15 y/o Daughter with depression, possible Borderline Personality

[lifeisabowlof____]

Without going into great detail, as my story would be far too long, my 15 y/o daughter has been suffering from depression for the past couple of years.  She's been in therapy for almost that long.  We have been through hell and I feel like nothing is getting better.  She develped a couple strong, unhealty attachments to an older girl as well a an older woman. She was compulsively lying, which it took her making false claims to this woman that I was abusing her, and DHS getting involved before that realization came about.  She has always been very emotional, and it seems like whenever something small happens with someone, or they don't treat her quite the way she'd like, she automatically assumes they don't like her.   She has a difficult time keeping people in her life.  She says they always leave, so she won't invest herself too deeply in any relationship, and usually ends up driving them away. There is some question about her having borderline personality, but she doesn't really have a history that would be consistent with what I have read causes it.   She had a small conflict with a couple people recently and based on her reaction to it, I feel like she's taking a huge leap backwards.  She's been pretty much failing her classes all year, and there's just no motivation to do any better.  Her room is disgusting, and I cannot get her to do the simpliest of tasks.  We started her on Fluoxetine a little over 4 weeks ago (20 mg) , but the past three days she has been nothing but tired and just laid in bed all weekend and slept.  I was told 4-6 weeks for the meds to work if they will, but I just don't see it helping. She told me last night that she has no will to live, but she doesn't have the will to die either.  She just sees nothing getting better or being worth working for.  It all seems utterly hopeless in her eyes. I too am ready to just give up, but I know I can't.

[EllieNad]

I'm nearly sixteen years old and I've been in therapy since August '09 for depression. Like your daughter, I also find it hard to let people into my life as I find it difficult to trust people after my father left eight years ago. Due to my depression I also feel a lack of motivation to do much and because of this I had to drop out of school. My sleeping pattern changes often. For almost a week I was sleeping during the day, and fully awake at night. Also like your daughter, everything seemed hopeless in my eyes too, but by focusing on the good points in my life, I have felt much happier and relaxed. I still have bad days, but who doesn't? I understand that you feel like giving up, my Mum felt exactly the same and still does some days, but you really shouldn't give in to this. Please feel free to message back.

[x89rt]

Get her something she wants. Up to a couple of weeks ago I had MANY bad days at school and I was very sad and depressed. But then I asked my parents to buy me an xbox. Ever since then, I've felt better. School still *****, I still have bad days (but not as many), and life is still crappy like always, but I still feel better. It distracts me so I don't think about all the negative thoughts, and trust me, a couple of days feeling like that will cheer her up a bit. Also, if you can, try to get her to sign up here. Maybe she'll make some friends. I did.  

[AlleyCat11]

hi i am 13 dont know much about how to handle this but there is nothing you can do just tell her that you are there for her and just you know agree with her if she says some one is being mean that's all she needs give her attention dose she take meds? srry i am not good at this but if i were her thats wat i would want and if you want to talk i am here