical source or your doctor is going to do MUCH more dammage than good.
I wrote above that my husband is going on 33 (I'm 36) & he has low testosterone (one test was 200 & another 400). Regardless, it's low. He has very little desire for sex, maybe 3 x a month if I'm lucky. He's not gay nor does he take any other med's. or seeing another woman. He says his body just doesn't require as much sex as mine. It's always been lower than mine from the beginning, but not this low! I am angry and feel that there is something wrong with me, but I know there is not. I finally got him to see his family Dr. and get his 1st testosterone injection. That was 2 weeks ago & his second this past Fri. (09/21), There is NO change in him whatsoever, sex drive or other side effects.
Are testosterone shots supposed to work immediately? Are there men who get these shots and it just doesn't work? Maybe he's not getting enough of a dose? Or as often as he needs? Or am I simply stuck with begging my husband for sex & just being shot down forever? His Dr. has scheduled his next shot to be 1 mo. from now. If it's not working now it's not going to get any better next month, right? I thought the shots go out of you system in a week or so.. My main question, are there simply just men who have no succes with hormone therapy?
I'm trying to get him to go to an Endocronologist as he's just seeing his family Dr. It was like pulling teeth just to get him to get these shots. I'm hoping we'll have better luck with an Endocronologist.
Are testosterone shots supposed to work immediately? Are there men who get these shots and it just doesn't work? Maybe he's not getting enough of a dose? Or as often as he needs? Or am I simply stuck with begging my husband for sex & just being shot down forever? His Dr. has scheduled his next shot to be 1 mo. from now. If it's not working now it's not going to get any better next month, right? I thought the shots go out of you system in a week or so.. My main question, are there simply just men who have no succes with hormone therapy?
I'm trying to get him to go to an Endocronologist as he's just seeing his family Dr. It was like pulling teeth just to get him to get these shots. I'm hoping we'll have better luck with an Endocronologist.
I am so sorry to hear that others are experiencing the same thing, but I must say it feels good to know that I am not alone in my torment. I felt so justified and relieved after reading the stories posted here.
All my friends, even my mother is aware of my high libido. The wonderful man that I am in a relationship with for almost a year knew as well, and seemed to be on my page when we first met. Now we never had sex all the time.. like maybe 2 or 3 times a week...which is still not enough for my appetite. However, that only lasted about a couple of weeks, maybe 2 or 3 total, and then it was weeks and months before anything physical transpired between us. Now I am lucky if we have sex twice a month after I beg for it. It is soooo frustrating and confusing !!! T he tension and resentment in me builds up to a breaking point that forces me to Iash out at him, and unfortunaytely this is happening more and more frequently lately. I am especially angry and upset at his lack of arousal around my period, poor guy really has to seek shelter then! lol
I have thought about leaving him, or remaining friends and roommates. It seems that we should find mates that better match our drives. Isn't this fair?? I dream of daily intercourse that will never happen with him! Of course, I am not sure it is his sex drive that is the culprit. I have accused him of being gay... poor thing. The bottom line is that he doesn't deserve my hostility even though he doesn't want to address the issue and gets real defensive when I try to talk about it. I guess it hurts his male ego to think that he is not performing and lacks a libido that society deems is inherrent in all manly men. He does often reply that my bitchy attitude is the reason why he doesn't feel like doing the deed, but I am the nicest most down to earth gal that only seems to get nasty when I don't 'get what I need in the bedroom from the man that supposedly loves me.
I like what was said by a very wise contributor above that sex is a NEED-- not a want. For me, it is what drives me to wanting a relationship in the first place, since I already have a ton of friends thjat I love and cherish, but I don't have a safe sex partner that can nurture my physical needs. All I ever wanted for years now is to experience sex with the man I love Iinstead of a casual affair.
His lack of attention and ACTION leaves me feeling so undesirable and knocks my self esteem down. I think I am attractive... but I feel so ugly and fat when I get no response from the guy that I love. In fact, I know I get more acne when I am not getting any-- probably stress-- and this makes me feel even more rotten and ugly.
