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What is the worst thing a doc has ever said to you?
Thought I'd ask this question coz feeling fairly fed up with the "medical profession" right now, and last time I asked the question: "What was your most embarrassing experience with a doc, it was such a laugh to read the answers and it really cheered me up. So this time I'm asking: "What is the nastiest thing a doc has said to you?" Mine is this: "You are imagining your symptoms, they don't exist, it's all stress and you're imagining you are on the menopause too!" How he could say this amazes me when my FSH is sky high and I've been on a premature menopause for 3 yrs!
Oh....I have many but this was the best.
Me: "I can't breath when I walk. My throat tightens and I wheeze with exercise."
Doc: "Then why don't you ride a bike or swim."
Me: "I can't breath when I walk. My throat tightens and I wheeze with exercise."
Doc: "Then why don't you ride a bike or swim."
Our GP told us our 5 yr old son had either fast fulminating Hodskin's, advanced leukemia, or most unlikely, cat scratch fever...and we needed to prepare ourselves for the worst. After days of waiting for tests to come back...it was cat scratch fever!
This same &&^%$** GP, a short time later after seeing a mammogram report, told me I had breast cancer and should prepare for the worst (again!!!!!) since it looked very advanced. After a very rough time, crying in my husband's arms most of the night, I got the strength to look at the written report... it said "a very small benign cyst." (Later I talked with the radiologist who read it and a surgeon just to be sure I was OK).
We never went to this doctor again and I told everyone I could button hole about both incidences. Shockingly, I ran into some others with similar experience with this doctor. How do they let someone like that continue to practice medicine?
This same &&^%$** GP, a short time later after seeing a mammogram report, told me I had breast cancer and should prepare for the worst (again!!!!!) since it looked very advanced. After a very rough time, crying in my husband's arms most of the night, I got the strength to look at the written report... it said "a very small benign cyst." (Later I talked with the radiologist who read it and a surgeon just to be sure I was OK).
We never went to this doctor again and I told everyone I could button hole about both incidences. Shockingly, I ran into some others with similar experience with this doctor. How do they let someone like that continue to practice medicine?
I went to the doctor complaining of heart attack symptoms, eyes were still blood shot, sight was blurry, headache, arm felt like it was filled with cement, HR was high. The prior day sunk into the low 50's then skyrocketed in the 160's and back and forth. Urggg. Massive pains and I hit the floor and could not get up. I went to the doctors office telling her about my horrible experience the next morning with the lame reason for the apt of having a pap done (in which a class watched) and I could not lift my self up off of the table. After I told her why I actually came in. She never even checked my heart. She said:
"We have done all the test we could do 2 years ago.....You just have to bloom! If you don't feel any better over the weekend call me on Monday. If it happens again; call an ambulance and go strait to the ER. I don't have a crystal ball you just have to bloom." As I staggered out of there I thought to myself I sure hope I bloom before I wilt. LOL
Later that evening I was really mad; requested my records and came here to MH. I found out my blood work was off everywhere and my EKG's were terrible. It took me 2 months to go back to get the answers after fuming over it all.
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Another time was with my mother. She went in to have a total knee replacement on her right knee. They assured her everything would be fine and showed her the marks on her left knee. My mother panicked. We explained it was her right knee. Later they came back and said; not to worry. A lot of people do great after hip replacement! .....Mom wanting to hop out of there at this point. The doctor comes in and says don't worry do you have any last questions were just about ready. (No one had explained nothing to her and didn't even know what they were replacing for that matter) She said she had quite a few with wide eyes.
"He literally yells "you have got to be kidding" at her and ask "if she just that stupid not to understand or if she was just plainly high on something they gave her and that he didn't have time to explain everything concerning this now. Checked her left knee and stomped out." My poor mother was a wreck. The nurses were nice and said don't worry he's a great doctor and just has bad bedside manors. You'll be fine you'll see. We'll have you back on your feet in no time; I'm sure your knee replacementsss will be fine. She had the surgery two hours after this. Everything went fine. I felt so bad for her though.
"We have done all the test we could do 2 years ago.....You just have to bloom! If you don't feel any better over the weekend call me on Monday. If it happens again; call an ambulance and go strait to the ER. I don't have a crystal ball you just have to bloom." As I staggered out of there I thought to myself I sure hope I bloom before I wilt. LOL
Later that evening I was really mad; requested my records and came here to MH. I found out my blood work was off everywhere and my EKG's were terrible. It took me 2 months to go back to get the answers after fuming over it all.
