Is it possible his sex drive will never return?

[thyroidsuck]

My husband was diagnosed as hypothyroid three months ago.  He has been on levotyroxine since diagnosis, his levels are now in the low but normal range, a few weeks ago they increased his dosage.  So far there hasn't been much of an improvement in his libido, and he still cannot ejaculate with me.  I will say though, he masturbates most days, so the lack of libido might be specific to me? We are both in our mid thirties, and both work out frequently.

This issue has taken a major toll on our marraige over the years, and continues to do so despite now having a medical explanation.  Before the diagnosis we only very rarely had sex at all, and took one year off entirely. His only explanation for years was "I'm tired" despite the fact he has ample energy to work out every day.  I still feel that this has something to do with me, and I'm not convinced he would have the same sexual problems (lack of desire, inability to orgasm) with someone else.  I feel helpless and defeated at this point.  I also feel like its something we cant discuss at all or it will put even more pressure on him.  I am giving up on initiating things, since I cant seem to emotionally handle the rejection anymore.

Also, can someone with no libido explain this to me... can he actually still have feelings for me considering theres no attraction?

[benny313]

I too have this, and it is nothing to do with "LOVE" for her - but a lack of confidence of me being able to perform with her.  The longer it goes on - the more difficult it became.  I told her this, and she "surprised" me - left me get plenty of rest one day, and surprised me with a "date" night - which was all about the sex.  She arranged for a swingers couple to come meet with us - and they performed sex in the same room as us... they stayed to themselves, and the competition and thrill of knowing HE was pleasing her, brought me to full erection - and she had the night of her life!  It was about the getting plenty of rest PRIOR to, the THRILL of something exciting sexually, and the safety of pleasing my wife - all safely, and unexpectedly... worth a try, worked for us!  It also helped to restore my confidence...

[redheadaussie]

My libido went out the window pretty much 3 years ago....that's not to say I am not attracted to the person I love, just being hypo most of the time really makes it difficult to even get thrilled about spending time and energy!
  His masturbation is not a slight on you, rather he more than likely has urges but just that it is quicker and easier to just get on with it!
Seriously he probably IS tired....probably drags himself through the day, like most of us HAVE to when we work and have thyroid disease. It seriously is a different brain function to do the deed.
  I am sure it is not you, but you might want to express you feel unloved at the moment, and maybe you can come up with a sex-date night or something similar, where he isn't feeling so tired.
DO give it time, I know it is a big ask, but often it just takes time to get the levels right for hypo.
At the worst case, perhaps you need some counselling to work out your own feelings about the whole situation.
Good luck!

[Smilerdeb]

Has he had his Testosterone level checked as along with thyroid issues comes hormone issues?

I went through the no libido stage after RAI and went Hypo. Took a while to come back but it did as soon as my levels were stabilised.

Love Hubby regardless for the time being...he would be feeling inadequate and needs reassurance on your part to work through this horrible stage.

He probably loves you to death and would be feeling it too.
Hugs x

[fifteen2go]

Awww. I feel your pain. I have hypothyroid and I can relate to the lack of libido.  It really *****.  It almost makes  you fee unhuman, because it feels weird not having much desire.  From personal expirience I can say that I love the person I am with and i am very attracted to him, but sometimes the desire it's not there and I am sure it has a lot to do with this libido issue.  I am sure it's not just you, it's his thyroid issue and I say that because that is my experience too.  My lack of desire is not just him, is sex in general.  I work out too, I am on my early 30's, but you dont need sexual desire to work out, you know what I mean?  I think it's totally different.