Any chance of pregnancy from fingering?

[Luna39]

Honestly, I feel a bit silly posting this...but I'm really scared. I'm 19 years old and have always told myself (since I was a little girl) that I would wait 'til marriage for sex. I've told my boyfriend and it's something that we both believe in, so we don't have sex...we do other things. Is there any possibility that I can get pregnant from him fingering me? If he ejaculated, touched himself, and then fingered me not immediately after...is there any way I can be pregnant? I was supposed to get my period 4 days ago and it's still not here. I feel all the symptoms I normally feel before my period....but it hasn't arrived and I've heard that period symptoms and pregnancy symptoms can be easily confused. To tell you the truth, I'm scared to death and would just like to know if there is any possibility of pregnancy. Thank you so much.

[monkeyflower]

The only way you could *possibly* be pregnant is if he ejaculated on his hand and immediately touched your vagina. That's it. He pretty much has to ejaculate either directly on your vulva or into your vagina to have any real risk of pregnancy :-)

Enjoy your sexuality. It's a normal and healthy part of being human :-)

[Luna39]

Thank you...and that didn't happen. You have no idea how relieved I feel. I know I should enjoy it more, but it being new to me and all...it scares me. Thanks for replying :)

[creative14]

I think you may be worring yourself about being pregnant. If you worry, then it can cause your period to be late. Just relax, stay calm and your period will come.

[AndiJ78]

I agree, testing is the only way to know unless your period comes. As others have said, the chances are low, but not entirely impossible.

Andi

[monkeyflower]

Oh c'mon everybody. If he didn't get semen on her vagina, there is absolutely no possible way she could be pregnant.

[Luna39]

Ah! I'd be lying if I said people's responses aren't beginning to freak me out a little bit. My boyfriend and I are always really careful when we mess around. I always make him wash his hands and if he does touch himself, I won't let him touch me. I was only asking because I'm not sure if he might've slipped and touched himself before touching me and now my period is almost 5 days late. If he did touch himself, I am positive that it was not at all a significant amount of semen...if any. I seem to have mastered the art of scaring myself and stressing myself out and I think that's why my period is late....but I'm not sure. Honestly, the mere thought of having to go buy a pregnancy test seems so weird to me. I would never be the girl that would have a pregnancy scare. I just want to get my period and know that everything is alright :(

[AndiJ78]

Hey, if people can get pg from pre-***, than they can possibly (I didn't say it was a good chance she could be) get pg from semen on hands.

Even if you aren't pg, maybe this is enough of a scare to coax you into being a bit more careful.

Andi

[Luna39]

Thanks, I guess. If you didn't really read my last post, I mentioned that I'm always extremely careful and I'm not even sure if this did occur...I'm just asking what the chances would be if it did. To be completely honest, responses like that make me want to abstain from having any kind of sexual relationship at all. I mean, compared to most teenage couples, we have a lot more respect for each other and are a lot more careful. Regardless, thanks for the response...I guess it's good to know I shouldn't stop worrying.

[Adevotee]

My magic 8-ball says "ask again later"

take a HPT

[RingUser]

Highly unlikely that you are pg.  But if you want to satisfy your mind take a test.

[monkeyflower]

You know, I've noticed that on some boards you could tell people you were on the pill, used a condom, had a tubal ligation, and you hadn't even had genital contact, and they would STILL tell you that you could be pregnant. What is behind this? Just how safe do you think people have to be? Is there an abstinence agenda at work here? Or just lack of knowledge about pregnancy risks? Seriously, I'd really like to know. This poster couldn't POSSIBLY be safer and still have a partner.

You are fine, I promise. Try posting and reading on this board: http://boards.webmd.com/webx?50@@.5987f466. The therapist and the regulars on that board are VERY knowledgeable, and the overall vibe is a very sex-positive and accurate, informative approach to sexuality.

[dandeelyon]

As Monkeyflower said, there is no way you could be pregnant based on the description of events you gave.  He would have had to have had a glob of sperm on his hand and shoved it way on up.  Sorry if that is graphic.  You have absolutely zero to worry about.

I too have noticed what Monkeyflower has mentioned.  I'm very confused by it as well.  People will say they use a condom as well as being on birth control and are still lectured.  It's very strange.  Intimacy and touch can be beautiful when shared by two people who care/love eachother.  There is nothing wrong with exploration.  

I think it's wonderful that the two of you want to wait.  It would be ok if you didn't as well.  If you have the opportunity, you may want to take a human sexuality course.  You may find it very beneficial.

[AndiJ78]

The way I look at it, if you do not want to get pg, abstinence in its truest sense is the only actual way to prevent it. Anytime there are fluids such as semen present and penetration after coming in contact with it, there holds a risk, miniscule, but still there.

I have no abstinence agenda, but I am not going to lie and say the risk is zero. Even if it is 1:1000, how you would you feel if she was the one? After telling her there was zero risk?

I feel honesty is the best policy, nothing is black and white, there always exists shades of grey. I am not trying to a ball-buster, just answering her question without blowiing sunshine.

Andi

[Aruba417]

While it's true that abstinence is THE ONLY way to not get pregnant, and there is a MINISCULE chance that you could be, I think most people would be pretty comfortable telling you that you're not prego. But if you're that worried, then getting a home pregnancy test will help you feel better. Good luck and God Bless!