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Another time was with my mother. She went in to have a total knee replacement on her right knee. They assured her everything would be fine and showed her the marks on her left knee. My mother panicked. We explained it was her right knee. Later they came back and said; not to worry. A lot of people do great after hip replacement! .....Mom wanting to hop out of there at this point. The doctor comes in and says don't worry do you have any last questions were just about ready. (No one had explained nothing to her and didn't even know what they were replacing for that matter) She said she had quite a few with wide eyes.
"He literally yells "you have got to be kidding" at her and ask "if she just that stupid not to understand or if she was just plainly high on something they gave her and that he didn't have time to explain everything concerning this now. Checked her left knee and stomped out." My poor mother was a wreck. The nurses were nice and said don't worry he's a great doctor and just has bad bedside manors. You'll be fine you'll see. We'll have you back on your feet in no time; I'm sure your knee replacementsss will be fine. She had the surgery two hours after this. Everything went fine. I felt so bad for her though.
Wow! And for the longest time I thought it was just me.
The worst for me:
PC Doc-- "I don't feel you have a problem. You just need to learn to deal with life."
Internal Meds Doc-- "You need to learn personal hygiene. You are giving yourself MRSA and I don't know why we're sitting here discussing this." My reply, "If you look at the LAB results they prove I am not giving myself MRSA. I take 5 showers a day and 3 of those I bathe with Iodine! I think you should recheck your sources." I walked out.
Endo-- "Well I feel your life just needs a routine. You're a new mom (my son is 14mo at this point) and you are a new wife (I'd been married over 2 years) and you need to adjust to the military lifestyle (which I grew up in!!!). When your life gets a routine then we can discuss maybe getting some lab work done. I'm referring you to a Psychologist."
Psych-- "Why are you here." My reply, "Because doctors know more about my body than I do apparently. I have a Thyroid issue which can't be diagnosed until I don't have stress in my life. I have chronic MRSA because I live on a Pacific Island, go to a college campus and date someone in the military...three out of four will do that to you." She cut me off and said, "Just because you live in Hawaii does not give you the right to be a racist. Get out of my office." ??? I'm still confused on this one. ???
PC Doc (here)-- I was simply telling her what I deal with on a daily basis and for some referrals to other docs. "You need to choose what problem you want fixed. I can only focus on one at a time. So do you want another child or do you want to sleep?" To which my husband replied, "Why can't we fix them all. Don't you think they are all related?" To which she kindly replied, "No. There are too many things wrong for them to be all related." His reply, "Right. Hormones are not part of the same system. I'll be sure to let the Endocrinologist know." And we walked out. And to think we waited 45 min. past our appointment time for that one!!!
For my son (which hurt me more than my doc appts):
In the ER after my son's first seizure: Peds Doc: "We're going to have to do a spinal to find out what's wrong. We think it could be menengitis." This after he'd just introduced himself without looking at my 2 mo old who was finally awake and cooing, rolling over, and giggling.
Peds GI: "Your son does not have GERD. It's all stress because he has very young, inexperienced parents, who are causing him to have GERD-like symptoms." To which I replied, "Do you have kids? How old are you? What makes you the expert?" He answered, No, old enough, and that he had a degree. I simply told him, "We are his parents, we are with him 24/7, that makes us the experts. You don't even have a child. In my eyes you are the inexperienced one." We filed multiple complaints about this doc who was stalking us to our appts! Funny how 4 mo on Prilosec stopped the Seizures and my son finally gained weight!
Feeding Specialists--Group of Docs: "We have come to the decision your son does not need Prilosec any more and does not need to be on weighted formula. The fact that he hasn't drank more than 2 oz of his bottle in any given 24 hour period for the last week is just because he isn't hungry." Ummm he was 4mo old and even trying to keep less than an ounce of water down by itself was a challenge. We left.
Most hurtful, Random GP: Asked me, "Why do you feel the need for so much attention? Your son is just fine." Less than a minute later my son had a seizure on the table in front of the doc. The doc didn't even care and told me that's normal for infants!
**** I need to find better doctors. Any suggestions??? ****
The worst for me:
PC Doc-- "I don't feel you have a problem. You just need to learn to deal with life."
Internal Meds Doc-- "You need to learn personal hygiene. You are giving yourself MRSA and I don't know why we're sitting here discussing this." My reply, "If you look at the LAB results they prove I am not giving myself MRSA. I take 5 showers a day and 3 of those I bathe with Iodine! I think you should recheck your sources." I walked out.
