Elaine - you sound a lot like me - but that's one of the things I love about myself -- I have the ability, willingness, generosity, and kindness to help "fix" a lot of things and although I can't always fix my own problems right away, I can still help others. That's not a bad thing - just as long as you DO take time for yourself as well.........
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I find it very hard to love myself,although i do like me most of the time, I am a good person and i always put others first, I am a natural fixer, I hate to see anyone hurt or upset I always have to fix it and make it right even at my own expense,
Throughout my journey, I have learned much; one important lesson deals with this topic.
I always thought I deserved to be treated well and was quite taken aback when I wasn't. Somehow I always thought there must be something wrong with me to be treated that way and it hurt way down deep inside.
There has been a lot of self evaluation done and questions asked to finally arrive at the conclusion that the person treating me the worst .. was me. I allowed others to treat me poorly rather than drawing respectable and kind boundaries for the behavior I would tolerate. I am the one who took out their unkindness by stuffing myself with food and mentally telling myself I did not care. My value and self-esteem plummeted. As I looked back on my life and questioned why my self-esteem was so low, I soon realized I was my own worst enemy and had to change.
My earnest and heartfelt request for you .. is to examine the time you make for yourself to exercise, to eat well, to feed your inner curiosity and desires. Do you do these things for yourself? Are you as good to you as you are to others? If not .. you may want to consider that this can be a huge stumbling block in our journey to a successful lifestyle change and health.
LOVE AND HUGGGSSSSS to EACH OF YOUUUUU!!!! I BELIEVE IN YOU .. and YOU are WORTH IT!!!
And, Phil ... thanks for being a caring soul and sharing this video and your inspiring words.