should i get pregnant?

[sandy828]

im 17 and been diagnosed with Pelvic Inflammatory Disease (PID), ive already had it twice and no-one knows whats caused it so its more than likely to come back again. i want more than anything to have a baby but i might not be able to because of the PID. i joined this website for advice on this question:
should i have a baby at 17 while i can rather than leave it until its too late and not have a baby at all?
it would mean leaving college and everything but im prepared to do it.
i dont want to be judged i just want advice and what you would do if it was you.

[sandy828]

my best friend is a teen mum and i lived with her for just over a year so i know exactly what its like. im not running blind into a decision. i havent even made one yet. in just want to get across that i do understand what its like. thanks for your advice tho

[Tracy21]

i agree 100% with your comment thats why i said dont jump into anything until you really think about it i do think she could have kids when shes older but she is going to do what she thinks anyway and i think we all know what she really wants to do if im wrong i will apologise but i think shes going to get pregnant no matter what anyone says on here i just hope she knows what she getting into theres no turning back. But likre i said its her life she can do what she thinks is right we can only give her our advice and move on we know what its like being a teen mum and its hard but if she thinks she can do it then we cant stop her i just hope she makes the right decision because its not a toy she can put in the toy box when she gets bored i really hope she make the right decision.

[Rosa20]

I was also a teen mum...which is why i said she will have no idea what shes getting herself into!! It very very hard work ..you being a teen mom should know how hard it is!! Did you get to finish school...i dont think the reason she wants to have a kid now is a very good one...she should have no prob having a baby later on!!

[Tracy21]

hi i was a teen mum when i had my so i was 16 when i had him and it was hard but it was my decision not anyone elses me and my sons dad split up after my son was born.
all im going to say is make the right decision for you forget everyone on here its your life there not living it but i will warn you its hard work and theres no going back if you get pregnant you made your bed so you will have to lie in it. and as for the partners age i dont think theres anything wrong with it i got with my currnet partner when i was 19 and he was 23 and i feel pregnant with my daughter 4 weks after we got together and im still with him 3yrs later. so forget about people telling you he will leave you or use will break up thats just words from other peoples mouths we done see your life and how you are with each other. all i will say is think about what your doing before you jump into anything and speak to your dr about it. i hope you make the right decision for you and no one else good luck take care x

[Rosa20]

you will have no idea what your getting yourself into if you decide to have a baby now...you may think you have it all planned out and that everything will work out just fine but to me it sounds like for you a good excuse to have a baby now...its alot of work and you will have no idea until you actaully are there or have been there and etc!! So again good luck with talking to your doctor..hes going to tell you by the way to wait...hes not going to tell you to go ahead and have the baby now...(just so you know lol)

[leighanne143]

well just please talk to your doctor because your tissue because scar tissue can be removed.

also not to sound mean or anything, but a year of being together is not a long time.  I really think it is a good idea for you to wait and find out all of your options.  I know you can go to college with a baby but it is hard to juggle both of them.  it would be easier to get 3 years under your belt and then get pregnant if you are still with the same person and want a baby then.

i am just saying this because my mom had me at 16 and she struggled.  yes she was the greatest mother ever but i wish she could have completed school and done more things before my brother and i were born.

please keep us posted with what the doctor says.