Endo-- "Well I feel your life just needs a routine. You're a new mom (my son is 14mo at this point) and you are a new wife (I'd been married over 2 years) and you need to adjust to the military lifestyle (which I grew up in!!!). When your life gets a routine then we can discuss maybe getting some lab work done. I'm referring you to a Psychologist."
Psych-- "Why are you here." My reply, "Because doctors know more about my body than I do apparently. I have a Thyroid issue which can't be diagnosed until I don't have stress in my life. I have chronic MRSA because I live on a Pacific Island, go to a college campus and date someone in the military...three out of four will do that to you." She cut me off and said, "Just because you live in Hawaii does not give you the right to be a racist. Get out of my office." ??? I'm still confused on this one. ???
PC Doc (here)-- I was simply telling her what I deal with on a daily basis and for some referrals to other docs. "You need to choose what problem you want fixed. I can only focus on one at a time. So do you want another child or do you want to sleep?" To which my husband replied, "Why can't we fix them all. Don't you think they are all related?" To which she kindly replied, "No. There are too many things wrong for them to be all related." His reply, "Right. Hormones are not part of the same system. I'll be sure to let the Endocrinologist know." And we walked out. And to think we waited 45 min. past our appointment time for that one!!!
For my son (which hurt me more than my doc appts):
In the ER after my son's first seizure: Peds Doc: "We're going to have to do a spinal to find out what's wrong. We think it could be menengitis." This after he'd just introduced himself without looking at my 2 mo old who was finally awake and cooing, rolling over, and giggling.
Peds GI: "Your son does not have GERD. It's all stress because he has very young, inexperienced parents, who are causing him to have GERD-like symptoms." To which I replied, "Do you have kids? How old are you? What makes you the expert?" He answered, No, old enough, and that he had a degree. I simply told him, "We are his parents, we are with him 24/7, that makes us the experts. You don't even have a child. In my eyes you are the inexperienced one." We filed multiple complaints about this doc who was stalking us to our appts! Funny how 4 mo on Prilosec stopped the Seizures and my son finally gained weight!
Feeding Specialists--Group of Docs: "We have come to the decision your son does not need Prilosec any more and does not need to be on weighted formula. The fact that he hasn't drank more than 2 oz of his bottle in any given 24 hour period for the last week is just because he isn't hungry." Ummm he was 4mo old and even trying to keep less than an ounce of water down by itself was a challenge. We left.
Most hurtful, Random GP: Asked me, "Why do you feel the need for so much attention? Your son is just fine." Less than a minute later my son had a seizure on the table in front of the doc. The doc didn't even care and told me that's normal for infants!
**** I need to find better doctors. Any suggestions??? ****
These gems are from the same rear-Endo:
"You're a nervous patient." after being in her office for 5 minutes.
"You're getting older and these things happen."
"All your symptoms are from perimenopause"
"WHY!?!?!?!" - after asking the second time to have the hormone tests done to check if my symptoms really were from perimenopause. Side note - yes I am in perimenopause. I also have chronic lyme disease, babesia, bartonella, chronic EBV and HHV-6 infections, other hormonal problems (adrenal and thyroid, which she also refused to test for), and vitamin/mineral deficiencies. Idjit!
This is from one of my holistic docs: "Now aren't you glad you had your allergy testing done here? Btw, I have the highest numbers ($$) in the practice for referring our patients to our allergies center." That was my last visit.
"You're a nervous patient." after being in her office for 5 minutes.
"You're getting older and these things happen."
"All your symptoms are from perimenopause"
"WHY!?!?!?!" - after asking the second time to have the hormone tests done to check if my symptoms really were from perimenopause. Side note - yes I am in perimenopause. I also have chronic lyme disease, babesia, bartonella, chronic EBV and HHV-6 infections, other hormonal problems (adrenal and thyroid, which she also refused to test for), and vitamin/mineral deficiencies. Idjit!
This is from one of my holistic docs: "Now aren't you glad you had your allergy testing done here? Btw, I have the highest numbers ($$) in the practice for referring our patients to our allergies center." That was my last visit.
Right after I had a sonogram to see if my pregnancy was normal, the tech called the doctor and told me to go right away. I knew something was very wrong. But, instead of the doctor saying, "sorry, you lost the baby." He said...
"You have two options: you can have a D&C or let the fetus pass naturally. Which do you want to do?"
He had neither told me that I'd had a miscarriage OR what a D & C was.
"You have two options: you can have a D&C or let the fetus pass naturally. Which do you want to do?"
He had neither told me that I'd had a miscarriage OR what a D & C was.
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