I would have left him by now if it were not for the fact that I seriously love the guy. This is my first serious relationship in over a decade and I do enjoybeing with him, but I cannot go on like this. So, there is my dilemma and I need some resolution soon before I loose it completely.
Please tell me someone out there might have an answer for me, or just a clue as to what I should do. As the lady that posted before me asked---- are there any success stories???? Please do come forth and share any helpful knowledge. Thanks...
All my friends, even my mother is aware of my high libido. The wonderful man that I am in a relationship with for almost a year knew as well, and seemed to be on my page when we first met. Now we never had sex all the time.. like maybe 2 or 3 times a week...which is still not enough for my appetite. However, that only lasted about a couple of weeks, maybe 2 or 3 total, and then it was weeks and months before anything physical transpired between us. Now I am lucky if we have sex twice a month after I beg for it. It is soooo frustrating and confusing !!! T he tension and resentment in me builds up to a breaking point that forces me to Iash out at him, and unfortunaytely this is happening more and more frequently lately. I am especially angry and upset at his lack of arousal around my period, poor guy really has to seek shelter then! lol
I have thought about leaving him, or remaining friends and roommates. It seems that we should find mates that better match our drives. Isn't this fair?? I dream of daily intercourse that will never happen with him! Of course, I am not sure it is his sex drive that is the culprit. I have accused him of being gay... poor thing. The bottom line is that he doesn't deserve my hostility even though he doesn't want to address the issue and gets real defensive when I try to talk about it. I guess it hurts his male ego to think that he is not performing and lacks a libido that society deems is inherrent in all manly men. He does often reply that my bitchy attitude is the reason why he doesn't feel like doing the deed, but I am the nicest most down to earth gal that only seems to get nasty when I don't 'get what I need in the bedroom from the man that supposedly loves me.
I like what was said by a very wise contributor above that sex is a NEED-- not a want. For me, it is what drives me to wanting a relationship in the first place, since I already have a ton of friends thjat I love and cherish, but I don't have a safe sex partner that can nurture my physical needs. All I ever wanted for years now is to experience sex with the man I love Iinstead of a casual affair.
His lack of attention and ACTION leaves me feeling so undesirable and knocks my self esteem down. I think I am attractive... but I feel so ugly and fat when I get no response from the guy that I love. In fact, I know I get more acne when I am not getting any-- probably stress-- and this makes me feel even more rotten and ugly.
I would have left him by now if it were not for the fact that I seriously love the guy. This is my first serious relationship in over a decade and I do enjoybeing with him, but I cannot go on like this. So, there is my dilemma and I need some resolution soon before I loose it completely.
Please tell me someone out there might have an answer for me, or just a clue as to what I should do. As the lady that posted before me asked---- are there any success stories???? Please do come forth and share any helpful knowledge. Thanks...
I have been reading up on this since I realized I was going to have up hill battle having a great sex life with someone who I dearly love, my husband. Is there a success story about this anywhere?! Has anyone had a change back to the "good old days” with a partner who is no longer on the same sexual page? Has anyone built up a great sexual relationship with someone who they had incompatibility with? I'm glad to find I'm not alone, but is there hope for our needs?
Hi. I just found this site and I am finding similarities between u guys and me. I am a 20 yr old female who has been with my fiance for 1 yr and 3 months. We use to have sex every other day, I loved it but then we moved in together and now its maybe 2 a week to less. He looks at over 50 porn sites every other day, but he never wants to have sex with me and I'm always the one wanting it but it response, "I'm sorry I don't feel like it." about 9 times out of 10 I'm turned down. I have been turned down a lot in my time and I can't stand that a man I am marrying is rejecting me every time I want him. I'm getting to the point where I want to go our separate ways so I can find someone who wants to rip my clothes off and pleasure me. I love this man but he always put his needs before mine.I even caught him talking to other women on that myspace. I'm thinking that it would be best to split up, he say he loves me and wants to spend the rest of his life with me but his actions are speaking louder than this words u know? I need advice fast. I don't see if hes so attracted to me how he can look at porn more than have sex with me. Obviously the attraction is not there. so I'm starting to think about other men. I just don't know what to do. Please help...
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