abortions

[jrice123]

After having an abortion, are your chances of conceiving again slim? how long should you usually wait..and if you receive an abortion at a young age is it more dangerous to get pregnant again for you and the babies health..? could anyone please give me some real answers? thank you

[kris123]

Annie,

Amen to that!!  Great Advise.  Heal and then try to relax and enjoy being young

[AnnieBrooke]

An abortion, unless it's a back-alley abortion and gives you infection or other health issues, will not affect your ability to get pregnant again or give you a different timeline for getting pregnant again than any other woman.  Good luck, you are at the last point in your life when you yourself get to be a kid, please try to enjoy that and do things a 17-year-old can do that we old ladies cannot any longer do.  Go out, goof around, have fun.  I am so sorry that you have gone through all this trauma, and hope you don't try to substitute the feeling of nurturing a baby for the needs you have (which it sounds like your mom failed you on when you got pregnant) to be nurtured.  Try to find things that make you happy to do, and please wait on having a baby.  Again, good luck, and (((HUGS))).

[kris123]

I also read your other post.  It is very hard to make choices when you are so emotional.  The feelings you have are normal.  No one can tell you how you will feel.  You need to heal and seek out women who have had abortions and regret them.  I am going to PM with a website where you can get support.  The forum is called living with the decision.  These women will be so helpful to you and they all have felt what you are feeling.  It is much better to get support form others who have been where you are.  Check you message

[waitingwithhope]

You would want to see a doctor before conceiving again to make sure that your body is ready to handle another pregnancy and that you have healed properly, etc. I have heard of women who had no trouble getting pregnant again after an abortion and I have heard the opposite- women who have had complications or scarring which made it much harder to conceive. Your doctor would be able to really give you a good idea on how well your body has healed.
Beyond this, though, and just as important, is that you need to heal emotionally. This is the same thing for women too who have m/c...a lot of women know themselves well enough to know that you need to grieve the loss or come to terms with it before they can make a decision to get pregnant again. The time frame for this varies based on the woman, her support system, etc.
Take some time to get yourself to an emotionally good place where you can make a wise decision based on your finances and ability to care for a child. Take your time, don't worry about being pregnant again since you are so young- it can and will happen again in your future and if you get yourself into a good place in your life and in your emotions, you will be thankful that you waited.
Right now, you might be trying to fill a void- which may be why you were pregnant at one point in time at a young age- take time to see and discover what that void was, how you can fill it without a pregnancy (or a man even!) and take time to get to know  and love yourself. This is something that all women should do before taking the step and lifelong commitment into parenthood..because a baby is only a baby for a very short time and parenthood is for life! It is so much harder too to accomplish all your goals and dreams when being a young parent...so give yourself time to accomplish your dreams, goals, education and set yourself up with everything and then welcome your child into your life.

[have 2 kids]

I just saw your other post.   Please think twice about getting pregnant right now.  
Try to finish school and get a job so you can provide a stable home for a baby.
Good luck.   I'm sure this has been hard for you.

[have 2 kids]

Having an abortion most likely won't make it harder to conceive unless there were complications.     If you just had an abortion I would think you would want to be careful and take precautions so you wouldn't get pregnant again.   Obviously if you had an abortion you don't want a baby.