Do both your husbands have their foreskins? If so, they may have what's called a "constricted foreskin"...It is where the skin has kind of shrunken around the penis head and splits (gets something called a fissure) when it is stretched (like when they get an erection)...Even young boys get this...The only thing I know of that may work, is "bag balm", lanolin, or "udder cream"...And then, as the skin softens, have them draw the foreskin as far back off the penis head as they can...It should not be done to the point of making more fissures...They will not want to do this all at once...it may take several days, or perhaps a weeks, to get the foreskin fully stretched out...It is really important this is done...The stricture can eventually cause difficulty urinating and trapped infections...And, if they haven't, have them see a urologist...Hope this helps...
my husband seems to be having a similar problem. We've also tried different creams but nothing seems to work. I'm really scared because we don't know what could've caused this. It doesn't happen all the time only every once in awhile and after intercourse (whether we use condoms or not). We don't think it could be an STD because neither one of us has had another partner. If someone could please tell us what this is, what causes it and what we can do about it we'd truly appreciate it.