Young Pregnant and Need To Quit

[9char_maine4]

Hi. I am 17 and 10 weeks pregnant (please don't judge me) I have been smoking since I was 13 and I know that's not along time but I have tried to quit before and I couldn't do it. Now that I am pregnant I really want to quit I don't want to hurt the baby but its hard. Ilive at home and both my parents smoke and my boyfriend smokes so it doesn't make it any easier. My Doctor put a refural into the health unit that will come and councle me and give me a quit smoking kit but that can take up to a month. Can I have some suggestions on how to at least cut back before than?

[urwithkirsten]

just dont loose hope and keep motivate urself always

[UnsureMS]

I truly get what your going through as far as the stress of being young and pregnant. I was 18 when I got pregnant, some things came up that lead me to termination of the pregnancy. I regret that now, cause I am scared to try to have a child now...due to health issues.

But I do get it. During my short pregnancy I was a wreck and when stressed I felt cramps that made me not want to walk. It hurt so bad. But that is why you have to come up with stress relievers. I get that writting/drawing is hard to do when times get hard. I love to write but I stop at times due to life. I recently have realized if you make time for yourself sometime during the day just to write about your stress...it can help open your eyes to what your options are to relieve your stress and handle your life.

I am glad he tries to be there. Although, you know many people say your baby can sense the love that is being shown. I pray that he gets closer to you, and can emotionally support you too. Like I stated once already maybe he should try to quit smoking too.

Life can be rough. Being pregnant and young is just one stress that will come up in your life. Just think though of all the memories you will make with your child. That is what you both should be doing not worrying about what could go wrong. Fear only cuases more stress so don't fear what can happen live day by day. I am praying for you. Please keep in touch I feel such a strong connection to you.

Kimberly

[9char_maine4]

I used to write and draw all the time but before I met ny boyfriend I went through a really hard time and just stopped but Ill see what happens when I try again. Maybe I can get it back, it would be nice.
I can feel it when I get stressed out I get cramps, like if I get to the point where I just sit down and cry now it feels like when I get the growing cramps in my pelvic area I am so scared that I've hurt the baby which then just makes it worse. I need to find a different option then that too but sometimes (easpically with my emotions now) its so hard not to.
He doesn't show love by any means but he does show he cares, I think that because I am so early he doesn't want to get attached and then something happens. But he is there for me when I need him. And I will you are reslly nice and seem to get the idea of what I am going through, thank you so much :) i really aperciate it.

[UnsureMS]

No need to thank me you honestly just need to be taking care of yourself. Maybe when ya socialize stay away from that room. When driving open a window. They say second hand is three times worse. So staying away from smoke altogether is what you need to do.

As for when your stressed, well I turn to good when I am stressed. But if that isn't something you are interested in...well, try some meditating or writting. I know at your age I use to write in a normal to get out my stress. This could also be helpful with your baby.

It isn't good to stress when pregnant. It is hard not to stress trust me I know. Right now I am going through alot. But stressing can only harm you and your baby. So, you need to find something that works for you.

Does your boyfriend show as much love for this baby as you? If so ya are gonna be some great parents. It will be hard but stay strong let know anything else I can do for you.

Kimberly

[9char_maine4]

Thank you :) I really am trying and it's so hard :( I am not sure what to do when I get stressed and thats when I realky "feel" like I need one. And we do have a seperate room to smoke in but we also socialize in there so when people are over its hard not to smoke when we are there and everyone smokes in the vehicles. And thanks I really do care for my baby thats why I want to quit lol I know I am just repeating myself. Its just hard. Thank ypu though I feel good to have someone support me :)

[UnsureMS]

Hi there sweetie, you so young and going through alot already. Many of my relatives try to quit. I would say one thing is that of you can get your family to support your decision to quit, then ask them to smoke outside and not in front of you. Find a hobbie and let it take the place of smoking. Chew gum and find other things to take away from that need for that sensation that smoking gives you. Every time you think of smoking, picture your baby. You sound like you have a great head on your shoulders when it comes to wanting to care for your child. One more thing if your boyfriend truly wants to support you he should try quitting too. It always better to have someone to support you through. Goodluck and may god be with you.