16 and pregnant...

[sweetpea03]

I'm just curious to know about how many people watch this show. Do you watch 16 and pregnant? or do you watch teen mom? Do you think they accurately portray what it is like to be a teen mother? Also how old are you? I'm looking for people's views on these types of shows. Any opinions/input would be be appreciated. thanks.

[sweetpea03]

I say rarely as in it's highly unlikely... meaning this case is also highly unlikely she's ready. Most are not considered the exception and I do not consider her to be the exception.

I'm sorry you've had bead experiences with doctors, but they are there for a reason. If you wait til last minute and it turns out to be serious, you have then made it worse for yourself. If you don't like your pcp, then find a new one. But do go to the doctors if something is wrong or you don't feel right.

[DellaKemp]

You just said it, Rarely. It is not common, but there are always exceptions. And the whole doctor thing is a matter of preference. I will go, but at the last possible moment. I have seen doctors misdiagnose people and they end up dying. I have no faith in doctors. I am talking about General Practitioners. Specialist, i have much respect for.

[sweetpea03]

It's good to really think through decisions, but rarely is someone at age 19 truly ready, even if they have had more life experience than others. I don't agree with giving specialized treatment to some teens, because everyone will claim to have more life experience and that they are "ready" even when they are not. Maybe she is ready and maybe she isn't, but either way, I still don't find having a baby young to be a great move.

mmm... self-diagnosing can be very dangerous. It's not a good idea to think you know what is wrong with you because with some illnesses, certain symptoms can be missed or overlooked by you that a doctor will find. It's good to be well-informed about your own health, but nothing should replace a doctor.

[DellaKemp]

Ok. I agree with that. I never said that being out of school, having money saved and a career wouldn't help in the short and long run. And no, life experiences won't fully determine if someone can be a good parent, but in certain individuals, it can. The decision that was made was thought about on a different level than another 19 year old that has not experienced anything or the life experiences did not affect them in the same way. Her life has seem to make her more aware of her decisions and what that entails. She did not just decide oh well I want a bay, because they are cute or the belly is cute or I want someone to love me or any of the other reasons that most teens think about when they decide to get pregnant at 16. Your not wrong in you opinion of waiting. But, it just didn't apply in her situation. I don't know how else to say it. If it were a different person and situation, oh best believe I would be saying the same stuff you are. It just wasn't like that.

That's why I don't go to doctors!!!! :) But when you think about it, if you go for just different common things, you already know whats wrong they just give you the term and then charge you a copay. Now Im not talking about life threatning things or things having to do with the male and female reproduction system. Or I mean I will go to the doctor if I just can't seem to figure out whats wrong with me. But for the most part, I can diagnose myself. But thats a completely different topic. :))

[sweetpea03]

Life experiences can help, but doesn't make a person "ready" for having a baby. Having things set up will help to make a person be ready, like being out of school, having money saved up, being in a career, etc. Those things really help in the short and long run.

If doctors are crap and you already know what is wrong with you, then why even go to the doctor's office? You obviously seem to know more than them... since they are only giving you a medical term for what you already know.

[DellaKemp]

Like I said, you probably wouldn't have been able handle. Did I say you wouldn't be able to handle it, no. I said probably. I can't tell you if you could or not cause quite frankly I knnow nothing about you. I respct the fact that you feel that saying that everyone should wait till they are in thier 20' and 30's to have kids and live their life kid free while that are teenagers. I agree. I don't know how many times I have to say that. Waiting is good, but if you see someone who is 19 and has more going for her than most 30 yr olds and has that stability and is able to provide and her fiance' is able to provide for their baby, then why not just be like well you seem to have it all together. Congratulations on your baby and I wish you all nothing but the best and leave it at that instead of everytime you are told, I can do this or I know how much, or I know, you always come back with more negativity. The girl is already pregnant so your abstinence and wait platform really doesn't apply. Your not talking her out of anything cause she already is. That's why I was defending her. Thought I was done talking about this, but I guess not.

And some situations, statistics are factual. Like i said, I'm not saying all statistics arent factual, but you would be surprised at how many arent. As far as the the whole Medical doctor statistic thing you said in the previous post, I quite frankly think doctors are crap. Well Not all doctors. You go to the doctor cause you are sick. You tell the doctor whats wrong with you cause you are describing to them what's wrong. You already know they are just giving you the medical term.