[oceans3]

i know this topic in particular is very difficult to give advice on via the internet and plus its usually with young girls so its just wise/safe to be careful about how we say things.

while most of us agree its VERY rare to become pregnant based upon the situation this poster described, there will probably be someone hiding in the woodwork saying they did get pregnant this way..somehow.
i will tell you this, if you could get pregnant by fingering,id have about 15 babies right now..maybe more and so wouldnt a whole lotta gals.

if your period is not coming its most likely due to you stressing/worrying about it. if you still dont get it than i would look into another reason and contact an obgyn.

i would be confident in saying you are not pregnant based upon the situation that you described.

i do understand both sides of the fence.

[Luna39]

Thanks to every one who replied. I didn't mean to get people upset at each other or anything...it's just that I honestly didn't know where else to turn. I mean, it's not like I can ask my mom or anything. It's frustrating when you're constantly hearing a different answer from every person and it confuses me as to how I could possibly share anything with my boyfriend that I love without having someone tell me I'm at risk for pregnancy. You guys put me at ease. I still haven't gotten my period, but I have all the symptoms that I usually get every month...so ::crosses fingers::, I think I should be getting it soon. I tend to stress myself out to the point that it consumes my every thought...and I think knowing that I can relax a little will stop scaring my period away :) Thanks for everything...

[JoAnnaRF]

Try a HOT bath. That usually kicks it in to high gear for me. Plus it will do you good to just sit and relax.
I also just wanted to say that I think women hesitate about saying ,"NO You are definitely NOT pregnant!" The same way they won't say "You are definitely pregnant!"
Women are constantly told to NOT ask "Am I pregnant?" and I think it is just fear of breaking the rules. We are told NOT to answer these questions as we are NOT doctors.
I really appreciate Monkeyflowers posts and consider her VERY informed and educated but please try to understand that they are just trying to play by the rules, and like oceans3 said, the moment someone says, "No you cannot get pregnant if he is wearing 3 condoms, you are on the Pill, using spermacides and had your tubes tied." Then someone else will pop in and say, "I DID!"
There is just NO perfect answer. We just do the best we can with the info we have.
--J

[Luna39]

Hey guys. Alright, well yesterday I couldn't take it anymore so I took a HPT and it came out negative. Then I remembered that I had heard somewhere that it's better to take the test in the morning because your urine is more concentrated and if anything were to show up, that would be the best time. So I took one this morning to and it was negative. :) I'm still confused because tomorrow will be 9 days that I was supposed to get my period...and I still haven't gotten it. I've felt like I should be getting it for awhile now, but nothing. My breasts are sore and my back hurts...but it's not showing up. What's going on? Could me stressing it so much be keeping it away? Thanks

[sweet_gurl]

Hi Luna39, have you had your period yet? I am ten days late for mine, this is the first time I have ever let a guy touch me. How long can stress make your period late? I hope it is just stress, I have been quite stressed lately, that I have knots in my back whatever that means, when my boyfriend touched my back today he said he could feel them. So if I am so stressed that I have knots in my back then is there a chance it could make my period ten days late, as you do it by 28 days from the 1st day of your period? The 1st day I got my period was on January 11, and it has been 37 or 38 days now.

[Girly_08]

hey um me and my bf are always safe about having sex we use a condom every time and check it twice wen we are done and he never comes in me even if he is wearing a condom.  My period is 2 days late and i was wondering if it's late because he fingers me hard ao because we have ruff sex ?
plz i need to know help me

[Baby0924]

wow... all your stories are relating to mine. but i have been a whole month late and a few days, my mom thinks its because i might still be irregular but im  not to sure so please help me out.

p.s. my boyfriend figured me for the first time as well on may 27th. and since then i have not had my period....

please help me..!

[Kim1989]

you dont get pregnant from fingering. go to the doctor if you havent had a period in a month maybe they could find out whats wrong or maybe you are just really irregular

[Whatawoman]

You know what - I only read half the responses before it turned into an unecessary debate -  when a question is posed publicly everyone is entitled to an opinion without it being challenged by anyone but the question asker.

For me the answer is very simple -  if your period is late and you have even the smallest worry that there is a chance you are pregnant then go and take a test.... nothing anyone says will convince you that you are okay or not... jsut take a test.

Good luck and well done on your 'personal' choice to not have sex until marriage :)

[mama_35]

Hi Luna39,
    I am truly not making a comment on the pregnancy thing,  Its July, 2008,      I am a 38 yr  old female and while  I am in no way dissin anyone who had sex outa wedlock,  I did at  17,  I am just sayin HATS Off to you sweetheart.   Way to go.  Even though I wasnt one who chose to wait for marriage I sure do feel thrilled to hear that someone is waiting to give her husband the prescious gift of bein her first.  You can't go back to being a virgin.   Whether anyone here wants to admit it or  not I will,   I wish my first hadnt been the gropin of 2 teenagers who just wanted to give into hormones.  It shoulda been special   not just a roll in the hay fgor want of a better word.   Honest I cant even remember nothin that made my rite of passage to woman hood,  for want of better wording,  anything special.  I remember thinkin "now my friends can't razz me"
            Hows that for wow?    
   Of course by the time you have read this  you may have changd your mind about waiting.   And if you did thats ok too.   Good luck  no matter what you choose.